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Chevyionnie T - posted on 03/20/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I'm 18 years old and my boyfriend is 20.e and him both feel like were ready for a child but dont know where to . Im already taking prenatal vitamins and we plan to conceive in August two months after I turn 19 and deliver around may when i turn 20 and he'll be 21 where do we start.

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Trisha - posted on 03/20/2015

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When you two feel like you are emotionally, mentally and financially stable. I would not embark on this journey unless I have been living with someone for a long time first though.
I am having my first in 1.5 months. Before we started trying, we got married, we paid off all of our debt, went through counselling and had been living together for 3 years. We are now confident in so many ways that we took the right steps, and we now have VERY little to stress about in regards to the baby.
Stress can be very damaging to the health of your baby.

Also, we live in Canada, so we started trying with the plan of me being pregnant over the winter (so it wouldn't be so hot).

Good luck. I hope you can figure out what is right for you.

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Trisha - posted on 03/20/2015

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Honestly, you seem a bit young, and if you are doubting yourself maybe you need a bit of time. BUT, what sort of doubts do you have? Why do you want to start a family at 18?

What sort of benefits will you have when you have the baby? I am in Canada, so having a baby for me is almost free, but elsewhere it costs a lot of people a lot of money.

I have been working for 4 years at the same job, and I will get paid 85% of my wage after I leave for work for 6 weeks, THEN I get paid 55% of my wage for the remainder of a year (Yay, Canada).

If me, my baby, husband and stepson need any sort of medical care we have benefits that cover most of it.

If you have to go back to work, who will watch your child? Will you have to pay for daycare? What happens if the baby gets sick? You, or your boyfriend will have to take off work to take care of them because the daycare wont. Could you afford to take that time off? Would your work be able to handle that sort of inconsistency?

I don't mean to overwhelm you, but this is such a huge commitment to make for yourself, and with another person.

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