Early labor - How to deal with the frustration of wanting baby to come but wanting them to stay in so they can have a healthier start?

Ashley - posted on 11/21/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I am 36 weeks 5 days now... I went into premature labor at 35 weeks 2 days, they stopped it and I have been having regular contractions ever since. I keep getting into a regular rhythm of contractions every 8 minutes, strong, not painful but horribly uncomfortable, this will last for an hour or two and then just stop altogether. I have been back to the hospital thinking he was coming 3 times now,with the same pattern happening as far as the contractions are concerned...

When I went into premature labor I ended at 3 dilated, 50% efaced, and -2 head position. A weeks and 3 days later I am still dilated 3, now 50-75% efaced, and he is still at -2 head position. I am exhausted from having regular contractions and nothing happening with them as of yet. Also now I can feel him pushing on my pelvic bones which is really painful. I was put on bed rest last week and this week and was told I could return to work at 37 weeks if my son hasn't arrived yet. I am debating on that as financially we could really use the money, but with the lack of sleep and easily being exhausted I don't know if I could handle returning to work or not... Especially since I have a job that the pay is based off of how much data you enter. I can type really quickly, but don't know if I can keep my speed up with regular contractions going on.

I am conflicted with wanting my son to arrive and wanting him to stay in longer so he can have the healthiest start possible. I don't want his lungs, brain or intestinal tract to be underdeveloped due to him coming too early. While at the same time, my selfish side, wants him to come because I am tired of being uncomfortable and in pain at times. I can't sleep for more than an hour at a time and am just exhausted now... For anyone else who has gone through this, how did you try to be patient and let things go naturally? I don't want the stress to effect him and I'm trying not to stress about it...

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Ashtyn - posted on 11/24/2012

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Oh I know exactly how your feeling I'm 17 and pregnant with twin girls and my water started leaking at 23 weeks and I have a funneling cervix... now I'm 26 weeks and sti in the hospital and will be untill I have my girls... I want them to be born now because I'm so miserable. but I know if they came now it would be hard for them and I want them to be healthy so i preoccupy myself with homework and pregnancy books and ordering baby stuff online. it's hard but hang in there my friends come and watch movies with me and my boyfriend. comes and "sneaks" food to me lol but it's not as bad as it sounds I just try to stay upbeat about it all and soon enough I will have my girls with me and I just hope they are healthy and happy best of luck to you

Ashley - posted on 11/25/2012

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I'm glad not to be in your shoes... Staying on bed rest for two weeks about drove me crazy... Laying around and letting everyone else do everything for me has been extremely frustrating as I am usually the one who does things for others. Hearing others stories makes it easier to hold out and wait. I am 37 weeks and 1 day now so they won't stop my labor this time, but now he has decided he doesn't want to come I guess. My contractions have become very strange. They are now to where they will get steady at 4 minutes for about half an hour, then start waning back off until they are every 10 minutes again and they stay at 10 minutes pretty much all the time. They just won't get closer together and stronger and stay that way. I feel like I am being teased... LOL. Oh well, I can wait I suppose... Good luck with your girls!! Children are such a joy.

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Ashtyn - posted on 11/25/2012

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thank you, It's like he comes down a little and then goes back up lol... yeah I'm getting so bored and I haven't walked in 3 weeks which is crazy... and taking a shower here is weird because I have tons of monitors on me and I'm not suppose to stand up in there... I feel like they are just really over protective moms lol..

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