Making ends meet

Hazina - posted on 05/04/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )




Hello girls,

So I am almost 7 mths pregnant and I make more money then my bf. He does as much as he can but it's not enough. I tell him all the stuff that I have to pay for and it doesn't seem like he cares. I feel like he should get another job but how do i tell him that without it turning into a big argument. I'm thinking in the long run, if we're having trouble now imagine how its going to be when there is a baby, but he doesn't seem to get it. Anyone have any suggestions or that have been in a simliar situation.


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Tammy - posted on 05/16/2015




That's a tough situation. Some men are so weird about things when their wives/gf's make more than them. What it comes down to though is that the conversation does need to happen. Remember when you bring it up to keep in mind that he's probably feeling inadequate and scared and therefore you'll need to help him around that. I was the bread winner in my family and then suddenly was put on bed rest. I told my husband, "This is very scary financially for me, but I trust you. I know that you'll find a way to make this work for us and I will certainly help in any way that I can." I think that even if you don't feel like you're trusting him 100%, if you tell him that you need him, and give him a little time/space to figure it out, he might surprise you. Also, a formal list of the bills/amounts/items needed for baby, etc. might help him to visualize things.

Then, if he doesn't step up, you'll have to make decisions for your family. For your sake, I hope he steps up!

Congrats on the baby!

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