So excited but when do I spill the beans???

Lauren - posted on 02/18/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )




I just found out that I'm 5 weeks along. I want to tell my family but I'm concerned b/c I had a miscarriage 6 months ago. I'm considering going with a midwife this time and she wouldn't be able to see me until I was 12 weeks. I don't know if I can wait that long to tell my mom and sisters. My husband told me just to keep it between the two of us until we see a doctor but I'm ready to bust at the seams. What are your thoughts???


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Rebekah - posted on 03/26/2011




I told my immediate family (mom, dad, brothers) and a few close friends at 9 weeks, after an ultrasound. I have another ultrasound scheduled for Monday, and if all things look good, I'll share with everyone else then (I'll be right at 12 weeks).

I told people prior to 12 weeks that I would be comfortable telling if I had a miscarriage. I told them to pray about the pregnancy, but not to share it. They all kept the secret.

Brianna - posted on 03/17/2011




with my daughter i told at 10 or 11 weeks. with my second pregnancy i told at 7 weeks cuz it was xmas but at 10 weeks i miscarried.. i miscarried in jan 2011 and im still having people all the time coming up to me and saying congrats or when r u due.. its really heart breaking having to say it all the time.. so because of this i will never tell anyone im pregnant again until im done the first trimester

Janis - posted on 03/16/2011




They say the second trimetster. We had to wait as well, as I was high risk.The really hard part was my sister planned a birthday party for me that I had to cancel in a very clever way. I wish you the best

Chrissie - posted on 03/13/2011




I would say if you are going to tell ONLY tell the people you are closest with and make sure they understand your feelings about not telling the whole world just in-case something happens, but you wanted to share it with them. Besides, if something does happen, having a few people you can talk to about it will probably help. ♥

Ianina - posted on 02/21/2011




I told my family about my "first" baby as soon as I found out (with the pregnancy test on my hand). After the first sonogram, week 5, I had to call them again to say..."we are having twins"

Stifler's - posted on 02/21/2011




I told everyone at 6 weeks with Logan, then 4 weeks with this one. I planned to wait until 12 both times but couldn't keep my mouth shut!

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With my first we told my mom and dad when we found out (we thought I was 8 weeks but actually I was only 6 weeks) because my nan had just died so I wanted to give them some good news (and it was really good news because we were told we couldn't have children) but left everyone else until after 12 weeks because I was so worried something bad may happen (although my SIL guessed, so her and my BIL knew as well).

This time around though I thought that actually if something was to happen there are certain people who would know anyway (my parents, brother, in-laws, BIL's, SIL's and best friends) because they are our support network. So either way they would know, for me I felt it best to tell them I was pregnant because I wouldn't have to explain that I was pregnant but... if the worst had happened. It turns out I needed them to know as well because I was put on bed rest for a week at 10 weeks due to bleeding and needed help looking after my son.

Ultimately though it is a decision you need to make with your hubby, if he really doesn't want to tell people until later you should respect that. If I were you I would explain to him why you want to tell the people you want to tell and ask him why he is opposed to you telling them, why he wants to keep it a secret.

Katherine - posted on 02/18/2011




I'm 7weeks and we have told close family and friends, it's really up to you when you think is the time to tell people and who to tell

Shana - posted on 02/18/2011




I am currently expecting my #5 hubby and I told close family around 8weeks becuase I had some problems and we felt that regardless of how long the baby was here,it was still ours and that we may need extra support if we lost her, then at around 12 weeks we did a big announcment - thankfully the problems have (mostly) resolved themselves and I am now 25weeks :)

I say tell close family but maybe ask them to keep it quiet for respect to your hubby

Congrats and Good Luck :)

Cyndel - posted on 02/18/2011




If your mom and/or sisters can keep a secret (which I think they would be able to considering the miscarriage) then, with your hubbies ok-don't want to make things tense between you too, I would quietly tell them, letting them know that you want it kept a secret until after your prenatal with the midwife. Congrates on your pregnancy!

Ayla - posted on 02/18/2011




I waited until I was 12 weeks with my first and I think 13 weeks this time. My mom knew from 8 weeks though, she asked me at christmas. I think telling a few people earlys alright as long as they know not to say anything until you're past 12 weeks.


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