C-section or Vaginal Delivery?

Jannelle - posted on 02/15/2011 ( 12 moms have responded )

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I'm 33 weeks pregnant with my 2nd child and have been given the option to have a c-section instead of a vaginal delivery. My husband and my immediately family seem to be leaning towards the c-section due to complications with my son. I was in labor for 12 plus hours and pushed for 2. He had the cord wrapped around his neck twice and around his forehead once and came out gray. The doctor who delivered him basically told me he prayed I would never have anymore children but he is not my current OBGYN because I moved. Oh, he would be so angry if he knew but I wish he was my current doctor because my doctor here is making me decide and not helping with a decision. My son was only 6 pounds 9 ounces at birth and this baby weighed in at 4 pounds 9 ounces at a 32 week ultrasound. My doctor has estimated him to be around 8-9 pounds at birth.
Fortunately, my son is very healthy but my mother's labor with my sister was just as hard and she is mentally and physically disabled due to the same complications but was born over 30 years ago. Some people are telling me the 2nd baby will be easier than the first but I'm just not sure what to do. If he is going to be that much bigger and I wasn't dialating properly with a 6 lb baby I'm afraid of a c-section after a vaginal attempt. Sorry this is so long but I am so scared and have a big choice to make. My gut is telling me to go with a c-section but doesn't that mean I'm going to be "out of commission" for even longer? please help, any advice or c-section experiences of your own to help me will be greatly appreciated.

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Jannelle - posted on 02/17/2011

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Thank you everyone. You have definately helped me. I'm still thinking about it and researching it but research doesn't give me personal experiences. I appreciate all your responses.

Angela - posted on 02/16/2011

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I was so scared Jannelle, scared out of my mind. I had never had any surgeries before,so i was Horrified! but if you keep in mind what a C-section will bring you: your beautiful baby,your fears will dwindle away,your nervousness may be there but just remember it will all be okay.

Angela - posted on 02/16/2011

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You should do whats best for your baby,If your First baby had complications,doesent mean your second one will,but if you have any gut instinct that you fear that something will go wrong,go with the C-Section.

I just gave birth to my daughter September 2010 and I had to have a C-section cause on my second to last Dr. Visit she flipped and became Breached and it was too late to turn her so I had the C-section.

Iam going to be completley honest with you,It was no picnic,but in turn nothing is...After you have a C-section you have to go into a recovery room and then to your assigned room...you recovery time can be anywhere from 3-8 hours depending on your body and how fast the anesthesia wears off. You will have a catheter inserted cause the anesthesia they give you is like an epidural it numbs you compleltey from the sternum down, and you cant feel anything even if you go pee. I stood in the hospital for 3 days,they wanted to keep me for 4,I said no way,Im fine. Which I was. Your first time trying to get up after your C-section and after the anesthesia wares off, is weird,cause your legs kinda feel a lil like jello and you cant walk up right,right away cause your scar is sore and well it stings and hurts,and you still bleed after a C-section just like normal as you would if you give "regular" birth.
My doctor gave me a list of things I couldnt do cause I had a C-section, I couldnt clean,do laundry,have sex or lift anything for 6 weeks.
Im not sure what state or country you live in,but I live in california and when I had my C-section,They strapped my arms down(they did that incase I had a seizure due to the anesthesia) and they put a mask over my face for oxygen,when My daughter came out I was not allowed to hold her or touch her and I wasnt able to see her until I came out of recovery. My fiance also had to be by my side 24/7 while I was in the hospital cause I wasnt able to get up and change her diaper or pick her up when she cried,when I fed her,he had to hand her to me.

Was it all Worth it? ABSOLUTLEY. Cause I got a Beautiful Daughter out of it and WHATEVER it took to get her here safely.

I hope this helps! good luck to you :)

Cyndel - posted on 02/16/2011

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I would do a lot of research, even getting a second opinion to see what another OB would suggest.
Personally I would try for a vaginal delivery but wait until at least 41 weeks before inducing (In reality your not truely late until 42 weeks) try to let your body begin naturally as it will work better when your body is ready and not forced.
If you do go natural then I would suggest highering a doula, a doula is a trained birth partner, to help you and also your husband through the birthing experiance. most doula's support and help you through any type of birth you need even c-sections. Though some doula's specialize in natural unmedicated births. She could help you get the information to make the right decision for you and your baby.
That being said. If a c-section is what you really need, go for it, but don't be pushed before you've done your research. They are amazingly safe now but it is major surgery and shouldn't be chosen lightly.

