Feel like I can't do this anymore.

Jennifer - posted on 08/22/2010 ( 17 moms have responded )




I am 38 weeks 4 days along. I have had a somewhat complicated pregnancy and have went into pre-term labor multiple times. The last time I went into pre-term labor was at 35 weeks and I only dialated 1cm, 50% effaces and baby station +1 before the contractions stopped progressing me. The doctor told me I would never make it to my due date, and yet I am only 1 week and 3 days away from then.
I am so uncomfortable and constantly in pain. I can't sleep or eat or seem to do anything to make myself feel better. I am also experiencing some depressions due to all of this. I can't take it anymore. I was more than ready three and a half weeks ago, and now nothing is happening. My doctor has only said that we will talk about induction after my due date, but I don't know if I can make it that far. I am so frustrated with myself and my inability to cope with these last couple weeks. I feel like such a whiner, but I know my limits. And I am stretched so far beyond my physical and emotional limits right now.
I have tried walking, the exercise ball, etc. and nothing seems to be doing the trick. I want to ask my doctor to induce me, but I don't know if he will do it. And I KNOW that it is better for the baby to stay in as long as possible. I have heard it over and over. To be quite honest, I don't need to hear it again. So if you could, please refrain. Thank you.
I am losing the rest and nutrition that this child and I live off of and I don't think that is exactly safe either. I need some kind of advice as to what to do to help alleviate the discomfort, move things along, or get my doctor to give me a little help getting things going. I am at my wits end right now.
Is anyone else at this point right now? I feel so alone in my pathetic misery. Any advice is welcome. I am just looking for some support and need to know that I'm not losing my mind. Lol!


Stephanie - posted on 10/01/2012




I know exactly how you are feeling right now. I feel the same way and I'm only 32 weeks. I feel like everyone thinks I'm being a whiner about this pregnancy as well but I don't know what to do I cannot tolerate this discomfort.

Tina - posted on 08/22/2010




just being pregnant takes a toll on us physically and emotionally.. first of all remember you are definitely not alone in all of these feelings you are having.. the longer we go the rougher it is on us.. especially when we've had complications. I understand that too.. been there with preterm labor. Talk to your doctor and tell them how you are feeling.. tell them about the discomfort and the stress.. you are right in that its not good for you or the baby.. maybe your doctor will make suggestons or as someone else said talk to a nurse or midwife. maybe they will be willing to go ahead and induce.. you never know until you actually talk to them and lay it out on the table.. don't be scared.. your doctor is working for you and the health of both you and your baby.. good luck to you and I hope you get some relief soon.. take care!

Sandra - posted on 10/05/2012




I would try and see if you could be induced. i went my whole pregnancy and i was only a fingertip dilated. and i got sent to the hospital my 39th week of being pregnant to be induced.

Kimberly - posted on 10/25/2013




yes i am having exactly the same issues! im 39 weeks and i have been having nothing but pain all in my abdomen and lower abdomen and i have just been feeling very depressed and anxiuos because of this too, i got to the point that i was crying soo much that my nose just started bleeding! (not mixed with mucus or anything, just straight blood) it got me worried but only happend once last week, iv been wanting to have her early too and am only a centimeter dilated, her head is down but she has not even dropped yet! and they estimate her weight to be about 7lbs already! i keep telling my midwife how i feel when i see her and she just goes its normal and you gotta hang in there, im just like wow... so idk even what to do... my mom suggested that i just go to the ER and tell them that i can't take it anymore and just have the baby already, but idk if theyl do that just cuz im having pain and anxiety? i dont want to go and for them to just send me home saying its normal and hang in there even tho im crying and everything.

Marquita - posted on 09/03/2013




Im also 32 weeks and I just cant take it no more. Im really considering asking to be induced at 38wks


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Dedegyrl69 - posted on 12/03/2013




im 31 weeks pregnant went into labor a few days ago i was only finger tip. i got the steroids for my sons lungs and every since then ive been so sick. feeling faint all the time,blurred vision,nauseous,pressure,pain inside my vagina. i just want to have this baby. im so sick im always in bed barely able to take care of my other 2 kids. which both were premature but very healthy. i just want this to be over already

Elysia - posted on 09/05/2010




you are def not going insane. with my 2nd pregnancy my doctor told me that i would go early as bubby was engaged from about 33weeks i ended up being induced at 40weeks 3days due to blood pressure other wise they would of let me go longer and i also had a 15month old toddler to contend with. I found showers helped ease the discomfort i used to just sit on the floor of the shower and allow the water to hit my tummy and if your back sore get on all fours and let the water run over your back. In the end i was havin up to 6showers a day just to get comfy. Sadly unless something is medically wrong they arent likely to bring on your labour but they do recomend sex as the prostoglandins (or something like that) in the semen can help dilate a ready cervix and nipple stimulation is supposed to help as it releases the hormone that brings on labour. There are other wives tales such as rasberry leaf tea and castor oil etc but they arent proven or recomended by midwives. good luck and i hope you little bundle makes an apperance very soon

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Hey hey! I wonder where you are by now, you must have given birth already? just for the sake of answering, it may help for the next pregnancy: it is normal to feel down at the end of the pregnancy as the hormones decrease. you can take evening primerose oil to help with the crankiness/feeling down. apart from that, also eat plenty fresh fruit and veggies to get all the vitamins and nutrients you need, as it also makes you tired and uncomfortable.
anyways, I hope you feel better, keep well!

