Tantrums already?!!

Sheila - posted on 03/12/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )

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Anyone else experiencing their one year old throwing a tantrum when you take something away from them or make them stop doing something? I keep telling myself that DS is too young to be having an actual tantrum. But we have had to leave restaurants because of his episodes. Anyone have any advice? The only discipline I can think of is to put him in the pack and play everytime he acts up. But then I keep thinking he's too young for this to make a blind bit of difference to him...Help!

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My daughter has been throwing tantrums for the last several months when something is taken away or when she is told no. She'll will throw herself on the floor and kick and scream, we walk away from her. It only a few minutes of her to realize that she doesn't have an audience and then gets up and goes and plays. Our pediatrician did recommend to walk in the other room and not her the attention she is wanting and if she continues with it then put her time out. Put the pack in play in a room by itself and let her by herself for a couple months with no toys. We've tried it a few times and it has calmed her down. They are smarter and understand a lot more then we think. One thing we've also learned from our daycare provider is when she is throwing a tantrum or doing something she's not suppose to take them and tell them to look into your eyes and then in a stern voice explain to them why they shouldn't be doing that, that has helped with our daughter as well.

Medusapain69 - posted on 03/12/2009

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I feel a bit bad, but my daughters temper tantrums make me want to laugh, she just throws her tiny little body on the floor and beat her fists and cries, its just so over dramatic! Especially as (as i mentioned before) its usually over nothing obvious. doesnt help that i think she is already growing inot a little madam! Is it ok to laugh at their tantrums?

On the subject that the tantrums are at night, i have thought about it and i think her tantrums are also connected to her tiredness level, tantrums when she is due a nap etc, so maybe thats the issue?

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My son has been throwing tantrums for a little while now, he either sits down or wanders around and does these little high pitch quick screams, or he just screams, but they can get pretty loud.  So we try to deter him and give him two warnings before we put him in "timeout" which usually consists of sitting in a chair, sofa, or if it gets worse his crib until he settles down.  I used to do the 1 minute for every year of his age, but he just kept manipulating.  My pediatrician just said he's biding for attention for the few minutes he doesn't get it, so we ignore him until we have to put him in "timeout".  Sometimes threats of putting him in his crib work, but regardless.  But my pediatrician said you need to set boundaries and make sure there is a consequence for actions like that.

Anqueenio - posted on 03/16/2009

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my boy is almost 13months now and he has been throwing tantrums since he was 8 months! he bangs his head on the floor and ends up wailing for some time or until he gets what he wants. usually its something like a callphone or something that we dont want him to play with. i have no idea how to handle him at times like this and i've stop going to public places(i only go when i really have to.)the doctors say to let him act it out and eventually he will stop but its really hard when he is laying on the ground kicking and screaming. all i can say is good luck!

Amber - posted on 03/16/2009

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Unfortunately, my daughter has recently began hitting me when she's throwing her tantrums and just yelling "NO NO NO" when she's mad at me. I think she's graduated from tantrums to....violence. Where she has learned this I haven't the slightest clue, she's never exposed to hitting, unless her grandmothers are lying to me...

Leia - posted on 03/16/2009

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My daughter is 13 months and she too is having tantrums. She throws them at daycare and at home. I think that lead her away to another area at school, but at home, I try to ignore it like many of you have said. It usually works unless she is tired; then you might as well hang it up. Hopefully, this will be a phase that doesn't last too long; wishful thinking, huh?

Nancy - posted on 03/16/2009

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I am in the exact same situation. My one year old has been throwing what we think has been tantrums for a little while now. She arches her back and kicks and screams when she doesn't get what she wants. I think the hardest part for them and a possible reason why they are doing it is because they can't communicate well enough. We try to ignore it but if she keeps going on and on we try to direct her attention. I hope it's enough!

Amber - posted on 03/13/2009

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They say not to laugh at their tantrums, or at least let them see you laugh. It shows them that they are getting a reaction from you....which is what they want.

Tanya - posted on 03/13/2009

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OK, we haven't had the BIG tantrums of kicking & screaming YET, but I can see it coming. My DS has started throwing his head back & kicking when I take something away & remove him from an object/tell him not to touch something. I am currently trying to ignore the tantrum or move past it by distracting him with something else or moving to another area of the room/house, turning on some music (it always grabs his attention).

Good luck & hope this helps.

User - posted on 03/12/2009

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Mine just started too. They aren't too bad yet but I feel like I'm getting a preview of the terrible 2's! He mostly gets mad when I won't let him play with the dogs' dishes. I go to pick him him and he throws himself backwards. He has conked his head a few times doing that. He'll also start kicking his legs. I just try not to react. I remove him from the situation and try to distract him with something else.

Becki - posted on 03/12/2009

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Hi! My son just turned a year old, and he to throws tantrums. We can't figure it out!! Mostly at night and during diaper changes. He will just cry and scream, and throw whatever is close to him, binky, toys, bottle... we have tried to ignore the tantrums, especially at night because we all need to sleep!! It is very very difficult. Everything that I've read says it's just a phase, and it will pass. So, I'll take whatever advice you can get... unfortunately, I don't have any, but I wanted to let you know I feel your pain! Hopefully this passes soon, for all of us.

Medusapain69 - posted on 03/12/2009

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MY Daughter has also started throwing tantrums, its very stange though, becuase if we leave the room or wont pick her up she just cries, her tantrums are completely random, usually after a toy doenst react how she wants it to. We dont pay a blind bit of attention to her, its a normal thing, but i hope she doenst do it for too long!

Dana - posted on 03/12/2009

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My daughter started doing this two she just turned one 2 weeks ago.  I have been ignoring it.  I walk away and she does follow behind me crying or if I sit down she will come over and scream into my lap but she stops in about 5-10 minutes.  Not very easy to ignore but I don't want it to become a habit.  It has only happened a couple of times so we'll see if it works or not.

Amber - posted on 03/12/2009

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My 13 month old has been throwing tantrums for a few months now. She will throw herself on the floor kicking and screaming and banging her head on the floor. Pediatricians recommend walking into another room and ignoring them while they act that way, but I just try to redirect her attention to something else as much as possible. Easier said than done.

Amber - posted on 03/12/2009

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My 13 month old has been throwing tantrums for a few months now. She will throw herself on the floor kicking and screaming and banging her head on the floor. Pediatricians recommend walking into another room and ignoring them while they act that way, but I just try to redirect her attention to something else as much as possible. Easier said than done.

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