I am having a hard time getting my 9 month old to sleep through the night. I do not agree with letting him cry in his bed. Please help.

Liz - posted on 11/09/2008 ( 18 moms have responded )

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He wakes up at 1, 4, and 6 a.m. Sometime he is hungry other times he just wants to sit a chat. I am getting really tired. please help!

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Christine - posted on 11/14/2008

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It's good to hear it has started to work out for you Liz, I'm sure you're enjoying the much needed sleep at night :)

Sarah - posted on 11/14/2008

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If you are able to stay home with your little ones, it is very important that you start some sort of routine that involves them putting themself to sleep even at naptimes...this will greatly improve the nighttime wakings. My daughter has been sleeping thru the night since about 3 1/2 months and has been putting herself to sleep for longer than that. Just make sure that when you put them down, they are showing signs of being tired! Overnight we have a radio playing in her room & the baby monitor has a built-in nightlight...that isn't very bright. The most important thing that has been mentioned several times by other mommies....pick a routine and BE CONSISTENT!!!! It might be harder as now they are not wanting to miss out on anything that they normally do during the day....put they WILL eventually establish good sleeping habits!

Megan - posted on 11/14/2008

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I never thought I would let my daughter cry it out, but I found that if I did not rush in to pick her up the minute she fussed that she puts herself back to sleep - most of the time. Each night got better and better. Now, I only get her if she is full on crying. I first try to rock her back to sleep, next we change diaper and feed a bottle. If she isn't asleep after that I rock her for a few minutes then put her back to bed. I keep the lights out and the TV off so there is no stimulation. The key for us was to teach her that when its night time - its sleep time. So if she doesnt need a fresh diaper or something to eat its time to sleep. I know each baby is different but after a few nights of consistant behavior from mommy - the baby does catch on. Good luck!!

Liz - posted on 11/13/2008

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For the last week we have been following a bed time routine. Dinner, bath, lotion, family play on the floor time, story and bottle and then he is out like a light. Now when he wakes up at night it is just for about 15 min. We are still are working hard but things seem to be getting better. Thanks for all the advice.

Kylie - posted on 11/13/2008

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ok well my son has slept threw the night since he was 2 months old.. i started a schedule when he was first born and he is very set on it.. we usually go threw the day pretty smooth and he knows what comes next.. we wake up at 6 and he has a bottle and a new diaper and than goes back to sleep untill around 9 we wake up and he eats breakfast usually oatmeal and some fruit on a spoon..play time than around 11 he is back down for a nap and sleeps anywhere from 1 to 2 hours than its up and lunch rice and veg. play time or walk and than around 3 or 4 its another nap this one is usually long than he wakes up plays and he knows at 7 45 it is bath time every single night at the same time he gets a bath with Johnson and Johnson bedtime bath soap and than a rub down and a bottle with the bedtime loation and i just lay him down and its bed and it starts again.. try the bedtime bath stuff it works! it really does good luck!

Breanne - posted on 11/13/2008

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My son is 8 1/2 months old. and sleeps from 9- about 6 every night. with the occasional 3 am bottle. his dailyroutine consists of breakfast at 8:30 lunch at 1 and dinner at 6. depending on his mood we feed him alittle bit of rice cereal from a spoon around 8. we let him play for a bit, he tires him self out and then its off to bed. he used to have a mattress vibrator, which helped him sleep. but now we just have a cd in the cd player on VERY low, and a small lamp on his dresser. he loves it. The light and music calm and sooth him. :). Every baby is different but this may help. good luck.

Sarah - posted on 11/12/2008

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My boy was 9 mon. on the 6th, is 21 lbs, and has 8 teeth. He nurses like a mad man day and night. During the day it is every 2 hours and at night its every hour and a half. He wants nothing to do with food, cereal or sippy cups, will occassionaly eat table food, but nothing satisfies, he still wants to nurse. I have tried walking, rocking, letting him cry, putting him down awake, nursing him to sleep, taking extra vitamins like Alfalfa to enrich my milk, avoiding caffeine, but nothing seems to work. This is my 6th child (all under 10 years old) and I NEED my sleep. I have had this problem for short times before, but it has straightened out before 9 months. I am TIRED and my family is not getting the best of me. The hard part is that he slept great until 3 mon. old, when he got his first tooth. I just keep praying that the teething will stop and he will sleep again. The way he is nawing and drooling, I'm thinking more teeth are coming. Will I ever sleep through the night again? Thank the Lord for mid-afternoon naps, atleast he will sleep about an hour then, and so will I. He has already given up all othe naps but that one. I'm not really asking for advice and I don't really have any to give. They all start sleeping better sometime, I just am wishing that it would start TONIGHT. Nice to know that when I am up nursing, walking, bouncing, singing or rocking at all those awful, dark hours of the night that someone, or many someones, are in the same position as me!!! Lots of luck to all the rest of you sleep deprived mothers of 9 month old babies out there!!

