When should I call?

Brandi - posted on 09/28/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )




This maybe a silly question but it's bugging the heck out of me. My SO works about 15-20 minutes away from our house. He works night shift (6 p.m. to 4:30 a.m.) at a factory. The hospital is in the same town as his job but the hospital is 20-25 minutes away from our house. My SO gave me a number to call in the department he works, so if I need him I can get in contact with him pretty much directly. My question is, how far apart should my contractions be before I call him to come home (if he's at work) and take me to the hospital? I've asked some friends of mine that have had kids and they avoided answering the question and said, "Oh, you'll have time." That's just making me obsess over it even more! haha!!

This is my first and I really don't want to have a baby ON the way to the hospital! haha. Any help would be great. :)


Kaleena - posted on 11/09/2010




ive noticed most ppl have suggested 5 min apart. but heres my experience.when i went into labour with my first baby i woke in labour with my contractions already 5 mins apart. i woke my partner up. he went to get our car which was a 10 min drive there and 10 back. so 20 mins in all. by the time he got back my contractions were already 3 mins apart so hospital was rung got there they were still 3 mins apart. hospital is 30 mins drive away. within 15mins or so of me being there i was pushing but all in all my labour lasted 5 hrs. its probably best to call earlier at least 10 because even though this is your first this is also the one that is the most unpredictable as it is your first and everyones body is different. and dont believe it when people say youll have a labour like your mums as this is not true either. my mum was in labour 17 hrs with my sister and 33 hrs with my brother her first and second babies

Erica - posted on 09/30/2010




I've had 4 babies and in my experience the first one takes the longest to come out also your waters breaking might not happen until you are about to push that baby out so I wouldnt wait until your water breaks, your water breaking on its own is a very low percentage. I have heard if you are having regular contractions and you can't talk through them it's time to go to the hospital probably 5 min apart regular for an hour lasting 30 to 60 seconds. If you are in a lot of pain it's always better to be safe than sorry get checked out. Do you have someone who can take you instead of waiting on your hubby to pick you up? It might be a good idea to try and set something like that up. My husband is about 25 min away when hes at work but we are also littteraly 1 min from the hospital, we are due 10-10-10 and the doc said yeasterday Im almost 3 cm dialated and my bag of water is bulging, Im a bit nervouse to leave the house. My water broke on its own with BABY #THREE 45 min before she was born, I knew I was in labor though and was waiting for my husband to get home to take me to the hospital, my contractions were about 1 to 2 min apart and by the time we got to the hospital we had only enough time for me to get into bed and push, yeah we cut it very close with that one LOL!
Good luck to you :O)


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Brandi - posted on 10/20/2010




Thanks, Lea. (Sorry it's taken me a bit to get back to you.) I was thinking maybe calling him when it was 10 minutes apart, but seeing this is my first baby I'm not sure how fast or slow things progress. I know first time births are usually slow but my sister and my mom's first births went very quickly. I suppose that's why I just worry about it so much. lol.

Lea - posted on 10/13/2010




thay say contractions should be 5 min apart for an hour but since u are far away maybe 10-15 min for an hour

Brandi - posted on 10/12/2010




So sorry it's taken me so long to get back with you guys. Thanks!

Well, starting after thanksgiving, he's going to be home 4 day's every week till the beginning of January. He has to use his vacation days before the end of the year. So, he's going to use them on every Thursday. (He works at a factory. They work Monday-Thursday and are off Friday, Saturday and Sunday.) So, that makes me feel a little better. She's due right around Christmas, so chances are my family will be out of town for the holidays. So, he's pretty much the only person I have.

I'm sure everything will go fine and we'll make it in plenty of time. Just a first timers worries, I guess. lol. Thanks everybody. :)

Amanda - posted on 09/29/2010




The general rule of thumb is 5-1-1. Meaning contractions that are 5 minutes apart, lasting for 1 minute, and it's been happening for 1 hour or more. Most first babies take their time coming, so you will most likely have lots of time. Also, if your water breaks, they normally say that you should only come in when you are in labour. You only need to go in when your water breaks if it's not clear(eg: brown, green..) Good luck!

Delta - posted on 09/29/2010




I would say like what Aicha said when your contractions get regular that are about 5 mins apart, when your water breaks. Is there someone that can drive you to the hospital when you go into labor so your man does not need to drive all the way home and turn around and drive back to the town? Just to save him a trip home and better luck getting there faster. Cause you will have to wait 20 mins for him to get home then have to drive 20 mins you will already be in labor for 40 mins before you get to the hospital. I am kinda in the same boat but my husband works in the town we live in but we go to see a Dr that is 45 mins away to another town cause I don't like the OB Drs at the clinic where I live at.

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