I am obviously showing and the doctor's pee test said I'm not pregnant.

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My husband and I both have been feeling fetal movement for almost 2 weeks now, there's almost always a response to us probing the belly. We even felt what we think was an elbow pushing back on us yesterday. The doctor wasn't in when I went for my appointment and all the lady did was a urine test and weighed me and said she tested it twice that it was negative. Can LVN's be hired in a prenatal office, would that be why she didn't take my blood for a more sensative test? She didn't palpate me or anything. She even got insulted when I was upset over her telling me I wasn't pregnant, I couldn't hide the hurt so I stoped talking to her, and she got all anoyed in her voice and anoyingly said ok thank you. She told me the test was negative in a very insisative way, and didn't even ask why I thought I was pregnant. I had to of gotten pregnant with an IUD in since it was taken out only 3 weeks ago so that we could have a planed pregnancy. But one week later, I put my hands on my belly trying to figure out if I was pregnant or just gaining weight and a baby turned around and pushed up on my hands. This is my third child I know exactly how this should feel, and I have had fetal movement. I was angry she wanted to tell me I wasn't pregnant and not even touch me. That's why I am wondering if she wasn't qualified to do anything. When I mentioned the IUD she was shocked and said oh my god all worried for me. IUD's don't present problems for pregnancies as long as they are taken out and don't hinder the placenta attachement. That's it, the baby can be carried without any harm caused by the IUD. I felt like I had more medical knowledge than this woman, if she knew that she shouldn't have been shocked but reasuring me instead. That's when I turned away from her since she was upsetting me, and couldn't help but to shake my head in disbelief that she didn't know this. That really irratated her. She sent us off to the hospital to have my blood drawn and schedualed a sonograhm at the hospital for next week. My husband talked to the staff at the hospital and had them schedual me for a sonograhm for tomorrow morning. The first time I went to this office we waited for over an hour, it's not medicade so that shouldn't be happening, even medicade offices do better than that on average. We will find a new doctor office tomorrow, or get a midwife. Sorry for the long venting I'm really upset with these people. I keep having the worry of a miscarriage creep into my mind ever since that lady said all that at the doctor's office. She was insensative and not reassuring at all. I almost want to go back and let them know not to do that to anyone else. What do all of you think about this? Do you think me and my husband are over reacting to the situation? He feels the same as I do, and was upset with the lady for how she was talking to me. I never had an actuall period after removing the IUD, I had to have already been pregnant since one week later isn't possible to feel movement from a pregnancy. I had some light spoting on two differnt weeks, but that's it. I think she was thinking it wasn't possible for me to be pregnant and we were getting ahead of ourselves. But I know fetal movement and we are pregnant. Ugh I just got so rattled from that lady's attitude with me. Opinions please, I feel like I'm going crazy waiting for the morning to come for my sonogram.

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Kate - posted on 06/18/2013

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I'm obviously showing. I have every single symptom and if i am pregnant i should be 8 weeks. yet all test urine and blood came out negative. I have gained weight. My stomach is getting bigger and it is as hard as a rock. Name a symptom I've got it. Does any one know anything. Because this is seriously freaky.

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I last had my period on febuary 18th till the 22nd and its usually 7 days. I have lower back pain, abdominal cramping, can't stand on my feet for long until they start hurting, headaches, dizziness, nauseous, mood swings but no sore boobs. I went to the hospitAL they did blood tests, pee and xrays and said I'm not pregnant but I still feel like I am and why else would I not get my period? Someone help me!

