Pregnant with twins, 11 mo and 3 yr old, what am I goin to do!!!!!!,

Leanne - posted on 02/17/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Hello everyone,
I found out I was pregnant last week and as I'm currently finding it stressful enough with my first 2 me and my partner decided the best thing to do, was to get an abortion! I went to the consultation with my mum as my partner and I don't drive so he had to stay with kids, I had a scan and was shocked to find out I was 11 weeks when I have been having periods all through regularly, and just to scare me a bit more they told me it was twins!
I did not book my treatment as I was in shock, for some reason it being twins made me confused on whether I should keep them.
We decided to get the abortion at the beginning because would could not afford 1 more baby and I find the two I have already very time consuming and stressful, so there is no way we could afford a triple pushchair or new beds, car seats etc.
I have always said I would never have an abortion but now I feel I need to do what is right by my kids not me! And think maybe it would be selfish for me to have babies just cus I don't want an abortion.
4 kids under 4 scares me lol I am only 22,
Has anyone been in this situation or got any advice?

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Courtney - posted on 02/19/2013

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What a stressful situation you are in right now. I think you really need to consider how it will affect you emotionally to have an abortion. First off, let me say that I am without a doubt pro-choice and I empathize with your fears. It sounds like you have your mom involved though, which is a positive sign for social support. If you want these babies, then have them. Financially, it will definitely be difficult but I do believe that all things are manageable. It is not selfish to have a baby (or two) at all. You have the right to choose though. It's not an easy decision and ultimately only you and your partner can decide what is best. Regardless of your decision though, you should look into support groups for parents of multiples and also post-abortion. Talk to someone from both and make an educated choice.
Have you spoke with a counselor about this yet? I think it would also be a good idea to be able to talk with a professional about your fears and concerns and really sort through your feelings.

I wish there was a right or wrong answer but there's not. I wish you the best of luck though and will keep you and your family in my thoughts.

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