Turned off by belly?

Ashley - posted on 03/11/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




Hey ladies, new here.
We're expecting our 2nd in 6 weeks (it can't come soon enough!!!) I don't remember this with our first, so I'm like super confused.
We've always had a fairly decent sex life, you know some days/weeks better than others, but generally good. Lately he seems to avoid sex with me. I asked him if he was turned off by my belly and he of course told me no. But when we do have sex, which is far and few between lately, he always seems to prefer my back towards him. Could he be turned off by my big belly?

Another thing I noticed, the last few times we have had sex is I just wanna cry after. Nothing's wrong, I'm not happy, nor am I sad, but I just want to cry. Any ideas what that could be?

TIA :))


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Samantha - posted on 03/18/2013




He might just feel uncomfortable having the baby between you both, and maybe worried about hurting his baby. Not to mention it can be a little awkward if bub starts kicking or moving.

Maybe if it is really bothering you just ask your partner " Do you worry about hurting the bub ? "
You will be baby free in no time. :-)

Char - posted on 03/12/2013




4th time around and your situation is not abnormal. His hesitation may be because he is afraid of hurting you or the baby. LOL my husband thought my water would break. I remember having a conversation about the baby having a dent in the head from his poking. That was the funniest. One of the ways I cured his issue is to take over the situation setting up the position I wanted to start in. It worked.

The crying is normal too. At this point our hormones are everywhere. Lately I've been yelling at everyone.

I told my husband he can hold back if he wants too but he will be on lock down for 8 to 12 weeks after baby is born so he better get it in now while I'm feeling great. Best of luck to you.

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