Never been more angry in my life

Thea - posted on 04/15/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )




sooo for the most part im usually a down to earth very calm rational person, and lately my hormones have been out of control, and i freak the heck out super fast. so much has changed with me i dont even listedn to the same music any more and i am having a really hard time, adjusting with all these changes... am i going to be this angry when my baby gets here if soo thats freaking scary and i only have 8 weeks left she is my first. so i dont really know what to expect. i just hope that this short crazy uncontrolable temper goes away i get mad over practically nothing all the time and i really just want this to be an enjoyable experience what can i do any one else have the same problem?


Kristin - posted on 04/16/2010




This is normal and no you usually don't stay this angry/nuts. How are you sleeping? With 8 weeks to go, I suspect you are terribly uncomfortable, have to pee ALOT, and just kind of want to be done. Do not feel bad about anything you are feeling, just watch for feeling of wanting to hurt yourself or someone else. Try to find some quiet time just for yourself. Do something special, 'cause these days of freedom are just about gone. Now is a really good and important time to take care of yourself; eat right, get as much rest as you can, get in some exercise (natural mood lifter), maybe a little nookie if you feel inclined, get out with your friends and family who lift your spirits, talk to the people you talk to when you are having rough day, if you need to vent then do it.

And most importantly CUT YOURSELF SOME SLACK! You are going through monumental changes and it's okay to feel a little hostile over stupid stuff that doesn't have to change. We are here for you too.

Angie - posted on 04/23/2010




Hormones they go all over the place one min you happy next min your crying, one im your angry next min your calm. Nature deals a cruel hand in this one unfortunately. Tell the husband/partner not to be upset if you snap same with other family members and close friends its just your hormones acting up. I am 7 weeks pregnant and already my face looks as if I am going through the teenage years and I snap at the slightest little things stuff I would not normally snap over. Just go with the flow. Once you meet your beautiful baby all angry issues should clear up as I think most mothers are glad to see the back of pregnancy and see what it brings in the long run.


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John - posted on 02/24/2013




My girlfriend was the sweetest nicest girl. Never drank, did drugs or smoked. Now, at 15 weeks, she left me at 11 weeks. I'm devastated and she's reconnected with her old BFF and she convinced her to ditch me. Yeah I've made mistakes but I've had a tremendous change over her leaving and this baby and I miss her so much. She's just full of hateful words and things I thought she could never say ESP to me! She hates me and won't even talk to me. I'm having the hardest time of my life. She's 19 and I'm 25. Idk what to do but I really hope it's just hormones and I haven't really lost her and she doesn't really mean the horrible things she's saying... Idk.

Jane - posted on 04/19/2010




hormones! aren't they great? even more fun the few days after the baby when you're crying uncontrollably and can't figure out why. hormones have no place to go for a while. it helps if you breastfeed to give them a new role.
ALSO calm mom, calm baby. once they put that little cutie pie in your arms you will most likely melt away into motherhood. if you don't, just call your OB for some help.
post-partum depression is very real and you can find help w/a therapist.
and my personal choice - get the epidural. pain is very tiring and you're going to be tired enough from labor. you need all of the relief you can get.
good luck!

Katie - posted on 04/19/2010




i'm 30 weeks and i was the same way pre pregnancy... calm easy going... but now i can flip the switch and go from calm to fire breathing dragon in like a mili-second!! ur not alone. some people really enjoy pregnancy while some of us, well... don't. i feel that as soon as ur baby is placed in ur arms all thiings will balance themselves out...

Bridget - posted on 04/17/2010




It's very normal. I get very irritable when I'm pregnant. My husband almost cannot stand to be around me when I'm pregnant. It subsides quickly after the baby. As soon as I delivered I was overcome with complete happiness then sometimes things made me cry easily. It's all due to wacky hormones.

Michelle Miguel - posted on 04/16/2010




very normal dear! also have to talk to your partner about post natal depression. You'll need the best support you can get, try to get busy after giving plan the baptismal of the baby...your hormones get crazy again after giving birth, so watch out for it...2 weeks maximum for whatever depression or crazy emotions you feel, if you go over that, you have to seek medical help to keep it normal again...take note: fathers of newborn babies may have post paternal depression too..and it may show even after A YEAR your baby's born.

Teresa - posted on 04/16/2010




ive noticed myself getting alittle grumpy lately this is my second baby i dont remember being grouchy at all with my daughter. im hoping it settles down too..

Allison - posted on 04/16/2010




Yep, same with me - I was VERY emotional, irritated by EVERY thing my hubby would do - felt like life was totally unfair and everyone was being mean to me...but I totally relaxed after my baby was born and had a real natural high for months :) Also, (3 years later) I am MUCH less emotional than I was before the pregnancy - I have had anxiety etc. since high school, but now it is all gone! So I think it evened out my hormones in the end, and being a mom you have so many other things to focus on! I hope the same happens for you!

Carolee - posted on 04/16/2010




I'm usually a pretty laid-back person, but I'm uber-agressive when I'm pregnant. It's normal, and you will turn back into yourself a few weeks after the baby's born. Don't worry.

Lacey - posted on 04/16/2010




I was SO angry in the first rimester and am again now that I'm almost done (I'm due today). I would get mad at everything. When my husband stole the blankets at night I would cover his face with a pillow until he woke up so that I could yell at him. I have yelled at people in the grocery store who I thought were irritating. I yelled a a kid in my way on the escalator and then at his parents for letting him run around without supervision. I am on the phone a lot for work and when people use incorrect grammar I correct them. I doubt I'll be like this when the baby gets here, after my hormones have leveled out. I'll let you know. :)

Chelsea Cleo - posted on 04/16/2010




I had the same thing happen to me and trust me, its very very normal!!!
Once you have your baby your hormones take up to about 6 weeks to settle down. I dont think you will have time for any anger once your little bundle of joy arrives! I got so angry over little things it actually got in the way of my relationship with my partner and he got down because i was down a lot. Try things like sitting in a nice warm bath untill you feel like getting out, sit on the couch with your legs up with a hot water bottle and do things that make you feel good. It doesnt last forever and your not alone!

Denise - posted on 04/16/2010




There has been a week here and there that my hormones get crazy and every little thing seems to get on my was scaring me too because I am a very laid back person verry in control of my emotions. I have a little girl that is almost 4 and gosh....seemed like she was trying to do everything to push buttons. I found myself crying because I thought I was just to short with her. I know she is going through emotions herself with the baby coming.... seemed like nothing would work to calm my nerves....then finally my hormones balanced back out! i thought I was going to go insane! But I do a lot of Yoga and exercise which helped tremendously ! So glad things are back to normal. Try surrounding yourself with calming things....try some aroma therapy, lavender is very calming or chamomile.

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