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ok so i'm letting my mom and my sister throw me a baby shower and its driving me nuts that i cant help. They told me that i shouldnt have to help out with the details but its killing me not to have an input lol but my question really is, How do i ask for the things i need for the baby without sounding too demanding...i have a gift registry but lets face it who really looks at those??? So i had the idea of sending a list with the invitations of the stuff we can always use and can have more then one of [diapers, bottles, onsies, ect.] is that a good idea???


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Desiree - posted on 01/07/2010




i wounldnt see y not but also i like the other girls idea my husband said the same thing about money and gift cards!

Angela - posted on 01/06/2010




Ettiquette shouldnt send a list....but you could send a extra note with invite saying there will be a prize drawing if people bring like a package of diapers or onsies...Thats how I normally handle all the showers I throw!
Good Luck!
Have a Happy Shower!!

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I'd argue that people really do look at the registries. At my baby shower, I didn't get one thing that was impractical, and actually only had to make one return out of everything I got - a pack of diapers from my brother-in-law who didn't realize that a size 5 diapers will not fit a newborn, lol. I think you'll be surprised by how well people do shopping for a baby shower. Anything big like a crib, bedding, bouncers, etc., people will almost ALWAYS check a registry to make sure that they're getting what you picked out. For little things like onesies, bottles, blankets, etc., they might wing it a little more, but odds are good they'll do great without a list.

I'd say stick with a registry and print out registry cards to have your family put in the invitations - that way every guest will have the card to instantly pull up your registry at whatever store it's from. Putting a list in might seem a little more like you're being pushy about what you want instead of letting people decide on their own what to get you. I went with the registry cards in my invitations, and I made out like a bandit at my shower, lol.

Lindsay - posted on 01/06/2010




i wouldnt add a list, like most have already said, moms know what moms need and they will most often bring useful gifts, but if not, keep tags and return what you can, or sell it to a second hand store, a lot of places give you pretty good cash for unused items.

Teria - posted on 01/04/2010




i think thats a great idea...2 of my friends did it for their babyshower...i am doing a registry and most of the people that will be there also have an idea on what i need

Staci - posted on 01/03/2010




I always look at the registry...I wasn't aware that people don't! I got nearly everything I registered for at my shower. I just listed the two stores I was registered at on the invite...I got some other things too that I didn't register for, but most people went to the registry for what to buy. I have never been to a shower where people didn't buy up everything on the registry...Just trust that people aren't going to give you useless things. They want to help you be prepared for the baby in the way you want to be prepared. It isn't really polite to send them a list of wants since that sounds demanding of gifts - just register and trust that your guests will look at it.

Medic - posted on 12/30/2009




you can always put registered at ... then put where ever your registered at

Danielle - posted on 12/29/2009




People don't look at your registry??! I always buy presents by registry so long as they've registered anyway. Its what I will be doing. Just make sure on the invite it says where you are registered at and make sure to register at a few different places to give people options where to shop and to make sure you have high end and low end priced stuff so they can buy whatever according to their own budgets.
Another suggestion is if you'd rather be in more control what particular things you get, just do a gift card/money only shower (again, make sure to put that on your invites), that way you can just use the cards/money the buy the exact stuff you want yourself.

Stacy - posted on 12/29/2009




I found at my shower that I got very practical gifts because that's what I registered for. Yes, I did put some more expensive things on there, but got most of what I needed. And people that didn't come sent gift cards so I got the more expensive things with those. I don't know if I'd send a list - I know if I got one I'd be thinking "doesn't she have a registry?" Just keep the registry simple, have a variety of price ranges so every budget can be met and have a registry at a couple locations. Mine were at Target and Babies R Us.

And as for being involved in the shower, sit back and relax about it. It's your day for the baby so all you should have to do is show up, eat, open presents, and eat cake. My mom called me to ask me what food I wanted and all that and I told her I just want to show up and that's what she has the girls who were in my wedding for. I didn't hear another thing about it and had a great time just visiting with my family and friends on the day.

Becky - posted on 12/29/2009




People will surprise you with their practicality, I think. I was surprised at how much useful stuff I got at my first baby shower. I was expecting a zillion photo albums and keepsake items. As long as there will be moms at your party, you'll be good. Almost everyone at mine was a mom and I don't think I got ANYTHING I couldn't use. If you're one of the first of your group of friends/family to have a baby recently, I'd say that list is an awesome idea, though.

Yelitza - posted on 12/29/2009




I've never seen anyone do that but it sounds like a better idea then the unrealistic registries.... i say go for it but i have been known for being tacky... lol

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