stitches?! help!

Megan - posted on 04/20/2010 ( 20 moms have responded )




Okay so i had my baby girl on friday and when i was in labor my labia tore i know this is graphic but bear with me because i don't have anyone else to ask...

Now everytime i go to the bathroom it hurts so bad the doctor gave me a container to use to spray water while i go to help ease the pain but it still stings and hurts so bad i mean i almost cry every time i go..did any of you have this? is there any way that i can help ease this pain? im at a complete loss here because i don't know how to make this stop and doc says the stitches won't heal for a couple of weeks and idk if i can take a couple of weeks of this.


Megan - posted on 04/21/2010




What does the witch hazel do? The vaseline makes it a little better but I'm still hurting hoping it will subside in a while. How long does it take for the stitches to dissolve? Does the pain go away?

Megan - posted on 04/20/2010




Thanks for the help guys. Some ppl suggested vaseline to help. I am gonna try that I think.

Teigan - posted on 04/22/2010




i know there is lot of comments here so i dont know if this has been suggested but my grandma was a burse/midwife back in the day and ive asked her about this and she said use vaseline. it puts a seal over the stitched and wound and stops the urine or anything else getting onto it stopping discomfort and pain. i hope this helps but she said it really works. goodluck.

Stephanie - posted on 04/20/2010




I had 3rd degree tears all the way up, down and even across. I also busted alot of blood vessels.My stitches didnt desolve until about 9-10 weeks after my son was born. And a midwife would come check them every week. The pain of going to the toilet was horrible and i was always afraid i'd tear again. But there was nothing i could do for the pain it got less over time though. Just think you got a beautiful baby girl forever and the tear will heal.

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I'm with you. With my first, I did tear as well. I got around 40 stitches, thank god they were mostly the dissolvable type. I also used a squirt bottle everytime, spray it the same time you are peeing. I'd fill it up with warm water and usually use the whole bottle everytime. The pain does go away, maybe a week or two?? Can't remember exactly (it was over 7 yrs ago).
Another thing that was hard was sitting down (as I'm sure you know). I accidentaly sat on the baby nursing pillow and what relief! Those pillows that wrap around you, if you sit on it, there is no pressure on your bottom and ah, relaxing.
You'll be ok, I'm sure.


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Heather - posted on 04/24/2010




Oh sweetie! I feel your pain, literally, with my youngest I had major tearing and about 25 stitches and the burn was almost unbearable and i did cry just about everytime i went to the bathroom even with the warm water bottle. Look for the dermoplast cause it definitely helps right after urination, and as for after your up witch hazel is the active ingredient in most all hemmeroid medicated pads and you can fold them up or just put them on ur pad on ur underwear and they cool and soothe for a very long time! Good luck love and this too shall pass!

Angie - posted on 04/23/2010




I had 13stitches with my last pregnancy after that midwife who shall remain nameless because I cant remember her but I remember the face aggressively snipped away at my whole perineum I was advised by my community midwife to go for warm - lukewarm baths. Bathe everyday. Whilst I was pregnant I bought the advent breastfeeding out and about breast pump. It had two gel packs in it which helped a great deal. They are meant for keeping the bottles cool of expressed milk until you get home from work. Seen as I was not returning to work I had other ideas from them. I put them in the freezer and wrapped an old teatowel around one of them. I sat with a skirt on and sat it where I hurt. Boy it was some relief it sort of numbed the area for a while. Only think I can suggest if you have not got one of these is a ready made icepack but don't put it directly onto it wrap something around it first as I did. Hope it helps and :O you poor thing I can only empathise with what your going through. Good luck.

Amy - posted on 04/23/2010




I had my daughter 3 weeks ago and had the same problem. I use the water bottle after everytime I go to the bathroom as well. But that only helps a little so every night after I put my daughter to bed I soak in a warm bath with 2 tbsps of epsom salt in it. The pain is gone, but if you do this make sure you clean your bathtub everytime so its clean of any bacteria for the next time you take a bath. There are also bath salts and herbs for healing you can buy at babiesrus that also work. hope this helps you out

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I've had this very same problem and I was scared to drink anything and ended up dehydrating myself because i was scared to pee. If your not breast feeding the doc can give you pain killers mine did. But they still help very little.

