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My name is Erin I am 23 years old. I just found out not to long ago that I am pregnant. The father wants nothing to do with me or the baby and is pushing for an abortion. It breaks my heart because I know I would be a good mom but I don't know if I am ready. Sadly the babies father was a one night fling but I've known him since high school. I am so worried and stressed. I want to keep the baby....but I don't know if it's for the best. Ive thought about adoption and it just makes me cry. My mom is standing 100% behind me and it helps a lot. I just need some advice from other young single moms.

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Sappy26 - posted on 03/01/2014

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No one is really ever ready to be a parent, especially a single parent. I am a single mother, and I wouldn't change having my child for the world. Despite how difficult pregnancy, childbirth, and motherhood are. There are a lot of resources available for single mothers.

Regina Angel - posted on 02/18/2014

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I was 21 when I got pregnant with my daughter her dad wantes nothing to do with her and he still don't. She is 15 and I wouldn't change anything I did cause I love my daughter very much. I didn't have family to help me my parents died when I was 16 so its great to have your mom. I think that you will love this baby and be able to be a good mom. You have been given a very precious gift. Its part of you and maybe he will come around once its born. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

Maryke - posted on 02/18/2014

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i wont really opt for abortion. you are pregnant. and that comes with the choice you made to sleep with the guy. pregnancy is real and it happens. and it did. see this as a miracle. there are a lot of people out there that reallllly wants to have children and if you abort this one you can rob one of those families of a baby. don't (kill) abort this child. its still a blessing. you can always adopt. and with God im sure He will create a way for you to look after your baby. this is your gift. it sucks about the dad. but you are there, and you can do this. a woman is very very strong we are made to do and handle so much.. because we can :) stay strong love. make all your choices out of love

Stormy - posted on 02/14/2014

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I am so sorry you're going through this. My opinion is that if abortion is completely out of the question for you, explore your other two options and give it some time. I just found out that my fiancee and are pregnant again after miscarrying last year, I'd had an abortion four years ago and often fear I'll miscarry again. However, I never gave my baby a chance the first time because the father wanted nothing to do with either of us and I can definitely say my perspective and outlook on raising my child alone, were that the case again, has changed dramatically. There's something about your baby growing inside, spending every waking day with it, and knowing that it's depending on you that transforms you and makes you stronger than you ever thought you could be. Do what is best for you and don't let anyone or anything make you feel any differently about your decision. Best of luck.

Sarah - posted on 02/11/2014

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My suggestion would be to either connect up with a crisis pregnancy center or an adoption agency that does birth parent counseling. They are both free no matter what you choose and can help you figure out what you feel would be the best. They can also get you connected with resources for whatever you choose. I thank you for thinking about your baby and trying to do what is best.

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