OB or Midwife?

Laura - posted on 01/22/2011 ( 13 moms have responded )

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I need an opinion...What is best an OB or a Midwife? I have both. The clinic I go to has a midwife that works along side several OB-GYN. This way I get all the attention I need and deserve. My midwife sees me regularly and has the Dr.'s there if she needs another opinion. But I want to know what you girls think. And please explain why

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Laura - posted on 01/23/2011

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I have had 4 children all with OB's and they haven't been the most pleasent birthing experiences. The thing that I like about a Midwife is she is your advocate. She will be honest with you and won't push you into anything you don't want to do. Kendall if you have time watch the business of being born. It is a documentary about the difference between Midwives and OB's.

Philitsa - posted on 01/24/2011

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Midwife, hands down! I've done both, and my midwife was encouraging, focused on my health and well being as well as the baby. She helped me focus on important topics and gave advice on an as-needed basis. I never got a "pushy" vibe at all; not sure where people are coming from on that. Birth is a natural process. Unless there is something medically wrong with you or the baby, there is no reason to get doctors involved. Would you send your kid to the dentist when their baby teeth fell out? As long as everything was normal, no! Same with the birthing process. Thank goodness for OBs, but free up them up to help women who need them!

Kymberly - posted on 01/26/2011

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Midwife! I had one when my daughter was born 16 months ago and I've been seeing the same one with my current pregnancy (22 weeks) :D I love the fact that they believe your body was made to deliver babies and don't push drugs on you. Mine won't even offer you have to specifically ask for them! Which works out perfect because I went drug free last time and plan on doing it again :D she was also giving me a foot massage while I was in labor! I ♥ her to death!

Cyndel - posted on 01/27/2011

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An obstetrician should only be used for high risk pregnancies. An ob is a surgeon and usually feel helpless with a perfectly normal birth because they concentrated their studies on what to do during problematic deliveries.
It is great to have one on stand-by just in case. But I would say stick with a mid-wife if your pregnancy is normal. This doesn't mean you can't have an epi or other things you want. Most of the mid-wives who try to focus on drug-free deliveries work in clinics that are off site from hospitals, with a hospital nearby in case of unforeseen circumstances. But mid-wives are trained to deal with the 95% normal deliveries and are less likely to use intervention (such as induction by pitocin which can sometimes cause contractions to come so hard, long, and fast that it makes it difficult for the baby to get the oxigen needed and can send the baby into distress, causing the need for forceps, vaccum extraction or c-sec.) unless it is truly called for.
But honestly it is about comfort, if an ob makes you more comfortable then a midwife then go for it. Do the research though. never make decisions about a doctor or medical treatment etc. with out research and talking to multiple doctors and patients. Only then can you make the most informed decision about what is best for you and your baby.
Personally, I prefer midwives as long as my pregnancy is normal. I feel doctors are too prone to unnecessary intervention, it isn't their fault as they are given the mindset in school that birth is a medical emergency not a natural process that, except in about 5% of the cases, just needs to be let alone to do what it does.

Dora - posted on 01/24/2011

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I love my OB. He actually has a sign posted in the waiting room advising everyone that there may be a wait because he does NOT rush his patients out. Believe it or not it is completely true. He takes his time with you and answers every question you have. he will make recommendations and if you don't agree then he will work with you. Before heading off to the hospital he wanted me to go to his office to make sure I was at least 4 centimeters so the hospital wouldn't turn me away. Then when I went he kept checking in on me until it was time to start pushing. He was calming and made me feel so comfortable. He even made us laugh during my pushing. When my son was half way out he raised my sons hand and said hi mommy hi daddy I am here. It was an experience I will NEVER forget. I am now pregnant with my 2nd and am using the same doctor. I wouldn't have it any other way. He is a doctor with amazing bedside manners and does not allow insurance companies to run his office.

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Katherine - posted on 01/31/2011

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i am so for ob. I would be a worry wort if something bad happened. my 2 girls were both born in hospitals. Very happy my last one was was having preterm labor from 5 mon on.

Cristy - posted on 01/31/2011

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I love, love, love my OB! She is so awesome! She has delivered my first 3 babies because she happened to be on call when I was in labor, but I sure am hoping she can deliver this one too! I had fertility issues, preterm labor with my first baby, bedrest and preterm labor with my twins (also high-risk) and my OB remembers everything about me. She let me off of hospitalized bedrest with my twins at 34 weeks, but she was on vacation and actually called the hospital to make sure they sent me home that day. I just can't say enough good things about my OB.

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I go to a clinic that has an OB and a midwife option. I had fertility issues and started out with the OBGyn and stayed with him through my first pregnancy. He was a dream, anticipated all my questions and even ones I didn't realize I had. He has been in practice for over 20 years so I am sure that helped. I had one or two appts where I had to see one of the midwives and they were very nice but I was so scared/nervous during our first pregnancy since we had such trouble that the medical degree just made me more comfortable. In the end I had to have a c-section so I was thrilled that I had stuck with my OB through it all because he was the one to perform the surgery and he kept me very calm through the procedure. He talked to me as he started and after they took the baby out to the nursery he continued to chat with me and joke to keep the mood light because it was a little scary being in there. He also had one of the midwives assist during the c-section. Now that I am pregnant with my second child I insisted on my OB for all my appointments. Mostly because I have to have a c-section again. I was happy he hadn't retired yet because he really has a very good bedside manner and never makes me feel dumb for asking a silly question and has always been supportive. He treats both the physical aspects of pregnancy as well as the emotional aspects and that is why I really love seeing him. Although as I type this I am starting to wonder if he really is a midwife in disguise. :)

Stifler's - posted on 01/24/2011

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Yeah I agree mine were really supportive of me having the baby myself and my body knowing what to do and birth being a natural process.

Vanessa - posted on 01/23/2011

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Midwife!!! yes they can be a bit bossy afterwards, but dont forget they see women everyday who think they're the only women in the world who's ever had a baby! During labor theyre more supportive than an OB!

Kera - posted on 01/23/2011

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I'd definitely go with a mid-wife. But my daughter was born at 30 weeks, so now, round 2, I'm a high-risk pregnancy, and midwives won't treat me. (Sighs) Oh, how I longed to give in the birthing center rather than the hospital, like our birthing plan originally stated...

Stifler's - posted on 01/23/2011

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Midwife! I never even saw and obstetrician except at the 35 week checkup. There wasn't even one present at the birth. This is pretty standard here.

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