Jody - posted on 08/29/2010




Ok you might want to try evenining primrose oil (sp?) My doctor told me to take it with the last one. It's a completely safe herb you can buy over the counter at any pharmacy. Just ask the pharmacist. It's supposed to soften the cervix and help you dialate. Trust me if it does for you what it did for me you'll be feeling those contractions within 30 minutes of taking one. Good luck.

Theresa - posted on 08/29/2010




your not alone believe me i feel the same way but try doing it with a lil 10 month crawling everywhere im 37wks if it was my choice i'd be induced right now! i have all the symptoms you do im always in pain depressed most the time ..but no my doctor told me i have to wait till 41 wks i had my daughter at 36 wks so that seems forever my advice is keep your self busy keep your mind off your situation that's what help me at least hope things go well :)

PETA - posted on 08/29/2010




I hear you, i am 35 weeks now and so over being uncofortable.

Talk to your doctor and let them know what you are feeling.

Also i have been told that a lavender massage can help kick off labour. If that doesnt help, i use catsor oil to start all 3 previous labours, doesnt taste that great but worked for me, and going to use it again once i hit 37.5 weeks.( if you use this method make sure you stay close to the toilet, and have someone with you)

Good luck

Brandi - posted on 08/25/2010




i went into labor at exactly 40 weeks on my due date, but i remember feeling Just like this! My doctor wouldn't induce me until after my due date either, and i had toxemia! There really not big on it. lol But the day before my due date, i took a vitamin called 'Black Kohosh' (sp?) It's something menopausal women take, but it made me go into labor that night! And the same with all of my other friends that were pregnant. It's worth a shot! Just as long as you feel it'd be alright for the baby to go on and come out. which being as far along as you are, I'd say its a safe bet to go on an do everything you can think of to self induce. lol Well good luck!

Chelle - posted on 08/25/2010




Hey i am sorry to hear you are feeling so miserable :(
And i can understand this sense of feeling at the end of your tether especially if there have been some very unpleasant moments along the way.

I am 26 weeks pregnant as of yesterday and have not enjoyed this pregnancy really at all. I also have had complications due to the position of my placenta which has caused bleeding and scared the absolute bejeebers out of me! It has also resulted in hospital admissions. I have not had the emotional support from my husband with this pregnancy that i did with the first one as he feels this process holds no novelty for him anymore.

After the admissions i felt so emotionally fragile for a while. I was being told all sorts of worse case scenarios especially that if i bleed again it could induce labour and if my placenta was covering the cervix when that happened he would have to come out c-secion and most likely would not have survived, from 26 weeks on he has a better chance but this kind of thing is the last thing you need to hear when you are already feeling scared!

I have also been pregnant 4x and only had one child and now am carrying this one, and the other times were quite traumatic and i dont know if this happens to you but when one bad thing happens it is hard not to suddenly feel overwhelmed by all the bad things that have happened & they can really weigh you down.

Anyways i tell you all this just so you can get a feel for the fact although i am not in the same situation as you i can definitely understand this sense of feeling jack of it all and everything is building up on top of you!

I dont know if this suggestion is going to help you but i am quite a spiritual person and have started to keep an intention journal as well as do meditationa and visualisation where i imagine my placenta moving away as well as getting healthy and strong. I didnt expect it to have such a marked difference to my state of mind, but it really has and i am starting to focus on the positives of having my little bub around.

Mediation can be a powerful thing and even if you didnt do the visualisation it could really help you to relax, so that would be the thing that i would suggest to you.

I wish you all the best and hang in there, you can do this even though you feel you cant.

Amanda - posted on 08/24/2010




Being in the last few weeks of pregnancy is the worst. You're miserable, tired, sore, uncomfortable, etc.... Go get a relaxing massage, have a bubble bath, and just relax. I was like you at the end of my last one. I had severe complications. I had a placental abruption and was hospitalized. It was supposed to be for the rest of my pregnancy but I convinced them to let me go home. This happened at 32 weeks and I was told I would be lucky if I made it to 35-37 weeks. If I made it to 37 they would induce me because it wasn't safe for the baby. Well 35 weeks came and went, same as 37. I asked my OB about the induction and he said the baby was doing just fine and they would just keep monitoring me closely. I was sooo upset with that because I was promised I would not go longer than 37. I also went into false labour twice. The second time lasted 12 hours and they could do nothing for the pain(they were to the point of trying to convince me to have an epidural!), and I didn't dilate at all. I ended up having my son on his due date with no induction. Two other things I would suggest that helped me: Get the pressure points in your feet and legs done, and ask your OB/midwife to do a stretch and sweep. Alot won't do it until your due date, but if you explain everything to him/her, they might just do it.

Alyssa - posted on 08/24/2010




You are not alone, and you are not losing your mind.

Although, you may be causing more stress for yourself by not talking to your doctor or his nurse to get some advice on relief for you and baby. And he might just decide to try to induce you. Even if they try it is not always successful, if you body isn't ready.

Pick up some feel good fiction books to read. Watch movies you love. Spend time with family and friends. Keep your mind occupied. Go out and just sit and enjoy the sunshine with a tall glass of something cool to drink. Do a little people watching, because you know they are watching you. ;) And maybe, just maybe, once your mind is relaxed, your body will follow, and baby will be here.


Delta - posted on 08/22/2010




I feel the same way, I am 34 weeks will be 35 weeks Tuesday and ready to have this baby. I am so stressed out at work and on the go from being at work.

Vanessa - posted on 08/22/2010




You're not going insane - I feel the same as you and I'm only at 31 weeks! LOL
Is there a midwife or nurse you can talk to? They are awesome at going into fight for you - as women, they simply get it!
Go the inducement -- you're miserable and thats not good for bub either!

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