Ahneesha - posted on 04/05/2013

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I am 37 yrs old and over the past 4 months my stomach has been growing and I have gain 12lbs only in the stomach and breast area has the weight gone to. Also, my breast are lactating as well. I had every test imaginable, Blatter exam, Sonogram (which showed no preganancy), urine and blood test. All come back negative. First my doctor say I was bloated, then he said I have a stomach infection and gave me a 14 day prev pac, then he said its gas, then it was I had a small ovarian cyst on my left ovary, to now the Gyno says all women gets cyst before there period (which was very irregular this month) and she tell me its just weight gain go see a Nutritionist. I am at a lost. My stomach is growing, breast lactating and I do feel fluttering and lil jabs from time to time. Please help

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To anyone that posted experiencing the same symptoms, did anyone ever have a baby? Just curious because I keep getting negative tests as well. Not sure if my hormones are out of whack or what.

Chamaine - posted on 04/17/2013

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Hi need some advice when I feel pregnant with my first son it took ages for the hcg to show on test but when my second come it was obvious by three weeks and test picked it up straight away!! This time my body is telling me I am pregnant but no test is saying I am I am only about 7 weeks so shod I just assume it will take ages like my first pregnancy :/ confused

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Susanna - posted on 06/12/2013

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Go have a blood test done. I too have had my tubes tied for the last 20 years and discoverd that I am pregnant around 4-5 months along going to take blood test today. The urine test came back negative but as you know a woman knows her body. I have 4 grown children with two grandbabies and am 44 years old and never planned on this so look at this as God's will like I do and enjoy....children are Gods angels ..... I am nervous about the test as I DESPISE needles but am anxious to find out exactly how many and when??? Take care and please let me know what you find out ...will be praying for you.

Vampiregothlinda - posted on 05/01/2013

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I'm in the same boat hubby felt the movement as well. Took 1 test it was pos. took another it was neg and I took another and it was neg. I have 3 kids so I kno how it feels and I have all preggo symptoms. With my first kid, I took 5tests and all were neg till I took a blood test and found out I was 5months along. Help!!!

Ameera - posted on 04/21/2013

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I am 23 i have two kids a 3 yr old n a 1 yr old i had an iud put in after my second child for the last 11 months i have had my period every month.In the last 3-5 day i've been feeling movements so much so that if i am lying down it is is clearly viable i have gained maybe 5 lbs in the last few months. For my first two kids i use to be nauseous all the time i'm really worried my husband thinks i'm thinking over it too much, after reading these post i'm not so sure.

Nicole - posted on 04/17/2013

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I had my tubes tied two years ago and I've been having pregnancy symptoms. I'm wanting another baby so bad. Could I be imagining this? Lower back pain, on and off nauseous, last week it was really bad, mood swings, incredibly sore boobs, no energy, slight lower abdominal cramping, bad gas(sorry TMI) . I don't keep track of my periods and I took a test last week and it was negative, I know that if a woman gets pregnant while her tubes are tied, the baby could grow in the tubes. Should I wait another week to see if I start my period or take another test?

Nicole - posted on 04/17/2013

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I had my tubes tied two years ago and I've been having pregnancy symptoms. I'm wanting another baby so bad. Could I be imagining this? Lower back pain, on and off nauseous, last week it was really bad, mood swings, incredibly sore boobs, no energy, slight lower abdominal cramping, bad gas(sorry TMI) . I don't keep track of my periods and I took a test last week and it was negative, I know that if a woman gets pregnant while her tubes are tied, the baby could grow in the tubes. Should I wait another week to see if I start my period or take another test?

Veena - posted on 03/30/2013

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my body is giving me signs of pragnancy but not getting result positive in urin test, i think i m more than three w

Veena - posted on 03/30/2013

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this post is really helpful to the ladies who is suffering such type of problems.

Damaris - posted on 03/20/2013

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Hello, I also went through same thing all my test even blood is still negative and no baby on sonogram. I am 30 weeks belly is growing not much but yeah you can tell that I am pregnant. Doctors think im crazy I feel kicks and movements. Have faith in God.

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I know this post was a long time ago- but i just would like to put in my input (Lol weird sentence) for anybobdy going through something similar. LISTEN TO YOUR BODY!!! women know when they're pregnant- yeah sometimes they feel like they are when they are not... but it's much better to be safe than sorry!!! I went though something similar to this- and unfortunately it was at a young age. I started feeling pregnant kind of all the sudden. I just KNEW I was. I was having symptoms as well, and lots of them. I went online to see how far along I might be. I was guessing about 6 weeks. sometime later I finally took an at-home pregnancy test which was negative. I went to see my doctor to get another test. negative. took a negative blood test...at about 4 months i was still feeling pregnant. I was not 18 yet at the time and was being forced by my dad to see a psychiatrist for muliple conditions. I told my psychiatrist i wanted the most expensive medicine bekuz i was angry at my dad (who'd have to pay for it) and didn't plan to take it anyways. I pretended to take it for a while but when my dad caught onto me he said i had to take it infront of him. when I told him I still thought i was pregnant he told me i wasnt but i still refused the medication. he kalled the cops on me, who then forced me to take it. I kried alot and told them why I didn't want to but they wouldn't leave until i did... so I took it. I don't remember if i took it just that day or other days too- but soon after I had alot of bleeding- like a period... and then started my normal periods back up... I still didn't wanna believe that I was not pregnant anymore- so a couple months later i went in for an ultra sound. I was also having alot of pains at the time and the ultrasound showed no pregnancy just a big cyst that required surgery. post-surgery I started birth control again, started having sex again... and maybe 2-4 weeks later misscarried a huge placenta!!!!!! I didn't know what it was at the time- but I do now. It was the size of my hand- maybe bigger. ANYWAYS- my point is that if i had gotten pregnant post-surgery i kouldn't have been far along. I KNOW I was pregnant when I first thought I was. everybody's different and weird things kan happen. I only hope that noone goes through what I did- having no control bekuz you are underage or for any other reason. good luck everybody! stay healthy and trust your instincts!

Tanya - posted on 03/13/2013

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I have a question and I am hoping some out there can help me out. I took an ovulation test it came out positive and that was on the 26 of feb. It has been 15 days. I have taken 2 pregnancy tests both negative. I have sore breasts and slight headaches. I have missed my period it was due on the 8th of march. Im going to test again at the end of this month. Or am I crazy and not actually pregnant. some please help. I had more symptoms earlier in the week but seem to have disappeared. though my uterus still feels full and my stomach is sensitive.

Ta Shay - posted on 03/04/2013

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Hey Lady's I had that same problem it's like its been 7month since i had period an i know for a fact i been having sex with my husband and as soon as i went to the doctor they took a urine test an said it was negative an i'm not prggnant an i know for a fact i been feeling a baby moving but they would nt give me a blood test or a ultrosound.

Erika - posted on 12/14/2012

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Im having the same problem.I have all the symptoms of being pregnant.Me and my partner have felt the movements but the pee and blood test came out negative.They keep telling me its gas or have some excuse.Its getting very frustrating.I finally got them to check me out with some type of exam they did and they said im supposed to be 3inches dilated at the 22 weeks im at right now.It doesnt sound right to me.Can anyone help me out here.

Amy - posted on 09/20/2012

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Dear renee,

The same thing is happening to us at the moment. we went to our doctors office when we started feeling strong fetal movement and as it was also visible movement and told the doctor we feel that we are pregnant, the nurses looked at me and before they administered the test, they sat me down in the waiting room and asked me why i thought i was pregnant. we explained that we had sudden weight gain within 2 weeks after losing 22 lbs and then 2 weeks prior we started feeling something moving and it wasnt gas, or muscle spasms. they took a urine and did a blood test and it was negative. We went home frustrated and had forgotten about it. a few weeks later i had to go to the emergency room for severe pain. the E.R. doctor also did the urine and blood test, it was also negative, meanwhile my husband and I explained to him the same way we explained to the doctor at the clinic, he said its not possible he had never heard of a women being pregnant without it showing up on the test.He would not even hear us, he said your not pregnant. at this point my husband stormed out upset because he wouldnt listen. well he we are at what is suppose to be 28 weeks and 7 days gestation in the third trimester, and still feeling movement and kicks. trying to get our doctor to do an ultrasound for us, with little success. We are frustrated too, especially with all these doctors and nurses looking at us like were crazy.hope you find out, best of luck renee.