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yea i agree.. either add a toy or if he is hungry lower the amount of milk u give him. like my baby girl is 8 months and up all the time.. and she would take a full bottle if i let her.. i ended up lowering the amount of formula to 2 onces every time she woke up and was hungry..i also had changed the nipple to a slower flow (she gets the faster one during the day) and it seems to fill her up more (or she thinks shes more full) she sometimes gets up still but i give her 2 onces and then i put her pacifier back in and leave the room... and she goes to sleep after a lil chatter.

Tia - posted on 11/10/2008

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my daughter likes to go to sleep with a bottle. I know it is BAD but I can't let myself let her cry it out. I scares me when she stops crying because I think something is wrong! I am not sure how to get her not to need the bottle to sleep. She will not take a binkie. Any help would be great.

Emma - posted on 11/10/2008

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When I put my daughter to bed, I like to make sure that she's been awake for at least three hours before bed and that she's full from dinner. I also don't have a night light in her room. Also, for the times when she does wake up in the middle of the night, I wait about 5 minutes before I check on her. If I do have to get up, I don't turn on the light in her room (I use the hallway light and leave the door open), I don't talk to her soothingly, I just check her diaper, make sure she's safe and see if she's hungry. If she's not hungry and really doesn't need anything else, I put her back in bed. If she's still crying, I'll wait 5-10 minutes etc....



I would really make sure that your little one has eaten well before bed and is tired and ready for bed. It might help if you don't want to let him cry it out. But whatever you decide just stick to it. I had to let my son cry himself to sleep for about three nights before he realized he should just stay asleep.

Liz - posted on 11/10/2008

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Thanks for all the support. It is good to know that we are not the only ones in this boat.

Christine - posted on 11/10/2008

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I have an eight month old son that was doing the same and I was seriously sleep deprived. I ended up doing CIO and although it wasn't my first choice (I actually said I would never do it) I tried everything else and nothing worked. Part of what is important no matter how you choose to do it, is a good routine. Mike goes to bed at seven every night and this is our night time routine that works for us. Dinner at 5pm bath (with Johnsons sleepy time bath stuff) at 6-6:30 then we read a couple books fifteen minutes before seven and at seven oclock he can hardly keep his eyes open. After the initial two days of crying (actually not for that long although a friend of mines daughter cried for an hour and a half) he doesn't make a peep anymore and can put himself to sleep at nap time too. I found Mike to have better naps and although I feed him once through the night he no longer gets up to babble at me every hour and he seems more rested in the mornings.

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I am in the same boat. My baby wakes up every two hours and wants to nurse or just say HI. I have been sleep deprived for nine months now! I have tried letting her cry it out but she just becomes hysterical and I can't take that for more than twenty minutes. If anyone has a miracle cure, I need help.

Kate - posted on 11/10/2008

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I recently put a white noise machine in my son's room, and that really helped with the middle of the night waking up.

Jenny - posted on 11/10/2008

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I have the same problem. My daughter is up at about the same times. She stays up late and wakes up early. It is like she just won't let herself fall asleep. I go to her and bring her in bed with me, she has her bottle and goes back to sleep. I really don't think she is hungary though, I think it is a comforting thing. I don't know, but I get so exhausted never getting any sleep.

Nicole - posted on 11/10/2008

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What i found is that if i leave a few toys in the crib with my daughter, she will amuse herself with her toys. another thing is that i will turn cartoons on for her.

my daughter usually sleeps through the night, but the times where she doesn't i'll turn on cartoons, and rock her. this typically helps.

Candace - posted on 11/09/2008

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I think it is a phase they go through. My daughter is 9 months tomorrow, she just got her first 2 teeth and I am sure she is going through a growth spurt as she is waking up several times to feed. They first thing I did and always do is make sure she goes to bed awake and falls alseep on her own. When she does wake I don't turn on any lights ( I have a night light outside the door to see ) and I don't talk to her. This was very hard when she went through her chatty stage as it was hard not to laugh. If I have to change her I do it first and as quickly as possible, then I feed her, when she is done I put her back in her crib give her her stuffed toy, and walk out. Sometimes she may babble, usually she goes to sleep right away. I am back in bed within 15-20 min. My Doc tells me keep a routine and eventually they will get bored and/or grow out of it. I have never used the cry it out method, as I don't agree with it but you do have to do what ever works for you. What ever you choose to do I have always been told to be consistent and stick to your guns. If that doesn't work I guess you can take comfort in knowing that soon your baby will be a teenager and you won't be able to get them out of bed and they won't want to talk to you anymore! ( haha)

Melody - posted on 11/09/2008

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I am having the same problem with my daughter. She wakes up so many times in the night and just wants to play. It is really stressfull. I hope somone has advice for both of us!

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