Second thoughts...

Gabi - posted on 07/10/2010 ( 21 moms have responded )

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Well, not really second thoughts... Anyway, I'm 36 weeks pregnant with my first baby... A girl. Up until now I thought I could do it. As of today, I'm not so sure... Has anyone else thought like this?

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Anita-Natasha - posted on 07/16/2010

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My boyfriend and I own our own company. Up until last Sunday, I was confident I could do this. But then the girl who does my job at our company took a job bartending and we ended up having to fire her because of skipping shifts. I'm due in about 4 weeks, so we don't have time to train someone else.

I was totally confidant I could do this before because I was planning to just take a week off work, maybe two if I was having a hard time adjusting, but then with this girl fucking us at work, I'm freaking out. How am I going to go back to working 44 hours a week + raising a baby + breastfeeding + trying to fit sleep in there + recovering from the pain of labor imediately after I get discharged from the hospital.

Now I feel like I am making a horrible decision and that I'm going to go insane trying to handle all of this. I'm really scared and really pissed. And since it's our company, I can't really "file for maternity leave" and with the economy being as lousy as it is, we can't afford for me to take off 2 weeks of work because of how much money we will lose. :(

Vanessa - posted on 07/10/2010

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YEP!
for the first three days after I had my son (now almost 6) I sat in the hospital bed and just cried and cried.
don't discount hormones as being a disgusting contributor to this either! if you don't bond with your little princess straight up, it doesn't matter - you soon will! I looked at my boy countless times and wondered how the hell I could do this, but all it takes is for their little face to light up when they see you walk into the room and your hooked! They don't judge you if your hair is unwashed or you've worn the same track pants for three days in a row!
We're now expecting baby #3 in the house and I looked at my overflowing laundry and piled up kitchen and cringed, but I know I wouldn't have it any other way!

Lisa - posted on 07/11/2010

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I felt that way with my first child. It took almost three months for me to actually realize that I was a mother, even though I was going through the motions of caring for, nursing and all that good stuff! It was mental for me. I was 29 at the time and my whole life I didn't want children and then one day...I was pregnant. So mentally it took a lot of adjusting...

But now with my second one, another mental hurdle I have to overcome. I found out I was pregnant while I was at my consultation to get my tubes tied. This pregnancy however is different. I am excited because I know "how" to be pregnant and what to expect, so to speak. But I have 6 more months fully become mentally ready. And I wouldn't change my son or this pregnancy for the world! :) I love being a mom and it will all come to you, it will!

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Brianna - posted on 01/13/2011

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yes. I was soo scared when i had my first. after she was born i was in the hospital and i was so scared to be left alone with her cuz i was scared that i wouldnt no what to do. so first night with baby at the hospital my hubby went home at 11pm (husband arent aloud to sleep at the hospital after baby is born which i a stupid rule) always i had no choice but to take care of her on my own i mean the nurses were around and were great but i had to do the majority of stuff on my own and i was so scared. But as soon as i was alone and forced to do it on my own everything just "clicked" i was suddenly just "knew" what i was doing and started feeling alot more confindent. Im now pregnant with my second and we were trying for this one and after i got pregnant cold feet started to set it lol. but i know everything will be fine its just natural to be scared

Hayley - posted on 01/13/2011

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HOW U R FEELING IS NATURAL IN MY EXPERIENCE 2ND 3RD +EVEN 4TH TIME MUMS' HAVE CONFIDED FEELINGS LIKE YOURS TO ME!I AM A NURSERY NURSE WITH 22 YEARS EXPERIENCE + I WAS UNSURE DURING MY 3 PREGNANCIES AT TIMES!TAL;K TO FRIENDS AND FAMILY +I AM SURE THEY WILL TELL U THE SAME! GOOD LUCK. XXX

Nicole - posted on 07/16/2010

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I think we all feel like that at some point! Your never the only one! I am having my 2nd and i feel the same way. I felt it with my 1st as well. Being a mom is rewarding and wonderful, but its the hardest job you will ever have. Take one day at a time. As soon as your baby girl looks at you, all those thought will leave your mind!

Elimar - posted on 07/16/2010

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It is the anxiety of actually giving birth. Relax, you will be okay. And well also, she is your first baby, so thoughts like, am I going to be a good mom, or will she love me, or can I afford to take care of her, etc. Are normal to have. Trust me, you will make it. Just keep up with the willpower, and your lover for her take over, and things will be okay.

