Name trouble - husband and i cant agree on ANYTHING!

Alexandria - posted on 01/15/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )




Hi ladies,

I am 24 weeks pregnant (still a while left to go), but husband and i are having some problems picking names. He is stuck on one name for a girl and thats it he does even want to discuss other options. He really likes the grils name Miley and says we are going to use that. I also like the name but i dont want people to think that we are naming her after Hannah Montana and i know they will cause with that name comes everyone thinking of her. Also if her name was Miley Grace and kids are gonna call her Smiley Face (sounds very similar) so i want him to look at other options with me. But he is stuborn and wont even discuss it with me :(

Also since we are not finding out the sex there is a good chance that the baby could be a boy so what if it is a boy we can hardly name him Miley lol. So i am looking for suggestions on how i can get my husband more interested in getting some names sorted!!

Thanks in advance.


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Amber - posted on 02/08/2010




I have no idea, my boyfriend doesn't seem to care at all about names, at least not yet, I am 16 1/2 weeks. I have two lists one for boys and one for girls. My personal opinion is that you are doing all the work in this, with the carrying of the baby for 9 months, the labor, breastfeeding (only if you are), etc., shouldn't you have at least a 51% vote in the matter? :) But to be civil about it maybe make a list and put Miley as number one, to appease, and then start adding other names underneath, and if you really don't like Miley, maybe a good compromise would be using it as a middle name??? A boy list will be necessary as well I would think, especially since you aren't finding out. Maybe even put it up where friends and family could vote on the list :). Not that other peoples opinions should matter, but you might be surprised at their reaction to names. Here is a funny story regarding names... My mom and dad had my little sister and while my dad was out of the room my mom named her Fawn Marie, they put it on the birth certificate and everything. My dad came back in the room and to his surprise it was all wrapped up, my little sister's name was Fawn Marie. At that point he quite adamantly suggested that they change the birth certificate because he wasn't having his daughter named Fawn Marie, so my mom asked him what he wanted her called and he said Christy and so that is her name. My mom named her middle name, after herself and my middle name so Fawn Marie became Christy Lynne. Maybe they were in lack of a little communication????

Stephanie - posted on 02/07/2010




My fiance and I are naming it.. if a boy.. Robert Allen.. and if a Girl... Michelle Samantha Lori. Luckily we both like the names, as he had the boys name already picked out since he was young, and I already had the girls name picked out after my mother who passed since I was young. Hope these help!

Megan - posted on 02/07/2010




I was kinda like your husband and was really stuck on one name for our daughter, I had this name picked out FOREVER until I looked up the meaning and found out that it ment "bitter". That made me change my mind! I told my husband that I didn't want to give my child a name with a negative meaning! Try looking up different origins and meanings and try to build a strong name for your child.

Michelle - posted on 02/05/2010




Kids are so cruel when they are in grade school , and unfortunately a name can become a stigma for a child and make them feel cursed !
Miley does make me think of the god aweful Hanna Montana .

On the bright side first time mom to be's generally when it comes to filling out birth information , you get a say so and what ever you put down sticks !
And when in doubt , run the name across some of your friends , or better yet get someone he doesn't care for to say how wonderful the name is ! LOL ! All it took with my ex was to have my mother say how she loved the name he picked out . He then picked out a better , less made fun of name !

Belinda - posted on 02/05/2010




OMG!!!! that sounds so familiar. My husband and I just recently found out we are having another boy, but that was one of the names he picked out for a girl..and I was afraid of the Hannah Montana and instead of the nickname smiley face his was smiley funny what guys come up with.the other odd part grace was the name i had picked to go with it, that is if we used it..haha. but we arent we are definatley having another boy.

Jenny - posted on 01/24/2010




I'm at 38 weeks today and we still haven't figured out a name for ours. Part of the problem is that our sonogram wasn't very clear on what the sex was gonna be....the technician said probably a girl but she wasn't very sure and I can't get another sonogram done. We just can't seem to agree on anything, I think most of it is because this is our third and we just can't seem to find a name that we really like and have fallen in love with. With the first two it was easier but I think thats cuz I fell in love with their names right away as soon as they popped in my head. Plus we knew when we had a boy he would be named Jeremiah, after a passed cousin of my husbands. My daughter, 6, is Shayla Mackari....and my son, 2 is Jeremiah Jayden

Andrea - posted on 01/19/2010




We had the exact same problem. One day I suggested we each create a list of names. One of the stipulations was that the list had to consist of more then just 1 name. Then once we did that, we bounced our ideas off of our closest friends to see what they thought as well. Eventually we both ended up agreeing on a name that was not on either of our names list. Choosing a name is a great time to get together with your spouse and spend quality time. Try to google names and just run them buy him as you guys are watching t.v. Who knows...maybe it will work. I do agree with you though...Miley is automatically going to trigger Hannah Montana in most peoples minds.

Vanessa - posted on 01/19/2010




LMAO! I am 31.5 wks into my first pregnancy and my husband and I DO NOT discuss names anymore! We cannot agree on anything and just argue and argue about it so it's a taboo subject. We don't know the sex of our lil bug and everytime the subject is raised now I just say "It''ll be born with a name of it's lips!" - I hope otherwise lil bug with remain nameless till it's 3 I expect. :)

Rebecca - posted on 01/19/2010




hehe I seriously wouldn't be worrying about that. When you see your bub, you will think of something. My partner and I only agreed on one name while I was pregnant with my daughter, then when we finally met her, neither of us thought that it suited her. She remained unnamed for a week after she was born, until one of us just came up with her name, the other loved it and that was it! My brother remained unnamed for 6 weeks after he was born. I'm currently 17 weeks pregnant with our second baby and neither of us have brought up the names subject, nor do I feel we need to at the moment. It's seriously not something to be worrying about, it'll get a name when it's time. Bec :)

Brenda - posted on 01/19/2010




when you figure it out let me know! my husband is insistant on Lykkee... i absolutley hate it!! he just wont budge! and wont agree to a boy name we had previously agreed to because i wont agree to his girl name! ugh.. sometime it might be easier to be single LOL

Jennifer - posted on 01/15/2010




hahaha I am having the same issue! My husband & I have VERY popular names (they haven't left the top 100 in like over ten years!) so I did not want that for our children. Our first child was a girl & I fell in love with the name Rowyn which is actually a boy name but I changed the spelling of it, & he loved it too. Unfortunately now we are expecting a boy (thats not unfortunate) & he wants to name it Thomas after him & his father. It would be a Jr or a 3rd since they have different middle names but I don't like it. His dad is Tom & he is Tommie so my boy would be stuck with Thomas. I told him I am more than willing to keep it as a middle name or use his father's or his middle name as the middle name but I want some a little different for the first name. So we are still looking as well since boy names seem to be a lot harder to decide on! Good Luck!

Carolee - posted on 01/15/2010




I would probably bring to his attention that you could go for Miles for a boy (you can also call him by a middle name if one of you likes it and the other doesn't), and maybe that will get him to open up about different girl's names. I know what you're going through, though. My son was born when High School Musical was uber popular, and his name is Corbin Eloy. People always thought I'd named him after either Corbin Bleau or Corbin Dallas from the Fifth Element movie. Neither is true... it's the only boy's name in the baby name book that I didn't hate! It fits him, though, and I love it now. Just start writing a huge list of names for both boys and girls until you both agree (you can also both write down names, and then whichever ones match, pick between those).

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