Katiecox9630 - posted on 06/06/2012

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i was on the depo shot for a year in a half and the doctors didnt know i was pregnant till i was 30 weeks pregnant

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Its illegal for a doctors office to discriminate against someone for having Medicaid and by discriminate I mean extend waiting time or postpone service of necessary medica care. I couldn't even finish reading your post because I had to respond to your ignorant comment. I had Medicaid when I was pregnant with my first child so does that mean that if I felt something was threatening the health of my child I should have been forced to wait because I was on "poor people insurance"

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Thank you Stephanie we did both, the blood test was negative. They are testing for the HCG levels and those go down when you are about to have a miscarriage. I was and when we did the ultrasound there was only a big empty uterus, I still had my pregnant belly at that point but no baby. The belly went down in size a good bit by that night and now you can't even tell I was ever pregnant. I have so much more energy now I feel like super woman, I went so long thinking I was tired for one reason or another not knowing I was pregnant. I thought that level of exaustion was my new norm with turning 30 this month, I am so glad it's not and I feel like me again. We will continue with our origional plan of getting pregnant in June or July, that was the reason we had the IUD removed, not knowing we were already pregnant. If we can get pregnant on birth control we will certainly be pregnant soon. Thank you for all your words of knowledge and wisdom in our time of grief.

Stephanie - posted on 05/25/2010

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The hormones from the IUD can hinder the result of a urine test, they need to do a ultrasound and a blood test to make sure.

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Thank you very much Sarah, all the support everyone is giving me means a lot in so many ways. We are doing well, and have faith we will have our baby, this pegnancy just couldn't be because we didn't know about it early on and the IUD affected it. It could have ended fine as some due regardless of the IUD, it could have went full term but gave the child mental development issues, and the other complication is what happened to me a miscarriage. I am firm in the belief things wouldn't have been ok for our baby after the IUD was removed, that's when all the issues started. Who knows what would have happened if we knew about the pregnancy before we removed it, but we didn't so we are moving on. I thank you and everyone else for all you condolences. I will keep checking this thread for a while for everyone to tell me what they like about our pregnancy and miscarriage. Thank you so much everyone.

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Thats devastating news, very sorry for your loss. Praying for a healthy pregnancy soon for you xo

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Thank you Geralyn, I will I promise. :) I want to carry my 3rd child to a healthy full term baby so I will most definately take excellent care of myself for my future child. We can't wait to have our little one and are excited to get there again. Thank you so much for being there.

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Renee, I am so sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourself.

