My husband breathes too loud in bed.

Jillian - posted on 04/06/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )

7

7

0

I am pregnant again and I cannot sleep in the same bed as my husband because of his breathing/snoring. He has been so sweet sleeping on the couch but he can't keep doing it and I hate not sharing a bed with him. I tried earplugs and they are just too uncomfortable. Has this happened to anyone else? Any suggestions?

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

[deleted account]

My husband is a very heavy, loud breather all the time. He sounds like Darth Vader when he breathes, and its like this when he breaths through is mouth as well. He also snores. We've been married almost 22 years and I've had to resort to wearing ear plugs and headphones that play white noise music, to drown him out. He now uses a CPAP machine, and it's worked great. He still breathes very loud, and we aren't sure what causes that. Most people breathe silently, but not him.

Michele - posted on 04/06/2010

12

5

2

Awww, I feel your pain!!!! I don't really have any advice, unfortunately, but I wanted to let you know you are not alone. My man has always snored and I can usually just elbow him and he rolls over and that was it. He would continue to snore but as long as he was facing away from me, I was fine. And then I got pregnant.... Ugh! Now when he snores, I wanted to punch him in the face! No joke, it annoys the crap out of me and grates on my last nerve. I feel terrible because I keep elbowing him and waking him up all throughout the night but I can't help it. It's the only thing I have a short fuse with since I've been pregnant - I've actually been in a perpetual good mood - but I just can't take the snoring! Sorry you are going through this too but know you are not alone.

[deleted account]

Your husband should be tested for sleep apnea. My husband (only 37) was diagnosed about 6 months ago. His snoring was so bad and he never felt rested. I was constantly jabbing him in the ribs (both of us were not happy). Now he has a machine he sleeps with. I know it's not sexy, but SOOOO much better and he gets a great sleep too. Find a sleep place in your town. All he had to do to get tested was sleep with a little thing on his finger (it tests the oxygen in his blood and tells the Dr's how many times he wakes up during the night). It doesn't hurt to try.
Here's a website if you're interested http://irscanada.ca/main/services/sleep-...

Jillian - posted on 04/07/2010

7

7

0

This seemed to work.
http://www.purewhitenoise.com/
There were times when I had to turn it up a bit. It is not an ideal way to sleep but my husband was able to stay in bed all night with me which makes us all happy. Everyone including my 3 year old slept in this morning. I hope this continues to work.
Good luck ladies.

Kelly - posted on 04/06/2010

78

9

13

Yes, happened to us. My husband has been sleeping in the spare room for like 4 or 5 months, it started when he was sick for over a month with a bad cough. Now it is just the snoring. It does suck, but it is the only way I can get a decent nights sleep. When I am not pregnant I sleep more sound, so hopefully he will be back in our bed in a couple of weeks. Sorry I don't have any suggestions for you, good luck!

13 Comments

View replies by

Jennifer - posted on 04/07/2010

43

18

3

i am so glad i found this conversation! my bf rolls onto his back or side and snores right into or next to my ear all the time! i'm glad i'm not the only mom out there elbowing their significant other all the time in the middle of the night! the sound just drives me nuts! with the baby moving around and constant trips to the bathroom i already dont sleep well and him snoring in my ear isnt helping any! i definately think i will try to listen to music to see if it helps! i've been able to tolerate it if he rolls onto his side facing away from me, but some nights...i tell you the pillow over the head sounds better and better...ok totally kidding but i've really thought about sleeping on the couch a few times!

Claire - posted on 04/07/2010

9

6

1

my husband snores and it drives me crazy, i often give him a dig in the ribs!!
i find its worse if he sleeps on his back tho, he doesn't snore half as loadly if he's on his side.
hope this helps. :)

Kerry - posted on 04/07/2010

19

117

1

I am so glad I found this conversation! I've been feeling increasingly guilty as my partner has been sleeping on a single mattress at the end of our bed for months now, sometimes he sleeps in the spare room if I'm having a particularly uncomfortable, sleepless night. I started to need the space in the bed to roll over as I was experiencing severe cramps in my legs and back (I have back problems anyway) and recently his breathing has been keeping me awake too! I feel so sorry for him, especially as I literally yell at him to hold his breath when his snoring or heavy breathing wakes me up in the wee hours! He has been very patient with me though, bless him. I am enjoying being pregnant but the uncomfortable nights are a killer, although I guess it's excellent practice for when the baby does arrive :) Plus I'll be much happier when I can have him back in bed with me!

Jillian - posted on 04/06/2010

7

7

0

wow. Thanks ladies. It is good to know I am not alone. My husband has tried to sleep on his side but cannot stay that way. I downloaded some ocean wave noise and put it on our ipod. I am going to attempt to sleep with earbuds in to the soothing sounds of the ocean. I will let you know how it works.

Stephanie - posted on 04/06/2010

21

17

2

This pregnancy my husband has been snoring horribly!!!! That and he tries to sleep on me and the next day says he was trying to "snuggle" with me. AH!

Mellissa - posted on 04/06/2010

111

9

18

I used to love it when my boyfriend snored. Snoring has always put me to sleep. So imagine my horror when I got pregnant his snoring outright pisses me off! I started making him roll over and face away from me when he started snoring and that seemed to help quite a bit. It seemed if he wasn't snoring right in my ear I could deal with it. In the beginning I did try unisom. It's an over the counter sleep aid that is safe to take when you are pregnant. That worked great, I just got to the point that I decided that one way or another I was going to figure out how to get over it. I have gotten over it and most of the time I don't even hear him anymore. Only when he's snoring loud enough I can hear him downstairs does it bother me. I just conditioned myself in the end. I hope you find something that works for you!

Sharaina - posted on 04/06/2010

25

19

4

aww,how sweet of him.i haven't had the same problem as that,but my hubby sweats and hogs the bed,i usually go to bed a few hours before him,so by the time he crawls into bed,i am fast asleep.have you tried snore strips!! lol

Ashley - posted on 04/06/2010

910

45

83

hmmm... did you try listening to music? Or putting a pillow over your husbands face? kidding. Thankfully my boyfriend hasn't snored too much this pregnancy and when he does he understands my elbow to the ribs. Does your husband sleep on his side or back? I know that if my boyfriend sleeps on his back he snores but his side is nice peaceful sleep. anyway I hope some of this helped.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms