Nurses Elbow

Jenna - posted on 06/08/2010 ( 21 moms have responded )

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I had a little scare. I was playin with my little boy, he will be 16 months on the 19th. I was holding on to his wrist and he was walkin with me and he decided to be a little monkey and start tryin to climb on my legs and all the sudden it popped real loud and he started crying a very painful cry. I would NEVER hurt my baby. So when we get to the ER they took x-rays and when the doctor came in he said it was called nursemaids elbow. His elbow popped out of socket. I cryed just as much as he did while we were at the hospital if not more. I was so afraid that I broke his arm :(. Just the thought of my baby havin a broke bone kills me. Once the doctor popped in back into place he was just fine. And the doctor told me that it happens. I know he is ok now but it still bothers me. And on top of all that my fiance told me this mornin while I was gettin on to Little man for pullin on something that was about to fall over on his and could have hurt him that I should just leave him alone. I told him I was not gonna let him pull it over cause it could hurt him and he tells me well its better then dislocating his shoulder again. That bothered me. I told him first of all it was his elbow not his shoulder. Has nursemaids elbow ever happened to any of yall????

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Donna - posted on 06/12/2010

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Poor you, I bet you felt awful :-( There's not much we can do to prevent these things happening...it's a gut reaction to grab them if they're falling or about to! I don't know if this will help. My daughter is 16 months tomorrow and loves to walk wherever we go, but as she's so small either I'm bent over holding her hand or she's stretched up which obviously is a risk of the same happening as happened to you. I bought a set of reins, not traditional kind though. It's a bit like a little life bag. It's a teeny tiny rucksack that goes on her back, and it clips securely round her chest and it has a detatchable 'lead' for mummy/daddy to hold onto! It's brilliant as I don't have to worry about her runnig off, but We don't have to stretch to hold hands all the time, although she does like to hold our hand too! At least you wouldn't have the worry of pulling his elbow too much while holding hands. It wasn't expensive, I bought it from Amazon and was about £5 probably about $8-$10 and it's a cute rucksack in the shae of a ladybird, and it weighs next to nothing. Don't beat yourself up over this, and as for your man...I'm sure he wouldn't be saying that if it had been him! He's being very insensitive. Take care x

Corrina - posted on 06/09/2010

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yes, nursemaids elbow happened to my daughter when she was only about 5 months old! She was practicing sitting up, and she started to fall backwards, and I grabbed her hand, and snap- she screamed in pain. She cryed every time I moved her arm, so we went to the ER, and they popped it back in place. We've had no problems since. The ER Drs told me that to prevent nursemaids elbow, you should not grab or pull from just one hand as their muscles are not fully formed yet and can become dislocated easily.

Angela - posted on 10/11/2011

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Nursemaids elbow is, unfortunately, common. It occurs in children typically under 4 years of age. by age four, their joints are strong enough to withstand their playful antics. It is not a parents fault. my daughter had it happen when she was two, when 2 friends of the family each had an arm and were swinging her in the air to play (who has not done this with their kids?!) and suddenly a scream and a arm that could not be moved led us to the ER. It is almost unsetling to see how fast a babe with nursemaids can go from crying hysterically to playing normally in a matter of less than five minutes. Nursemaids got its name from an era when everyone had a nurse, a maid, or a nanny to help with thier hildren. It was common to get a child to "come along" when walking by tugging on thier arm. I don't believe anyone intends for it to happen. You are not a bad parent if it does. Just try to minimize stress on the joints, and any pulling, if possible, until after 4 years, when your little one can rough house better! Play safe, have fun!

Michelle - posted on 06/19/2010

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My 2nd daughter had Nursemaides elbow from the time she was about 16 months until she was around 22 months. We just had to be careful with how we handled her and couldn't do the monkey swinging or anything else. I remember being so upset and worrying if she would always have weak elbows and other joints for that matter, but she's 10 now and has not had problems with her elbows since her toddler years.

As for your fiance and his attitude towards the situation... a mans insensitive side sometimes worsens after the vows.

Stephani - posted on 06/09/2010

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Nursemaids elbow happens all the time. dont be surprised if it happens again. its most common when you r holding their hand and they get mad and drop to their knees. Tell your fiance to get over it. Krama's a biznatch and he will be watching your little man he will fall, or jumping off something, or climbing on something and at some point will have to get stiches.... then he will see how it feels to feel helpless in a situation that you couldnt control.

no worries, Nursemaid's elbows are EXTREMELY common

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Megan - posted on 11/28/2012

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My daughter started to throw a tatrum when we were walking up the stairs i was holding her hand and when she did that i felt a small pop... She is moving it but not as much as normal... Should I be concerned?!

