Rosanna - posted on 08/24/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )




Hello Circle of Moms! How is everyone today? Well, Its been a sad sad weekend for me, & my boyfriend.

I found out I was preganant on 8/14 (Fri). Went to the doct. to have an ultrasound done on 8/19 b/c I noticed I was spotting, but the doct could not see anything in my uterus. They had me go do some blood work on 8/20 in the AM - I then started bleeding heavily that evening. SO, needless to say I had a miscarriage over the weekend. STarted on Thursday 8/20, I am still bleeding and having some pain - not as bad as Thursday or Friday.

Has anyone here gone through this as well? What can I expect? I have mixed emotions......I'm not even sure how far along I was. I was still early in the pregnancy, more than likely, less than 6 weeks. When is a good time to try again?? When does the bleeding normally stop from a miscarriage? Any thoughts, anything will help! I feel like I could have avoided this somehow, btu not sure what caused me to have a M/C. But I know “God never gives you more than you can handle”..............

Thanks all,



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Marcy - posted on 09/03/2009




Hi. Has your dr. checked your HCG ( i think that's what it's called) to be sure they have gone to zero? Something similar happen to me in 2006. I was pregnant for the first time ever and started bleeding with pain. Went to er and did not see anything in my uterus (they were checking for an ectopic pregnancy) sent me home. I was still bleeding but had no pain anymore. Next day went to dr. and he checked me out and said I had a miscarriage and to try to get pregnanat again. Several weeks went by and I was still bleeding very heavily until one day a pain like you can not even begin to imagine came over me. Was rushed to hospital where it was determined my right tube had ruptured due to ectopic pregnancy. Had to have emergency surgery to remove tube. This ectopic pregnancy can kill you so if your dr. did not do a blood test to make sure your hormone levels are at zero then you MUST have that done to be sure it is not an ectopic. Either way none of this is your fault. I also had a miscarriage even after all of this happened. You beat yourself up... what did I do, what could I have done differently but there is nothing you can or could have done. There is hope. I now have an 18 month old daughter (who drives me crazy :) ) Good luck to you.

Sally - posted on 08/31/2009




My 1st pregnancy was a miscarriage and I just felt that it only happened to me and I was in a dreadful state for a while thinking it was my fault. I did come to understand that it wasn't anything I did/didn't do. I was eager to try straight away and was told to at least wait until I had my next period so that the cycle was easier to trace. I did this and then caught straight away and had a gorgeous boy. Despite feeling utter dispair I felt ready to try again. I miscarried at 10 wks and whilst I accepted I always remember that pregnancy. I really had no idea how common miscarriages were, and how things can work out well afterwards. My thoughts are with you and I wish you health & happiness for the future. Hang in there, it's worth it xx

Kathy - posted on 08/29/2009




Oh Rosy. You are sooo not alone. I had 2 miscarriages, like you, very early on. My doctor explained in my terms, that most of the time a woman wouldnt have even known she was pregnant at that point, and maybe thought it was just her cycle. I on the other hand took a test the day I knew I was late. Therefore I anticipated it. My doctor also told me that sometimes it just doesn't attach itself properly to you, so a miscarriage is unavoidable. Really, I know it is soo hard but you have to believe that everything happens for a reason, and keep on goin. After my second miscarriage, when I found out I was pregnant the third time, I didn't even tell my husband until I passed 2 mos. Trying to save him the heartbreak again...but that time it was for real. I have a beautiul girl, and I just have to believe if those other two pregnancies went to term, I wouldn't have my baby girl now. Try and keep your chin up. When the time is truly right, it will happen.

Gretchen - posted on 08/29/2009




I am sorry to hear that you have to go through this. I just had my second miscarriage in June we where 10 weeks along. We also had a miscarriage in Dec. at 6 weeks.

There is no great advice that will make you feel better, but it is nothing that you did.

I took me about 2 weeks to stop bleeding from my second miscarriage.

You will know when you are ready to try again. There is no time limit.

I hope that everything goes well for you.


Nadia - posted on 08/28/2009




Hi Rosy.. I too have gone through the something very similar to what you are going through.In Dec. 2006, I was about 5 weeks along and all of a sudden I had the bleeding and cramping like you explained. We went to the Drs and they did and ultrasound and found that I had miscarried as well.

I was very up set and trying to figure out what had went wrong. My Dr explained that it is very common to have miscarriages.My Dr said to wait through your next period cycle before trying again. The bleeding lasted for me like a regular period with a bit more bleeding.

Me and my husband tried for another 2 years before getting preggers and we now have a beautiful little boy.I hope the best for you and just wanted to say you are not alone. And you are so right, "God never gives you more then you can handle". Best of luck to you :)

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First I want to say I am very sorry for what you are going through. When me and my husband found out we were pregnant for the first time we were so excited. I started having cramping and spotting. This lasted for several weeks when the doctor finally said I was micarrying. I was 7 weeks pregnant. Yes, I was not that far along but it was still very hard and it still is. I had my miscarriage in December of 2006 and was pregnant again with my daugter Hannah in May. We didn't start trying for several months after. It was too emotionally hard. Now, that miscarriages are more common than we hear and most first pregnancies end in miscarriage.

I want you to know that there is nothing that you could have done to avoid the miscarriage. I felt the same way and it took me along time to realize it wasn't my fault. God bless you and your boyfriend. I feel for you because I know exactly what you are going through. Know this, things will get easier with time.

Andrea - posted on 08/25/2009




Hi Rosy,

I'm sorry to hear about the difficult week you've had. I haven't ever experienced a miscarriage but I have had a few friends who have. The most important thing you need to know is that there wasn't anything you could do. So don't blame yourself. And as far as trying for another baby, most of the women I know say that they started trying again when they felt right. For some it was very soon after having a m/c for others it took quite a while.

I hope you feel better soon! I'm sure everything will work out for you and your boyfriend.


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