Look into the complications of your first birth, and find out how likely it is that it would happen again. Did they induce artificially and early? And your sons size could have been part of the problem Bigger babies, as long as they aren't too big are actually easier to deliver, as the baby tends to help a little using his/her legs.

Any way the best way to make a good decision is be well informed through doctors, books, and reputable sites on the internet. Perhaps even talk to a midwife tell her your history, she might give you some perspective on how you can have a good natural birth inspite of past complications and possible complications. I hope this helps you! Good luck.

Sharon - posted on 02/16/2011

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I had a c-section for our son, but not due to any sort of complications like you had. Basically my issue was I couldn't dialate past 4cm and he wasn't engaging, or even getting close to it. I was given the choice this time round, and we opted to go for a scheduled c-section as late as possible (which will be my due date) so I could give my body the chance to go into labour on it's own, then I'll try for a vbac, if possible. But, I had no complications.
It's such a hard decision to make, and yes, you will be 'out of commission' longer with a c-section, but personally I would probably be swaying towards a c-section if I were you, purely due to the possible complications.
But in the end, I think the best thing is to go with your gut instinct.
Good luck :-)

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Jannelle - posted on 02/25/2011

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It wasn't the 12 hours of labor it was the 2 hours of straight pushing. I made this post to ask for advice not to be told my labor was easy in any way. I could have gone into detail about blood splatter everywhere and my son almost being declared dead but I figured I would leave out some of the more disturbing details. It was traumatic for me. However, I am now closing the conversation because I have already come to my decision.

Amy - posted on 02/25/2011

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12 hours of labor really isn't that long. sorry.

i've had a c-section, i've had a vaginal birth. I'd try a vaginal over a c section any day - especially if I have other children to care for.

Jannelle - posted on 02/24/2011

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Brianna, he had horrible bedside manner and was joking..in a way. Excellent doctor but horrible sense of humor. He did say that my sons delivery was one of the more difficult ones he had done. Also, the cord was not the only issue because he mentioned that I have a narrow pelvis. Thank you for your input.

I've made a decision and am NOT going to schedule a c-section. I am going to wait until I go into labor and if I am not dialating properly and they have to induce me like last time then I will have a c-section but I am going to wait until the day he is ready to come out.

Again, thank you everyone who helped.

Brianna - posted on 02/23/2011

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i really dont understand why ur doctor said u should have more child?.. the cord being wrap was a random thing to happen and unlikely to happen again. if i was you i would have a natural birth

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Personally unless the doctor told me I had to have a c-sec I would always opt for a vaginal birth. The second baby is usually easier to birth because you have already had a baby. I would try and have a birth with as little intervention as possible (induction, water breaking etc) because that may have added to your complications, let your body do things as naturally as possible (take pain meds if you need them though :-) ).

I would speak to your OB and ask why he is giving you the option of a c-sec, is it because you are nervous about a repeat of what happened last time, so to reduce your anxiety he is gving you this option or is it because he feels the complications have a good liklihood of reoccuring? Or is it because this OB just wants you to have your baby quickly and a c-sec is he quckest option for him?

Ultimately though what we would do is irrelevant, only you know what you went though in your last labour, and so only you can decide whether or not to opt for a c-sec. Whatever you decide make sure you have the facts about the potential risks you may be subjecting both you and your child to (I know you are researching already, maybe speak to some other maternal medical people for their advice on what to do - such as a midwife, another OB etc).

Stephanie - posted on 02/17/2011

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Hi. I had a c-section, and I absolutely loved it! It was actually very nice. I was on my own for 4 days a week while my sons dad was away for schooling, and I still managed everything okay. You just aren't supposed to drive for a while, or lift heavy things. If you have a history of problems then a c-section would definitely be safer. I know a lot of women who think it's cheating, but I say keeping your baby healthy is number one. I think that a c-section would be very good for you especially if you have help. Good luck, and if you need to know anything just ask.

Jannelle - posted on 02/16/2011

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With my first delivery my water broke at 8 am and I didn't give birth until after 9pm. Sometime in the afternoon evening I was induced because I wasn't dialating. I finally started pushing around 7 and ended up blacking out for 3 minutes of it where they were in the process of prepping an OR. Came to and finally pushed him out. Thank you both for your input. I'm going to do some more research on c-sections to hopefully ease my mind because I have a feeling that is what is necessary even though I'm scared.

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