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I wasn't warned about it but it did happen and yes Ella and I headed out to the ER and they took x-rays...it was actually her shoulder though not the elbow, not reallizing it I actually put it back in place. I was so scared taking her to the ER I thought that they were going to think I was abusing her, but they said it is actually very common, and just to be careful. I had actually lifted her by both hands but with her only being like 7mo or so her body wasn't developed enough to support her weight. She chunked up pretty good right before she started crawling a lot. What was funny is like she wouldn't move the arm that had come out and if i moved it certain ways she just screamed and my hubby was on duty but once I put it back in place she was fine but I still took her in anyway just incase it was more serious than it seemed.

Joann - posted on 06/24/2010

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oh wow! i've heard of nurses elbow before but didn't realize it was a pretty common thing.... makes me want to think twice about the monkeying around we do like holding kids by their hand and swinging them etc.... but part of it sounds like some kids are more prone to it than others. yeesh, I can't even imagine being in your shoes and feeling as bad as you did when it happened and going through the upset at the E.R. then to have your fiancé put that guilt on you again. hugs! I hope it doesn't occur again, but sounds like you are taking extra pre caution just like any good mama does! take care ; )

Karen - posted on 06/24/2010

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Yup I was holding my 2yos hand and walking down the hill in the yard and she fell and I was still holding on. Well she is a hefty lil thing and sure enough she got nursemaids elbow too. You are lucky it went right back into place, we were not.
We went to the pedi who tried to pop it back in...a few times...with no luck. They sent us to the ER where they tried to pop it back in...a few times...She screamed every time, it was aweful. They sent us for Xrays and then had to put her arm in like a soft cast. All the popping back into place they tried doing made it worse I guess, and there was fluid in the joints. So they technically never put it back in place, the cast helped it back.
It was a mess, I felt sooo bad for her. Every time someone came near her she would cry thinking they were gonna hurt her arm more.
DH made fun of me for a while saying well you dislocated her arm.....in random conversations. It bothered me cause it was a total accident. Just don't worry about it, things happen, kids get hurt. You can't prevent everything. Looking back
I wish I would've just let her fall instead of holding her thinking I was helping.

Mel - posted on 06/21/2010

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no not yet but iam sure it will the only thing that came close was her wrist cracking she was ok though but i thought i broke it felt really bad after words x

Staci - posted on 06/20/2010

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My son turned 16 months old yesterday and nurses elbow hasnt happened to me yet. I am praying nothing happens to me but my son's left foot is turns toward right foot when right food is straight so I dont know what is going on there. The doctor told me to let it be but my son keeps tripping over himself and it hurts me everytime he does it. Feel free to add me!

Ericka - posted on 06/18/2010

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Aww.. my son had nurses elbow when he was 6 or 7 months old! Scared me to death and I went to the Peds crying! I was told not to pull or pick him up by his hands alone!

Donna - posted on 06/17/2010

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http://www.amazon.com/gp/search/ref=sr_n...
here's a link for the harness choices at amazon.com as i am assuming you're in the US! they have some fun animal shaped harnesses, and the back pack ones. My daughter is really used to having it on now when we go out for a wee walk. Best to get used to this now rather than waiting until later when they can refuse to wear it! Glad you're feeling better about it now, and his daddy has got think about his safety and health, and the little tiny backpack is a fantastic take on the traditional harness...it looks so cute and seems to be quite comfortable as she pays no attention to it at all! xx

Danielle - posted on 06/17/2010

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Jenna, I'm glad to see that you did post this again and got the replies you were hoping for. Nurses elbow sounds like its more common than not and you were blessed to get so many examples from others. I will tell you that I also have the "leash" backpack and love it! My little boy from about 20 months till about 38 months would think it funny to run from me when we were out and about, esp at the mall. I had two choices, don't go anywhere or put him on the leash. I let him pick it out and he loved wearing it. My husband was skeptical about it at first but after all the stories of my son running off, he was happy to hear more about the great days we had instead of trouble. Good luck!

Jenna - posted on 06/17/2010

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Thanks for all the stories ladies. I am glad I am not the only one that this has happened to. Christi yes I did watch how to put it back in :( And I took him to his reg dr yesterday for his 16 month check up and shots and I told him about havin to go to the ER cause of it. He told me that the next time it happens not to worry bout goin to the ER to just do it myself. He said IF it happens again to try to fix it ASAP that way it will be easier to do. The longer you wait the harder it is to put back. I googled it the other day and it said that its more prone to happening to girls then boys. I dont understand that part tho. I would think it was more prone in boys since they play so much more rough then girls but what do I know lol. Thanks for sharing all your stories with me. Donna I would LOVE to get a little thing like that for him. His daddy wouldnt agree with me but I think it would be best :)

Trudy - posted on 06/16/2010

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Nursemaids elbow happened to my daughter. My brother in law was trying to drag her away from behind the tv and she was crying for a while. i rang the docs and put her in the car. when we got there she was all good, no pain or anything. worked out we had popped it back in while putting her arms in the straps of her seat. my poor brother inlaw was almost in tears and the thought he had hurt her.