Jenna - posted on 04/22/2010




I had my babygirl on the 7th and i had 2nd degree tears they were painful but nowhere near as painful as what your seem to be i still went to the toilet fine and didnt even need pain killers i would go back to the doc just to make sure and congrats on your babygurl!

Julie - posted on 04/21/2010




I ripped and had 12 stitches all the way up to the happy spot! lol I can laugh now , but it hurt really bad for me too. I used the squirt bottle, but I used cold water, it felt so good. The I used a spray, Dermoplast pain relieving spray that the nurse gave me afterwards. Then on my pad I put witch hasel and vasoline. I even go swoled on one side and went to the ER. It was aweful. I took motrin and long, warm soaks in the tub. That really helped being in the tub! The real pain only lasted me about a week, then I was better. Good luck and take it easy. Without my husband I would've never made it, so ask for help and don't hurt yourself any worse than you are!

Chelsea Cleo - posted on 04/21/2010




I had 11 stitches but I never had pain like that, it almost sounds abnormal but if they doctors are giving you stuff to ease the pain then it must be.
It takes a couple of weeks for them to heal completely so the pain wont last that long, i had a bit of pain but nothing like what you are describing. Have you got them checked for infection? My midwifes always checked my stitches to make sure they were clean with no infection. Maybe ring and ask your pharmacy what sorts of creams you could use on them to help the pain.
I hope you get better soon

Brittany - posted on 04/21/2010




i had 2nd degree tearing and had internal and external stitches, i still have them now and know how you feel, they are horrible, midwife can give you a little tablet that stops it from stinging, they gave it to me and it really does work

Ashley - posted on 04/21/2010




oh Gawd I remember that pain as well... warm water! also make sure you are using epsom salt baths to help the healing. I took one every 5 hours. I would feed my son while I sat in the water. Also talk to you dr about it and make him/her listen! they can give you a cream that soothes the area.
Good Luck!
ps it was nearly 2 months before I could pee comfortably :P

Jane - posted on 04/21/2010




call you doctor for some help AND also ask them to find out where you can get a "Sitz Bath". it's a big plastic bowl that you sit on top of the toilet and it runs warm water while you sit on top of it. it will help a lot. try to do it three times a day. the hospital should have sent you home w/one. and be sure to keep it. it comes in handy when you're baby is a toddler and gets sick to their stomach - keep it under their bed so they have someplace to throw up.

hope you feel better soon!

p.s. be sure you're using warm water in the spary bottle.

Cheryl - posted on 04/21/2010




I tore with my first as well. I remember it being painful to sit, I brought the Boppie to church for several Sundays ;-) I don't remember being painful to pee, but the water squirt bottle has been standard after all my births. I also got a can of chill spray at each too. I've never heard of using the vasalene but anything with Witch Hazel would help you!

Jamie - posted on 04/21/2010




I had upper vaginal and labial lacerations that were deep but didn't bleed (go figure), so i didn't get stitches... but i did have incredible burning every time i went to the bathroom. Try to fill your peri-bottle with warm water before you go and spray it WHILE you're peeing, it worked WONDERS for me... only it was super hard to hold my bladder while i waited for the water in my bathroom to heat up. Hahah (i guess). Anyway, there's also a numbing spray you can get from the drugstore called Dermaplast, i'm not sure if you can spray it on stitches, but i had open lacerations and they gave it to me at the hospital so i'd assume it'd be okay. Just spray it on after you pee, and it should help with the pain.

Delta - posted on 04/20/2010




10 years ago I didn't tear the dr cut me so I wouldn't tear. I didn't have any of the pain when I used the restroom. I don't know if its because the dr choose to cut my labia instead of letting it tear when my daughter came.

Kelly - posted on 04/20/2010




I had 4th degree tears (toward the rear) with my first. I remember it being slightly irritating to go to the bathroom, but I was never in any extreme pain. I used the water bottle after peeing to wash off, but like I said, I don't remember any real pain. Sorry I don't have any helpful suggestions for you and I hope it gets better soon.

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