Amy - posted on 07/16/2010

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I felt like that with my first, even right as I was going into labor I started freaking out thinking I couldn't handle it. Everything was just fine, labor was longer then I hoped but I made it through with no epidural and had a healthy baby boy. I'll be giving birth to my second this October and the closer I get the more freaked out I get. I know I did it just fine the first time, but it still scared the living daylights out of me! Even with all the fear I'm sticking to no epidural, and plan to have no pain meds this time either.

You will be just fine!

Becca - posted on 07/12/2010

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I think this is part of being a first time Mommy! (and also a symptom of the impending arrival of your little one!) I am going to be a FTM Friday (If not before) so I definitely understand what y6ou are feeling! Good Luck, and no worries... It WILL all be Ok!!

Sarah - posted on 07/12/2010

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YEP! i'm 31 weeks with my second. I dont know how i'm going to cope with two children...i'm also terrified i wont handle the labour even though i did it nearly 3 yrs ago. I think its normal, there are huge responsibilities as a mum and big expectations, most of which we put on ourselves. But we'll all be fine, its amazing the strength you find when you HAVE TO be strong and all you gotta do is remember that no matter what, you will be the best mum possible and do what it takes to get through it for your little one :)

Julie - posted on 07/12/2010

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I am only 20 weeks and just last night I was telling my husband how scare I am. I want to be the best Mom that I can be but I know how I get when I have not had enough sleep. I have wanted to be a Mom for as long as I can remember and now I am terrified.
Thank you Moms for your responses. It makes me feel better knowing that I am not the only one.

Jamie - posted on 07/11/2010

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I think everybody feels that way at one time or another during their pregnancy.

Elysia - posted on 07/11/2010

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oh yes i was so like that with my first, id have days where i was on top of the world and then the next i would sit there crying saying that i couldnt do it. and even now im expecting my 2nd any day and i have days where i think how can handle 2 under 2. its all normal

Lauren - posted on 07/11/2010

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I am also super worried!!! This is my first and I am having a C-section on Thursday and I am scared out of my mind!!! Like what if something is wrong or I mess something up!!! I am sure everything will be fine, but it is just stressful to think about!

Keara - posted on 07/11/2010

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haha yup!! i'm 34 weeks now and about a week ago i just suddenly had this overwhelming feeling and told my fiance i wanted to wait another year... lol i think its fairly normal to have doubts and stuff... just keep confident that u can do it and you will be great!!

PETA - posted on 07/10/2010

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Yes, with my first, second, third, and now fourth. It is normal.
Try not to stress, you dont have long to go now, until you can hold your baby in your arms. Then you will think how you ever lived without them.
These feeling will come and go, even after the birth.

Good luck

Tia - posted on 07/10/2010

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As soon as i went into labour i seriously freaked out, I thought i wasnt ready 2 have a baby... But as soon as i held my precious lil girl all my worries went,,, Good luck with it xx

Delta - posted on 07/10/2010

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All the time. This is my 2nd pregnancy and I sit there yes I can do this again 10 years later. And one day I sat there turned to my husband and said, can we do this again, its been 10 years since we last had a baby in the house. He said we can do it. I keep going back and forth on the thought of yes I can do this, oh wait I wonder if I can do this. Think its just normal to have that feeling. It can be overwhelming.

Liz - posted on 07/10/2010

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it's a natural reaction. with my first pregnancy i had b/g twins. It was especially hard when they ended up being born at 33 weeks 6 days, six weeks early. But it does get easier. I will be 39 weeks pregnant this tuesday, and I'll be going in for a planned c-section with their little brother. I feel like that at times too. My twins just turned two years old June 8th.

Samantha - posted on 07/10/2010

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hi.thats what i felt like with my 1st pregnancy,and it didnt end until my son was out.i was very scared about the pain and if i was able to handle it or not.all through the labour i was like "i cant do this anymore" but its the only way for them to arrive.after i saw my son i realised no matter how much i didnt wana do it look at what u receive.

April - posted on 07/10/2010

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OH YEAH! I still feel like this. I'm scared shitless to have this kid! I know I have plenty of support and I'm in great standings. But I just can't think to wonder how the hell am I going to do this! I've never been a stay at home mom, never though I would be. This is also my first child as well. I'm with ya hun.

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