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Sorry guys I didn't realize this thread took off like this. I had a miscarriage, that's why my urine test came up negative. Thank you so much for all the support, it means a lot in this difficult time. We will be changing doctors, since the lady didn't seem to have a degree and didn't want to palpate me or do anything besides the urine test. I didn't see the doctor that day since he was out on family emergency for the rest of the week. I was sent next door to do a blood test (again couldn't understand why the doctor's office couldn't take blood) that test came up negative. We hadn't felt movement since the night before, by the time the blood test was done we were half way through the day. The next day they did an ultra sound and it was a big fluid filled uterus, no baby. I still had my pregnant belly but no baby to be seen. My body had re-aborbed the baby since it's was still early in development. The IUD caused the miscarriage since I had it in for the entire 5 months I didn't know I was pregnant. We had it removed (to have a "planed" pregnancy) and felt the movement a week later. My husband was told at work his place was with me, not to come to work for that week, he got free time off with pay. We feel better now, I'm sorry I didn't check this before now, I didn't use this website for a few days after the miscarriage and I'm just now starting to go onto all the groups I've joined. It took some time to get over our loss, and for a while all I could say was that I wanted my baby back. It's strange to feel movement all day every day and then it be gone. We missed watching the belly change shape and my husband's nightly "belly time". We will have our planed pregnancy here soon and move on. I only cry when I repeat the phrase of wanting my baby back or talk about the belly time. Other than that I am fine and have so much energy now. I didn't know I was pregnant for so long I thought this low energy was my new normal turing 30 and all. I feel like super woman all the sudden getting so much done in and outside the house. I feel so much better now with things finally the way I wanted them. We will recover completely soon and have another baby on the way. My husband and I like to hold onto the idea of the baby will come back to us. It was so full of life, it's hard to imagine lossing her forever. We think it was a girl since my hormones always affect my behavior and persenality with my pregnancies. My pregnancy with my son was funny with me punching things for fun and acting super tom boyish. With this one I was flurting more with my husband and betting very giggley, totally out of character for me, that's why we say it was a girl. If the next baby isn't a girl, we will feel like we lost her forever and then truely grieve. She was so full of life, reacting to almost every time we touched the belly. My mom said it had to have been because she was ignored for 5 months, she wasn't used to being proded. Thanks so much to all of you responding and supporting us. It means a lot, we far away from our families and it's nice to have so many people to bounce things off of for opinions. Thanks again with all my love. Renee

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My mother had an iud she fell pregnant on my brother and the iud came out just before he did during labour, the midwife wasnt expecting that lol.

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I know how you feel... On my second child, I had a miscarraige. I was actually suprised to hear how many miscarraiges I had all in total, I was technically pregnant with quintuplets and only gave birth to one. I never knew I was pregnant until I wa 6 months, I took pregnancy tests after pregnancy tests, all came out negative. I turns out because of having the four sacs within you, it actually blocked some of the hormones needed to show if you are pregnant or not. Now when it comes to using birth control, I have heard that they can also prove you wrong if you are pregnant or not... Just keep at it and you should be good. Make sure you try a different doctor if you are having an unsatisfied experience with this one.

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omg! i cant believe they have people working at that place like that...... you are not over reacting at all i would be mad too...

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After a certain stage in your pregnancy home preg tests or pee yests don't always pick up the levels. It could just be that you are a little further along

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Did they do an u/s??? If you can feel movement then they should at least try an u/s to see if there is a baby even if the tests come out negative!!! It is possible to get more than one false negative. I don't know much about the IUD, but I would assume that it could mess up a pregnancy test, so maybe they are coming out negative because you just got it taken out not too long ago....still not sure, but I think if both you and your husband can feel it then you are pregnant!

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Its horrible how the nurse treated you but if your doctors office is anything like mine then your doctor doesn't have anything to do with who is hired for being a nurse! so if you like your doctor then i would ask them about the nurse! also in most doctor offices the nurse doesn't do any of the testing themselves it gets sent to a lab where the lab workers perform the tests so the nurse probably didn't have anything to do with how the test was perfromed! needless to say her behavior was very inappropriate! but having worked in the health care field sometimes people have a bad day and that can affect how they respond to people... especially if you were freaking out to her! as a nurse she can't really do anything else unless your doctor orders it! but like i said there is no excuse for her behavior no matter how good/bad her day may have been going!

when i took a pregnancy test i was unsure about the results because my husband was told he could not have kids and the test was positive so i called the pregnancy test company... they said that you might get false negatives if you are not far enough along. when i called my doctor office they didn't need to do a urine test because they said their tests are the same ones you can buy at the store! have you taken any tests at home??? also i have heard alot of other women saying on here that they have felt fetal movement even though they are not pregnant! it seems to be very common especially after you have had a few kids! i'm not saying you are wrong but that might be the case... and if were were trying to have a baby then it might just be the power of suggestion that your husband can feel it move too! i don't know i'm just throwing ideas out there of other possible situations! and the horomones from an IUD can harm a baby while its developing so you need to find out if you are pregnant or not soon! i know alot of women who have had babies that had complications because they got pregnant with an IUD in! you posted on the 18th that you had a blood test done and would be picking up the results the next day... just curious as to what the results were?

