Lack of sex from husband, what to do?

Danielle - posted on 08/18/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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So my partner and I have been together for 6 1/2 years. We have a 5 year old. When we first met we had sex almost every other day! Than when we had our son it was maybe once a week. Than from then on we had various work issues with both of us and our sex had been maybe once a month if I'm lucky. I'm 27 and he is 48. He's says he's tired and stressed out from looking after our son while I was working. but then I quit my job to help more. It's been 3 months and his sex drive is till low. He's been getting testosterone shots to help his energy level but they haven't seemed to improve it at all. Of course I've also wanted to get pregnant again, been wanting to for a while but of course with no sex you can't get pregnant. I've had lot's of conversations with my partner about these issues, and he says he just doesn't have the energy but I don't know what to do? I want to have sex at least 3 or 4 mtimes a week so it's pretty hard for me to not have any!

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Camille - posted on 08/22/2012

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Men are visual...have him watch you play with the toy and he might get turned on.

Danielle - posted on 08/22/2012

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He's not into lingerie, I have talked very thoroughly about the issue and he usually says I should find someone younger than that can fulltill my needs, but I don't want to leave him becasue we're not having enough sex I feel like that would be selfish. As for Cammille's comment, I'm not really into those things. I think you should be able to be turned on by your partner without the need of "toys", but thanks anyways. :D

Adrienne - posted on 08/18/2012

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well it is common for men to have low sex drive at a certain point but its our job to communicate and kinda set the mood to try to let them know that sex should be very much important as if it was your first time. have you talked to him about how you feel? if not do so and then start off by setting the mood for him to notice you dress sexy at night put on lingerie and see what happens. hope this helped

Adrienne

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