I am expecting next month and my kids dad is in a new relationship and got her pregnant as well. Now he feels she is his main priority..?

C - posted on 11/08/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Me and my kids dad have been on and off for 9 years. In that 9 years he has left me pregnant for two other women and now this is the 3rd time. I have put up with so much of his crap trying to be by his side through his drug addiction and no work due to his felony record. Well we have a two year old son and a baby on the way next month. He has two other kids from another woman and is currently dating someone that he recently knocked up. I have established paternity through the state for our son but waiting to have child support papers served to his poe so he can be garnished I also plan on putting it on him for our daughter. My thing is he knocked up the new girl while I am still pregnant the job he has is through a temp service and not guaranteed. Why on earth is he still knocking up women when he cant afford the kids he has? And the way he is talking is like he is making her his main priority when he had these existing kids before she came along. Can he do that? And why would he put her first and she doesnt even have his kids and is just a girlfriend of only 8 months

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Sarah - posted on 11/08/2013

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He is doing what he is choosing to do.....right or wrong that is the choice he is making. This is nothing new to you it sounds like. You can't control what he does or what you want him to do. The only person you can control is you. So my question to you is why do you allow him back in? Why do you allow yourself to have sex with him? You are stepping down to his level, why? A guy will treat you how you allow him to treat you.......this does not mean you can change the guy. It does mean that if you don't allow a man to treat you badly that man will not stick around. He sticks around and comes back for more because you allow him to do that. If you require more out of a man then you would not allow him to stick around and come back for more.

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Sarah - posted on 11/08/2013

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Yep he probably does feel the new woman is more of a priority until she is the old one and there is a new one. Then both of you will be out and the new one will be in. That is who he is and until he chooses to change that that is who he will be. It does not make it right or even fair for your kids. But this is what is reality right now. This is who he is right now. Maybe someday he will grow up and appreciate what he has, but right now he gets his thrill by the one he is dating until that gets old and a new thrill arrives.

C - posted on 11/08/2013

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I mean i understand were your coming from and I no it was silly of me to even get in a relationship with a guy like him let alone let him get me pregnant twice. I am very much aware of how foolish I have been however that does not answer my question my concern is that he feels the new woman is more of a priority then the two kids he has from a previous relationship and our two year old son and the baby we have on the way.

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