Potty Nightmare

Rachel - posted on 02/24/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )




I NEED HELP......Does anyone know anything about weening a child off diapers?!?! Potty training has turned into a battle of wills againt my 3 yr old. She is using diapers as her controlling behavior, and she needs to start daycare soon. I don't want to put her in the nursery with the little babies; but she can't go ...to school w the big kids till she's potty trained.... PLS HELP!!!


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Jenny - posted on 02/28/2010




You need at least two days of not leaving your house for this. Before you start you take her shopping for new "big girl panties" (if you haven't already) and a few little prizes...they can be items from the dollar section/store...stickers, temporary tattoos, candy...these are for each time she successfully goes on the potty. And one "big prize" like a barbie, a little stuffed animal or some other small/cheap (you don't want to break the bank for this) toy for when she's "completely" trained.

Day 1: No diapers, no pants. You have her not wear anything-basically, she'll be running around half naked. Have the potty chair with you in whatever room you/she are in. Constantly ask "do you have to go potty?" (or however you ask). Each time she successfully uses it, give her one of her "little prizes".

Day 2: Add her "big girl pants" to this routine. Keep asking like the day before and still give her the little rewards. Eventually, if you think she's getting it, add some easy pants.

Let her know she gets her "big prize" on a set day, a few days after you have started, when you feel she is "trained".

Other thoughts:
•You may still need to use diapers or pull-ups at night, preferably the pull-ups, they still have the motion of panties-target has a brand (up & up) that we use that were work just as good and are a LOT cheaper.
•NO overalls or difficult pants that she cannot pull up and down by herself.
•make sure you have at least two full days where she does not have to leave the house.
•You have to be able to devote, at least, the first two days to this.
•She will have accidents, don't punish her for it, let her know it's okay, and that it happens, sometimes.
•if she's not getting it, do not reward her after the second day and tell her she doesn't get her "big prize" until she's not wearing "baby diapers", just her "big girl panties"
•make sure *she* is ready, and not just you. If this doesn't work, don't push it. When she gets to daycare and sees the other kids her age in one room and she's in with the babies, it might just click in her head "wait a minute, I'm not a baby". Sometimes it takes seeing others do something for them to want to do it.
•point out babies..."look they wear diapers", point out "big girls"... "mommy/grandma/aunt so-and-so wears big girl panties and goes on the potty". Keep telling her she's a big girl when she's gone on the potty..."wow, you are such a big girl".

Last of all...GOOD LUCK!!!! And, have a lot of patience.

Amy - posted on 02/26/2010




Try getting one of those potty babies have her teach the baby make a big fuss when the doll goes potty and maybe she will catch on.From experience it take's lot's of patience.I thought I was the only one! lol

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