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Renee, it is awful how you were treated. Its good that you are getting a different doctor. I hope that everything works out...

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it's been 5 days since your post and i am positively curious about what's happened since. please update?

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you probably have to ask for a blood test most doctors office only do a urine test unless you insist on having the blood test

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I am pregnant with baby no.2 at the moment. With my first it wasn't till 20wks but this time around i could feel movement at 16wks. I have a book what to exect when your expecting. It says that with your 2nd, 3rd and so on most women feel the baby earlier on then the previous.

Some Drs and Nurses are hopeless. My cousin was seeing heaps of specialist because she hadn't had her period for over a year. She went to the Drs one day had been vomiting heaps. Found out she was 7months pregnant!! In that 7months not 1 Dr done a pregnancy/ blood screen.

Urine tests don't always show up pregnancy.I would definately put in a complaint about how that lady treated you.
Goodluck and i hope your pregnancy is complication free.

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You are right about the IUD. My mother had an IUD isitu when she found out she was pregnant with me so it is definately possible to fall pregnant with one in. She had it removed while still pregnant which there is a risk of miscarriage while having it removed but she didnt micarry (obviously because i am still here). And continued on with a healthy pregnancy and i was 10 days late. I am a nurse and that women sounded definatelt out of line, she should have been more empathetic to your feelings/emotions and listened to what you had to say, then consult somebody more experienced than her to follow up with your concerns/enquiries if she was incapable of doing so. I really feel for you having to go through that.

All the best with this pregnancy and make sure you update us when you get your results and sonogram :)

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Have you found out how far along you are yet? I've got a 2 year old and this time around I felt movements at about 15 weeks, my guess is you are at least 15 weeks (since your hubby is feeling movements too). By the time you feel movements your chances of a miscarriage are almost nothing!

Also, the hormone starts to taper off around the 12 week or so mark, so it's possible you don't have tons in your system at the moment as the plecenta takes over making it (so I'm not sure if it would show in a pee test or not).

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Urine tests don't usually show anything until 4-6 weeks after conception for the body to show significant levels of the hormone. (I Tested mine the first time, it was negative, and then the second time two weeks later it was positive) Although I suspect that my recently getting off of birth control because it was making me sick had something to do with the tests (because I conceived in November and took the tests in December )

Also some people don't show positive at all with the urine tests (my Aunt had that issue) and I can understand you being upset with the woman if she was acting insensitive. Although it doesn't mean all doctors within the office are like that. Actually you can speak to someone within that office and give a complaint about the etiquette of the nurse.

And the part with you waiting for an hour, some offices can be really short staffed on certain days because of a random influx of people (especially sick appointments which are usually scheduled same-day)

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I would deffinatly get your blood levels tested! Women in my family have a hard time getting a regular pregnancy test to show positive. Luckily, mine showed positive at 7 weeks. All the test say on the boxed that for most women you have to be a certain number of weeks along, and that some woment will not test positive at any time. So, I highly reccommend that you have your blood drawn & tested. Hope you find out soon, and that you and your family are healthy!

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Hun I didn't ready all the comments so not sure if someone already said this but here it goes....First, I am on baby #3 also and if u know u are preggers then don't let anyone tell u u are not. U've done this before and know exactly what to expect. If ur doc's office is employing someone who is treating patients like this then a different doc is definitely something u should do. And lastly I had a friend who got preggers on an IUD and was 5 mths preggers before the pee test or the blood test registered her pregnancy so don't worry. Once again u've done this before and if u are feeling baby move then there is someone in there. Good Luck love!

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I didn't have an IUD with my son (first full term delivery but second pregnancy) but wasn't able to get a positive test result til I was nearly 18 weeks and had similar experiences with people thinking I was crazy. I had felt him move at that time as well as I lost my first when I was 19 weeks and knew what to look for.

