need Support, 21 and pregnant with my second baby.

Katya - posted on 06/03/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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So I juust found out that Im pregnant again for my second time. I just had my first last year in February. Im freaking out and overwhelmed because we habe no money but my boyfriend doesn't seem to be as concerned as me. Also I don't think he realizes how hard it is to watch a baby and be pregnant. being pregnant without a toddler was hard enough. I just need someone to talk to. Its just me my boyfriend and our baby all day. its pretty exhausting. I wonder if im the only 21 year old having babys back to back.

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Jessica - posted on 07/28/2013

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I had mine 4 years apart...But there is a chance I am pregnant with my third and my second is only 9 months. One thing I learned is that your health is more important than cleaning or anything else. Sometimes it's hard to let things get dirty and such and yes, at a certain point you should clean up. But don't stress out about it. Also, feel free to message me at any time. Here or on facebook. I work part time but for the most part I'm at home.

Denikka - posted on 06/10/2013

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I was 19 when I had my first, 21 with my second, and now I'm 23 and pregnant (36 weeks) with my third. My first 2 are 22 months apart. I know how hard it is.
My hubby is NOT a worrier. He's a go with the flow kind of guy and figures that everything will just work out in the end. And he's generally right. Things usually DO work out in the end, but that's generally after some major worrying and juggling and figuring things out on my end :P

It might be good for you to get out. There are tons of mommy groups out there where you can pretty much just sit and relax and let your little run around and play. If your little one enjoys movies, I found that it helped a lot to just sit down with a movie once a day at the time when I was most tired. I'd cuddle with my oldest and let him watch while I dozed. It's a lot more difficult now that there's 2 older kids (4 and 2) but I still manage it occasionally :)

Don't worry too much about the housework. I've found that picking a couple things that have to be done daily (washing laundry, dishes, and sweeping the floor for me) and getting them done, then I just judge how I feel that day as to what else I feel like I could do. Sometimes I get a ton of stuff done, even extra baking or whatever, and there are some days that those 3 things are ALL I accomplish. I also get my kids to help me out as much as they can, especially now that I'm huge and things like bending down are getting much more difficult. Kids are much more capable than adults generally give them credit for. Try it out and see what your little one can do :) It won't be perfect, but as long as it's decent, don't sweat it too much :)

Carla - posted on 06/07/2013

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Hi there
I'm 23, about to have my second son in about 2 months.
I get were your coming from, my husbands a bit of a slacker most of the time i have to send him up north to work because he hops jobs when he's working in town. He just dosent seems to care as much about the money as i do.
Plus its hard with him working out of tow neither way it kinda sucks.

How far along are you?

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