Kathryn - posted on 06/15/2010

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Yes!!!! And im so happy u posteds this topic as It made me think i was a terible parent! My daughter was eating cat biscuts while i was geting her breakfast 1 morning and when i went to walk her out of the kitchen holding her wrist she pulled and twisted to try and get bak to the biscuts. Well that was it...she started screaming and i thought she was just packing a tanty, so I placed her in the play room while i finished geting her breakfast. However while she was eating she did not move her arm at all. and when I got her out of the highchair she screamed. It seamed every time she moved it or bumped it she was in alot of pain. My mind began racing and I too was scared that I had broken her arm and rushed her to the doc. After explaining what had happened the doctor wheeled his chair over to her, manipulated her arm and POP! it was back in place with a big scream, a 1 min cry and then my lil lady was bak 2 normal!!! The doc then told me tnhat she dislocated her arm and that he sees it all the time and reinforced to me that it WAS NOT MY FAULT!!!!! Thanks to that comment from him we are now able to joke about it without me feeling horrible!! You must remember that it is NOT UR FAULT!!!!

Christi - posted on 06/15/2010

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Nurses elbow happened to my daughter, my husband was holding her hands and she was having a meltdown and out it went, I lost it!!!! It's very common! I kbow that doesn't make you feel better... did you watch how they put it back? because now that it's happened once it can happen again. That's what we were told!

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god love you what a fright. That sounds like it was awful for you and you have my sympathy and support. I adore my 2 girls and also would never and could never harm or hurt them in any way. However have spent many a tearfull nght and day in the ER no matter how carefull a mum you are they're goin to get hurt and im sickened by your partners comment to you totaly heartless how dare he.xxx

Nadine - posted on 06/09/2010

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thanks for the info, this has never happen with my son who will be 16 month on the 17, but he climbs alot and some times fall from what he climbed up on some time i will watch what he is up to then scold him, i try to let him know whats rude, what not to touchso he will say the worrds when he is tempted to touch so he will repeat the "rude" "leave it" and he undrestand so try that method it might just work for you

Katie - posted on 06/09/2010

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Your fiance's comment sounds like the real-life equivalent of a troll: saying something ridiculous to get a reaction or make you feel bad.
I've not ever had any issues with elbows or shoulders or even hips or knees popping out, but I was warned about it by the pediatrician, which makes me think it's common enough. Don't kick yourself too much over it. The way you described it, there wasn't anything you really could have done differently to prevent it.

Joann - posted on 06/24/2010

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oh wow! i've heard of nurses elbow before but didn't realize it was a pretty common thing.... makes me want to think twice about the monkeying around we do like holding kids by their hand and swinging them etc.... but part of it sounds like some kids are more prone to it than others. yeesh, I can't even imagine being in your shoes and feeling as bad as you did when it happened and going through the upset at the E.R. then to have your fiancé put that guilt on you again. hugs! I hope it doesn't occur again, but sounds like you are taking extra pre caution just like any good mama does! take care ; )

Staci - posted on 06/20/2010

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My son turned 16 months old yesterday and nurses elbow hasnt happened to me yet. I am praying nothing happens to me but my son's left foot is turns toward right foot when right food is straight so I dont know what is going on there. The doctor told me to let it be but my son keeps tripping over himself and it hurts me everytime he does it. Feel free to add me!

Ericka - posted on 06/18/2010

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Aww.. my son had nurses elbow when he was 6 or 7 months old! Scared me to death and I went to the Peds crying! I was told not to pull or pick him up by his hands alone!

Danielle - posted on 06/17/2010

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Jenna, I'm glad to see that you did post this again and got the replies you were hoping for. Nurses elbow sounds like its more common than not and you were blessed to get so many examples from others. I will tell you that I also have the "leash" backpack and love it! My little boy from about 20 months till about 38 months would think it funny to run from me when we were out and about, esp at the mall. I had two choices, don't go anywhere or put him on the leash. I let him pick it out and he loved wearing it. My husband was skeptical about it at first but after all the stories of my son running off, he was happy to hear more about the great days we had instead of trouble. Good luck!

Trudy - posted on 06/16/2010

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Nursemaids elbow happened to my daughter. My brother in law was trying to drag her away from behind the tv and she was crying for a while. i rang the docs and put her in the car. when we got there she was all good, no pain or anything. worked out we had popped it back in while putting her arms in the straps of her seat. my poor brother inlaw was almost in tears and the thought he had hurt her.

Christi - posted on 06/15/2010

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Nurses elbow happened to my daughter, my husband was holding her hands and she was having a meltdown and out it went, I lost it!!!! It's very common! I kbow that doesn't make you feel better... did you watch how they put it back? because now that it's happened once it can happen again. That's what we were told!

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