your hospital rights

Amy - posted on 12/21/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Just wanted to take the time to say this. Most of you may know, but new moms may not. I know I sure didn't. After my daughter, they discharged her due to heart condition, but would not discharge me. They kept ho humming around about it. I had no idea I could just go ahead and sign a form that says if my leaving early resulted in anything bad it wasn't their fault. I didn't know my newborn didn't have to be without me that whole day. :( With my son, I made sure I knew my rights, what i could and couldn't do, what was required and what I could refuse. They tried telling me I was not allowed to leave until after my two/three day stay. Where I live, that's BS. I could leave 24 hours after giving birth. Me AND my son. They tried saying they were going to call social services and stuff. lol. right. go ahead. I went to school for it. Not a thing they could do.

What are any of your past experiences with your hospital/birthing rights? What are your questions? What advice would you give others doing it for the first time?

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Merry - posted on 12/30/2010

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Also in labor you can refuse continuous heart rate monitoring, you can say only for them to use a Doppler here and there. You can say no iv, you can say you don't want to lay in bed,you can say no cervix checks until you ask for one, you can say no one telling you when to push, you can say not to lay on your back, not to use stirrups, no episiotomy etc etc
Remember the drs and nurses are being paid by YOu to care for you, if you want to change how they care for you it's your right to say so.

Hailey - posted on 12/27/2010

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I had to discharge myself after my c section, they wanted me in for 4 days but my little girl was at home and i felt fine. I was getting no sleep and for the second day i was on a catheter so couldnt get out of the bed and fend for myself. I needed a drink and it took 8 hours for them to bring me one after lots of buzzing. Not being picky but i wanted to go home and they give you such a hard time and it took 6 hours for them to get a doctor to sign the papers to let me go home. Dad and partner waited for 6 hours to take me home.

For the birth, they must have your consent for everything they do!

Stand up for yourself is my best advice :)

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Jannelle - posted on 01/02/2011

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I was doing some research and found one right we have. The Newborns' and Mothers' Protection Act is about your hospital stay and how long health insurance has to cover you for (minimum). It also states in there that a mother and newborn may be discharged early as long as the doctor decides everything is okay. I don't understand how the nurses had say in how long anyone has to be there. No where does it state that you are forced to remain for the minimum amount of time required. I've heard of women being discharged early before. The whole reason that act is in place is to make sure we're not screwed by health insurance companies. It wasn't made to force us to stay at the hospital just because its a requirement (which it isn't). Sounds like some of these staff members need to be educated.

Amy - posted on 01/02/2011

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I told them not to circ my son. They asked me three different times if I made a decision yet. I said....bring me my son, we are NOT circ-ing him!! I wish I had known all the testing that I could refuse. So much of it seems unnecessary.

laura, you're my hero. i love everything you said!!

Merry - posted on 12/30/2010

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They wanted to clean him up before letting my hold him, but I know it is my right to hold him until he has his first breastfeed. They can wait to wash, weigh, measure, foot print, eye ointment, etc etc etc as long as your baby isn't dying you have every right to hold them until at least after the first breastfeed.

Also after baby is born you have every right to not let them out of your sights, the nurse said she HAD to take him into the nursery to do a hearing test. Issue no. She said well ok I guess ican work it out. And lo and behold I was completelywithin my rights to refuse to let her take him anywhere.

If you need a csection your husband, partner has every right to NOT leave your side at ANY moment.
They say he has to wait outside while you are prepped, but you can say NO.
Same with a epidural, some drs say hubby has to wait in the hall, absolutely not they right to make him leave.

Essentially, unless it's a law, it's up to you. But they try to say that policy is law, it's not.
If you want to refuse eye ointment, vitamin k shot, hepatitis shot, etc etc etc you have every right to.

Oh and if you absolutely must circumcise your son you have every right to be with him the entire time to ensure he has adequate pain medication and is treated as gently as possible.
(I don't recommend circumcision,but if you do choose to spit to him make sure he is not in pain)

Caroline - posted on 12/21/2010

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Thats awful that you ladies had such horrible experiences! The only problems my hospital gave us were in regards to filling out paperwork for our sons last name. Since my husband and I were not married at the time they gave us somewhat of a hard time about us wanting our son to have his last name... silly, I know. They ended up doing what we wanted just as long as my husband signed the form assuming paternal guardianship.
According to our nurse there are problems now a days of women just "picking" a dad for their child and then weeks later they are taking the child in and out of the courts trying to change the father on the birth certificate (I didn't even know you could do that) and change the baby's last name, etc. So they do it as a precaution..
Otherwise, I enjoyed my hospital stay... weird saying that lol

Apps+8278986302 - posted on 12/21/2010

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when i had my daughter they kept me there for 2 nights and wanted me to stay another night because they didnt think i was quite ready to look after the baby alone :S right...lol. i was having a hard time breastfeeding so they thought i should stay longer. i was just like you know what im tired and i just want to go home to my own bed and the comfort of my own home. at least at home i had help and i could sleep whenever i wanted to while the baby was sleeping. in the hospital i got no sleep. everytime i started to fall asleep one of the damn nurses would come in turn on the lights or whatever it was really annoying. anyways they let me go home and it was so much better being in my own place with my hubby and new baby. alot more relaxing and comfortable! i was not impressed with my hospital stay and i hope they let me go after 24 hours with this one or im going to get mad...lol

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