Trish - posted on 02/15/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




I am 4 and a half months pregnant with our 3rd child.. we have an almost 3 year old girl and a 17 month son, neither of which go to daycare or have been babysat. My issue is that I have no libido, even though I really want to. Its affecting my partner and he feels like Im rejecting him :( I am feeling very sad because I have gotten to the point of just lying there so he can have sex. Does anyone have any suggestions to help me get my libido back? Before I fell pregnant again he was having trouble keeping up with me and almost instantly it just stopped.


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Jennifer - posted on 02/15/2010




i'm about 4 months pregnant and i've been losing mine as well...i've read that it is completely normal so dont worry too much about it. I've found that using lubricants and stuff like that does help to make it more enjoyable for me, but i still dont want it as much as my bf wants it. Just talk to your partner and try new things and see what works and maybe it will increase it once you find positions or things that make it better for you your libido will go up. I'm hoping the same for me too!

Lauren - posted on 02/15/2010




I used to have a huge libido before I got pregnant and now I am the same way. Mine I think is partially worrying about the baby all the time. I know that nothing can happen, but it's just a mental thing. I also have problems getting to that point, I try to have sex with my husband, but it is super hard to get anywhere because of my body just being turned off by sex now. We just try and we decided to use some lubricant and just try it every once and a while and after we finally get to it and I am back into it again so mabye just try and if you are having a hard time getting into the mood then just use some lubricant and just try, just doing it gets me back into the mood again.

Sarah - posted on 02/15/2010




I'm sorry i can't help but i think it is normal during pregnacy. Unfortunately even when i'm not preganant i have no libido :( I've often wondered what it would be like to have a sex drive. I know there are suppliments you can take to help in this area but i don't think you can take them while your pregnant. Your partner should think himslef lucky that you are still making love with him, even when you don't feel like it. It is a hard thig to solve. I'm still in the process of it with my partner. He wants to make love with me, but only when i want it, but then wants it all the time. Confusing hey? I think it comes down to communication and getting yourself in the mood which can be hard. If i prepare myself for the day, i can feel sexy and make him feel special too. hope this helps :)

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