How do I convince my Ob that its time?

Rebekah - posted on 01/19/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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I am in sever pain, I haven't slept in three weeks, I am drowsy and aggravated. I hurt in my baby bump everytime I walk or do anything over five min. long, I can't feel my lady parts and now I am really starting to swell. But I keep getting the you don't know shit routine from the obgyn's and oh yea did I mention my baby to be is already 8pounds, I'm sure she would do just fine on the outside world. Help, if anything just a friendly note to know I'm not alone...Thanx

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Louise - posted on 01/19/2009

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Hey there,



sorry to interupt, but you don't have to go to the Hospital the second your water breaks. You should call your Doc. and inform him/her. The doc. will ask you some questions to make sure everything is o.k., no poop in it, etc. then as long as you don't have sex, get in the tub or do anything else to bring on infection up there, you should be good to stay at home and labor in a comfortable environment until you are ready. You doc. should also tell you how far apart and how long he/she would like to see your contractions before you need to go in. Most hospitals will send you right back home if it is too early, and from what I hear driving around in a car is not fun while in labor.



Good luck!



louise



 

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Hanna - posted on 01/20/2009

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Krysta is right, you don't need to be hooked up to an IV, they'll insert the needle just in case something does happen, but u don't have to be connected. however, when ur water breaks, to be on the safe side, i would get myself checked out asap just to make sure that there isn't any complications and that the baby's head is engaged and that his/her heart rate isn't dropping too much from every contraction (or rather it's coming back up afterwards). from there on, you can go wander around the hallways or go take a shower, go grab something to eat -- high energy foods -- u'll need all the strength u can get for labor or even take a nap if u're not in active labor and pain from contractions is not too overwhelming.

Hanna - posted on 01/20/2009

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this is as per OBYN in both Miami, NYC and Belgium -- when your water breaks you need to go to the hospital asap because 1. ur amniotic fluid is now gone and contractions start squeezing the baby (not to mention it's that much more painful for you) so they need to put a monitor on you to make sure everything is ok with your baby; 2. you have up to 24 hours from that moment to deliver the baby and the doctors need to know whether or not u need to be induced -- if your water broke and u're not in active labor yet, they do need to monitor ur dilation; 3. it's a much higher risk of infection for you and the baby.

now, the reason why they teach the 5-1-1 rule (contractions that are 5 mins apart, lasting 1 minute for 1 hour) is because that's the symptom of active labor, that usually happens when you're around 3-4 cm dilated. under normal circumstances, if ur labor progresses "textbook style", your water will not break until you're about 5 cm dilated, by then you already are in active labor and may deliver within the next 45 minutes.

so the OBs usually tell you whichever happens first -- water breaks or the 5-1-1 contractions.

Rebekah, i'm sorry you are in pain. sounds like you are having some difficult last few weeks. just try to take it easy and see if you can relieve pain by standing on hands & knees and circling around in both directions -- that should help to open up ur pelvis a bit and stretch out/relax your lower back, plus it's a good position for the baby. alternatively, you can sit on the carpet with ur legs open through the knees in front of u, soles of ur feet touching and rock gently (circular motions) -- again, u're relieving some of the pressure and opening up pelvic area plus it's very soothing for the baby, u can hum to him/her while u're doing it, they seem to like it. or u can also lay on ur back, knees pulled up to the chest (open around ur tummy) and rock gently from side to side, it'll do a little stretch of the lower back & hip area. hang in there, the baby will come, from the symptoms, sounds like you don't have much longer to go. stay strong & good luck to you!

Krysta - posted on 01/20/2009

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I'm so sorry you are in a lot of pain and discomfort.  When is your "predicted" due date?  Is this your first baby?  Every pregnancy is so very different it gets frustrating when you feel so bad and other women make it look like a piece of cake at the end...or if you've had previous pregnancies that were EASY at the end and this one is about to do you in!  I'm so sorry you are having a hard time.  It sucks...no other way to say it. 



That being said, this is my fourth pregnancy.  My last one was VERY uncomfortable at the end...couldn't hardly walk because I felt like his head was grinding something between my legs and pressing on nerves.  I tried doing special stretches and the pelvic rock on hands and knees to relieve pressure.  Now, I'm so glad I waited and didn't let the doctor induce me!  My baby was 9 lbs. but he was very healthy.  9 1/2 times out of 10, they know when it's time to make their grand appearance into the world.  Unless there's underlying medical conditions that warrant induction, letting the baby come on his/her own is so much better!!  However, sometimes I do think doctors (in particular men who have never had a baby) don't always address discomfort issues or pain like they should!!!  He should be more sympathetic to you and try to give you alternative ways to help relieve some of the pain!!  If it's less than three weeks to your due date; nipple stimulation several times a day, sex and walking (if you can tolerate it) are a few things that can help send you into labor.  Good luck!! 



As far as knowing when you are in labor?  There are few women who will NOT know.  Very unheard of is the women who either has painless contractions or some so small she doesn't realize labor is happening.  Lots of women get a little blood, streaked mucus (plug) with true labor contractions and they don't slow down/alleviate...they get stronger and more intense!  Even though Braxton-Hicks can be as painful as true labor contractions...at times very intense...they usually let up with drinking lots of water, eating, changing positions.  



My water broke with our second son and at the time, I went to the hospital because I was over 4 weeks early.  Many recommend going straight to the hospital but this is something that needs to be discussed in full with your doctor.  Unless you have a written birth plan and have let your doctor know exactly what you want, you will probably end up in the bed with an I.V. and unable to move around even if your labor is in the beginning stages.  This is not something anybody wants unless the head of your baby is NOT engaged completely.  You have the right to refuse being put into a bed with an I.V. as long as the head is engaged properly!  Get checked out if you need to and go home (they can't make you stay) or start walking the halls...take a warm shower!  Even if your contractions don't start immediately, don't get scared or let them induce you (unless it's medically necessary).  Walk, squat, move and they will most likely start soon.  Many women who truly want natural births will wait 12 or more hours before they let the doctor intervene if her and the baby are healthy!!  Best of luck and sorry this is so long!  I get so frustrated with how pushy the medical field can be with women whose bodies are designed by God himself to have babies!!       



Krysta

Angel - posted on 01/20/2009

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Maybe it's different routines depending on what country you live in. Here in Sweden we learn in parentingclass (held by the obgyn/midwife) that we need to go to the hospital when the water breaks or if the labour pains are about 5 minutes apart...

That's also what I did. When the water broke I went to the hospital and I wasn't sent home at all...

But as I said, the routines could maybe vary depending on where in the world you live....

Angel - posted on 01/19/2009

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I know exactly what you mean. This is my third pregnancy, so I've been through this before so to speak..

When the baby's coming you will know it for sure..

You will feel pain like you've never felt before. It will probably only last between 30 sec. to a minute and then no pain at all for a certain amount of time. Then pain again.... On some moms (like me with my other two) the water breaks first before the labour pains start... When the water breaks you will definately know it....

If your water breaks you should go to the hospital immediatly! The same if the labour pains are about 5 minutes apart (from when the first one starts until the next one starts).

Don't worry. You will do just fine when the day comes!

Allison - posted on 01/19/2009

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Wow, I'm sorry to hear about all your pain! I have been having a lot of discomforts myself lately, but not as much as you. I don't know what you should say to your ob; my ob has not been very informative so far, at least not as far as labor and delivery. I've gotten all my info from childbirth classes and pregnancy books. Right now I'm trying to discriminate between false labor and true labor b/c I've been having contractions. So rest assured you're not alone! I wish I could be more helpful, but I don't know much myself. I'll pray for you. :-)

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