I am sorry that you had to experience such an insensitive being. Unfortunately, I have found that some people choose careers that their personalities are just not coherent for. I would move and let it be. If you really want to do something about it not happening to someone else then report them to the BBB or post a negative review on their website or something of that nature.

Please keep us posted on your U/S and new doctor experiences. Hope all goes well and no complications from the IUD. I have had an IUD since my son and actually got pregnant too soon after its removal (I already have an incompetent cervix) and unfortunately lost the baby so I understand your fear of miscarriage. Good luck!!

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you can feel movement pretty early on not being your first pregnancy. i had an aweful dr experience i wont get into but we changed dr, hospitals and all and were much happier. dont let anybody get in the way of you getting good care.

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I am sorry that you had to go thru that. There are the occasional incompetant nurses/dr's that just do not treat situations right and dont take time to think about how sensative this subject is. I would suggest just letting it go and move on, becuse you plan on getting a differnt Dr. You can deffintly go to the office or wright a letter to someone high above her so then it doesnt happen to another women who goes into that old office. However, try to eliminate as much stress on yourself as you can :)
I see this was posted yesterday, so the sonogram was today? How far along are you, did you get to find out if it was a boy or a girl? Im excited for you :) pregnancy can be so fun!

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Erin thank you so much for your opinion and stories too. That really helped me come down from my stress and anxiety. The baby has started it's normal activity again, so everything should be fine. I am just glad we aren't the only ones that see it this way, I feel so much better now. Maybe now I will be able to sleep...I hope, I can't wait for that sonogram.

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They have taken my blood to test for the HCT levels, we will pick up the results tomorrow. I am much further along then needed to feel movement, I layed down to try to go to bed after I wrote that, and the baby started squirming around as usual. My husband can also feel and what he calls hear it too when he lays on the belly. This time the baby was facing my back, so most of the movements were in that area, but it's still obivous fetal movement. We have even watched my belly change shape with the baby moving around. I estimate that I am infact about 5 months pregnant. There is no mistaking fetal movement when you are on your 3rd pregnancy. I already feel movement and have for 2 weeks now. I am sure it will turn out fine, all my pregnancies do very well and always have to be enduced. I feel movement and can even watch the movement during the day, I am far along, no idea why the test came up negative. Thanks for the best wishes, but I am looking for opinions on what should have been done instead of attempting to tell me I am not pregnant. My husband is bothered by the fact she didn't seem concerned to find out if I had any other issues causing the pregnancy symptoms that she couldn't explain. I can explain it for her, I am far along and her tests were wrong. Maybe she didn't hold them in the urine long enough, that can cause a false negative. And it supports the idea she didn't seem to have much knowledge about the issue of the IUD with pregnancy. She never asked me anything or even touched me, so how can she only rely on a not always accurate urine test to tell her I am not pregnant when I feel and watch the baby move all day. Again thanks for the best wishes, but as I said I already feel movement and can watch it move accross the belly.

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well I'm not familiar with what an IUD is, but I know of a couple ladies who have gotten pregnant while on a type of birth control where you don't get your period for a while: and so they didn't know for the first few months. So I think it could be possible, and tend to believe that if a woman is in touch with her body she can probably tell. About the woman's attitude, I agree that it was highly inappropriate and have had similar disappointing situations on different occasions involving the medical community. I feel that any professional dealing with birth / fertility ought to recieve extra courses or classes regarding etiquite and morals as this is such a sensitive and powerful topic for women. That kind of negative and insensitive attitude can be heart breaking. I hope you have better luck with the new doctor or midwife: maybe it will turn out for the better.

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they need to test your blood levels to see if your HCT hormone is present and then again in a week to see if it's risen. i'm not sure how pregnant you may be but you won't feel movement for a while. i hope all turns out well for you.

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