Cutting The Cord

Amber - posted on 01/31/2011 ( 19 moms have responded )

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hello ladies. i am 9 weeks pregnant with my second child. my first son is from a previous relationship, so this is my husband's first :) we're so excited. the only thing is...he really wants to cut the umbilical cord when the baby is born. my problem is, i am going to be having a c-section, and him cutting the cord makes me really uncomfortable. i don't know if i want him seeing me all sliced open like that, mostly because i'm afraid he won't be able to andle it & freak out. if he freaks out, i'll freak out and i don't want to freak out! i'm going to be lying there trying not to think about being sliced open, so for him to go all pale & pass out/puke/etc. or say anything at all to make me panic would kind of ruin that for me. but he says he really wants to do it, and it's been a touchy subject. i got mad at him and said NO but now i'm not sure....should i let him even if it makes me really uncomfortable? what would you do?

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Stephanie - posted on 03/09/2011

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if he wants to cut the cord then let him, maybe talk to your dr about options for him to cut the cord see what the drs says. just let him know your concerns,you still have quite a bit of time to tak about it!

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Amber, this video was posted in PDHT and I thought of you and this post, at just after 8 minutes it shows the daddy cutting the cord during a c-sec - it was a reallyhelpful video I thought, I hope it helps :-)

Ashlee - posted on 03/08/2011

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I'd let him! If the doctors will, I don't know if you can still do that in a C-section. But if it means that much to him, if it's something he want's to have the satisfaction of doing for the rest of his life, I say let him at it. My husband wanted nothing more but to cut the cord, but when the time came, he got nervous after seeing them cut me and decided on his own not to do it!

Brianna - posted on 03/05/2011

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i didnt think that the doctors would let u cut the cord with a csection

Amber - posted on 03/04/2011

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thanks! don't be too worried about the section, it's not so bad :) they give you nice drugs. when my son came out i was like "hmmmm.....baby? what baby? i'm on a cruuuuuise!"

Erin - posted on 03/01/2011

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Whatever you (Or the baby!) choose, I wish you the best of luck!

Im hoping I wont need to go for a C section, but ive got previa this pregnancy, and it hasnt moved up yet, so it might not :o

Amber - posted on 03/01/2011

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i've actually been entertaining the idea of a VBAC. we shall see, baby will ultimately decide for me because if he/she is breach, i won't be bothered to have him/her turned.

Mary Renee - posted on 03/01/2011

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I'm sure you've already heard it before but you might be able to have a VBac if that's something you're interested in. I'm not going to push it because you know more about your body than I do of corse! haha.

I was born via cesarian (in the 80s) and my little sister was schedule to be a c-section too (since they didn't push for a lot of VBacs back then) But my mom started to go into labor two weeks early and my sister was born vaginally and totally healthy after just 3 hours of labor - a half an hour after she got to the hospital! The doctor didn't even get there in time. Boy, he was mad because I guess he really wanted to do a c-section but my sister had a mind of her own and both her an my mom were really happy it happened that way.

Amber - posted on 03/01/2011

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thanks ladies. i think i have to let him now LOL

and in response to Mary, i had one with my first and i'm pretty sure i'll be having one with this baby. i have complicated pregnancies.

Shana - posted on 02/18/2011

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My husband is the father of all my 4 boys...adly he didnt get to cut the cord til our 3rd son was delievered (eldest wasnt breathing at delievery so the midwife HAD to intervene, #2 was born at home and agaian ambulance officers HAD to intervene)
He was so proud and it gave him chance to feel like a part of the whole thing...its something speical for daddys. But talk it over with him, but I agree with Toni

"If it makes you uncomfortable having him see you cut open why not discuss it with the doctors and see what they think and what generally is their experience of men cutting the cord after c-sections.

I would be inclined to let him do it because it is the only thing he can do in child-birth expecially if your having a c-sec. "

Erin - posted on 02/17/2011

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Your husband is probably over the moon with excitement about his first blood child being born, that the thought of seeing you sliced open probably doesnt even phase him!
Dont psych yourself out about it, let him know why you are reluctant, and see what he has to offer you for reasurrance!
If you happen to bring up valid points he may not have thought of, you may save him from something he didnt know he was getting himself into. If he has already thought of everything and more, then you have a wonderful man on your hands who wants to do everything he can for you in this pregnancy. You know the daddys can only do so much, and are usually jealous of the moms anyway!

Jane - posted on 02/14/2011

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have him watch some tv shows and then let him decide after he talks w/the doctor and nurses - b/c the nurse will have to take care of picking him up off of the floor if he faints.

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If it makes you uncomfortable having him see you cut open why not discuss it with the doctors and see what they think and what generally is their experience of men cutting the cord after c-sections.

I would be inclined to let him do it because it is the only thing he can do in child-birth expecially if your having a c-sec.

Mary Renee - posted on 02/09/2011

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I think you should let him do it. He's your husband, you shouldn't have to worry about feeling uncomfortable for him seeing you cut open, I think the only thing going on in his mind will be "I'm a dad! I'm a dad!" and this just happens to be how my baby is coming into the world.

I think you should definitely let him cut that cord, it's so great that he's so excited to be able to participate and you should encourage that excitement. We carry them for nine months and get to feel them kicking inside of us and all that joy, if cutting the cord is his joy, then give him that.


I know this might be off topic, but how do you already know at 9 weeks that you're going to have a C-section?

p.s. as a side note... I had a vaginal delivary and I totally pooped a little when I was pushing (most people do! there's a lot going on down there while you're pushing) and I'm not even MARRIED to my boyfriend and he saw that!!!! I mean, it could have been mortifying if I was worried about it but I was just thinking about having my baby and pushing. You know what my boyfriend said when it happened? "Ok! Now you're pushing right... keep doing like that, ok? Go Mary Go!" Hahahahahahahahahaha. So I guess he wasn't too grossed out.

Stifler's - posted on 02/07/2011

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i really wanted my partner to cut the cord, but it wasn't possible he was helping me stand up so i could give birth and the midwife ended up doing it. if he really wants to i'd let him.

Stephanie - posted on 02/06/2011

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My hubby was really nervous about being in the room and was dead set against cutting the cord but when the time came, he was right in there watching our daughter's head come out and he did end up deciding to cut it at the last minute. Mind you, it was a vaginal delivery but I don't think it would've changed things. It's a very powerful moment and no matter how you want things done, they may change at the last second.

Nikki - posted on 02/01/2011

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I have had both experiences. my daughter was a vaginal delivery and hubby said he didn't want to cut the cord but decided he wanted to once in the situation. My son was c-section and he cut the cord then too.

My husband is really squeamish around blood and needles but I think he was so focused on our baby boy it didn't even register that I was cut open, he even took pictures of them delivering my son. I think if he wants to, there is no harm.

Amber - posted on 02/01/2011

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see, i thnk if it was a natural birth i'd feel different, but since it's major surgery...that's the part that makes me uneasy, really.

Jennifer - posted on 01/31/2011

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I think the daddy should have the right to as long as he wants to. He can always change his mind once he's in the situation. My husband is a HUGE wuss..he can't even get his finger pricked without passing out if he sees it!! But he did GREAT during our first child's birth and he cut the cord with no problem!! Planning on the same with this baby :)
Maybe tell your husband all the reasons you have for saying no and if he is positive he can handle it and can watch what he does/says without scaring/freaking you out, I see no reason why he shoud be denied the privelege.
I think when the dad actually wants to be involved in that process and does things like that, its amazing. There's not a whole bunch that want to do it.
If I were you, I'd talk it out with him and he can always change his mind once he's in the position. :)

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