I have just found out I am 4 weeks pregnant and this is my first I am scared, I don't know what to do?


Lexi - posted on 09/30/2011




Hi Sammy, congratulations!! The first thing to do is call your gyno and set up your first prenatal check up. They usually do it between 8-10 weeks along. I don't know what your situation is but it's normal to feel scared at first whether baby is expected or a surprise. My first son was planned and yet I still sat in the bathroom staring at that stick saying "oh sh*t" over and over again. lol It takes time to come to grips with the idea of the changes that are going to happen in the future. Just remember that most of the stuff that seems scary right now will happen very gradually over the next nine months. By the time baby comes you will feel more ready. Even after baby comes there are still days of wondering what on earth I got myself into, and the chaos of learning new things but it's not as bad as it seems right now. All the amazing, wonderful, crazy awesome stuff totally outweighs the hard or scary stuff. I wouldn't change anything for the world. My first son just turned two in July and my second son is due in a few days. I cannot imagine my life with out Torsten. While I was pregnant it was so hard to fathom what my life would be like with him. Right now it's just weird trying to picture our life with a second one (Rowan Leif) but we're so excited. I can't wait! So many questions and things to wonder about but it's awesome and it's all worth it. I hated being pregnant, some women love it but for me it's not been a fun or pleasant thing. My body doesn't handle it well but every woman is different. Hopefully you'll be one of those girls that doesn't get sick much or have any other issues. =) Just keep in mind that there is something about pregnancy and kids that brings out the worst busy body syndrome in the people around you. Focus on yourself and what feels right for you and your growing family and don't let other peoples stories or advice stress you out.

If you're having a hard time with the emotional or financial side of things there are tons of resources in most towns to help you out. If you qualify, definitely sign up to get on pregnancy WIC. They will provide you with a ton of resources. They also offer lots of counseling programs and educational programs. Your doctors office can help with any questions about the physical side of things. Don't hesitate to ask for or seek out help with anything. Congratulations again hun and best of luck to you and your little one. It's a crazy, amazing ride! =)


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Congrats! Like Lexi said being scared is normal even if it was planned. My first was planned and I flipped and kept taking pregnancy test after pregnancy test! Just think you have 8 months left! That gives you plenty of time to get everything prepared, I strongly suggest birthing classes for preparing you for birth and the book what to expect when you're expecting helped me a lot. My first drs appointment they have me a lot of papers and magazines to read so that helps! I'm currently pregnant with our second one and I was even scared when I got pregnant again. (of course this one wasn't planned my first one was only 5 months old) but we're happy about it now and just spending the time we have to get ready for this one! At least you found out early so that'll give you plenty more time! With this one I found out when I was almost 11 weeks so I lost almost 3 months of preparing! Good luck! Congrats again and you'll be great!

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