To potty or not to potty

Albena - posted on 03/24/2010 ( 25 moms have responded )

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At what age is it suitable to start teaching your child to potty? My son is 14 moths old and i think that it is time to start. Would you share oppinions?

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Bethany - posted on 03/24/2010

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My friend and I have 14 and 16 mth olds. We have both been puting them on the potty regularly through the day for many months, from about 9 or 10 mths.

At first it was just a random thing if they did something, but now, Charlotte will sign "potty" and I'll put her on it and more often than not, she'll do a wee or a poo. She is happy to sit and read and play with a toy until something comes out.



We put them on when they get up, after meals and while the bath is running. Charlotte is pretty regular, and whenever she is on the potty I sign Potty (point to palm twice) and sing "poo poo in the potty" (like a conga line song). So she has put that together in her head , and is now starting to recognise the feeling that a poo is coming, or a wee, and so is initiating it herself. When she soes something, we cheer and clap and we look at it and she comes with me as I put it in the toilet and was say "bye bye poo" when we flush. and she waves bye bye.



I have always used cloth, and now I rarely have to wash a pooy nappy anymore, unless we're out and I'm not taking as much notice of her and don't see the "poo face"



Just buy a couple, for his room and the bathroom, and stick him on it with a book or an interesting toy. No big deal. I've seen another lady suggest counting to 20, I'd go longer than that personally, like to 100 or something. or read a particular book that is long enough. We have an alphabet book and she often went by about 'O'. Now she does better if I leave and just go back in when she calls me. She looks at the book herself.



You'd know better than anyone when he usually poos, so stick him on when he gets up and whenever he usually poos and you never know. Then he'll get used to sitting on it, and the praise if he ever does anything with reinforce that association.



We have timber floors, so Charlotte is in training pants most of the time so I can yank them down quick if she says potty. But she'll often hold on now until I get the nappy off too.



Just keep it light hearted and up beat and there is no rush or time limit, just make it routine, like everything else.

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Nicole - posted on 04/28/2010

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My son is 15 months and i started putting him on the potty at 9 months.Every morning he gets up and wants to go on there. Throughout the day if I notice it looks like he needs to go, I'll ask him and then we go to the bathroom. Sometimes he just walks over to the bathroom door. The problem I have is that he's got a big behind and barely fits on the potty chair. But I'd say it's never too early to start figure the faster they learn the faster you stop having to change diapers.

Fabiola - posted on 04/27/2010

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my daughter is slowly learning what the potty is. shse is almost 15 months my plan was teach her to sit on it and once she knows to sit on it teach her to pull her pants of once she knows that hopefully she potties....lol so now we are teaching her to pull her pants down. i think its more of when you think they are ready. my friends daughter was potty trained by the time she was 16 months and i give her props i dont know how she did it. but i think they all learn at their own pace.

Rachaelle - posted on 04/26/2010

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I "pottied" with my first at a yr n a half and it took 2 wks... Swear! He was very smart.... And u also have to have PATIENCE. Do not get discouraged and switch bak to pullups or pampers.. once in undies-- stay in undies... even if that means changing sheets 2 or 3 times a nite--- HE/SHE will soon get tired of the wetness and being woke thru out the night to change clothes... Now my 14mos right now is not quite ready but is getting there bc he see's brother going!

Noelle - posted on 04/08/2010

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my daughter is 14 months and for the last month or so, we have been introducing her to the potty. we are not expecting her to be fully trained by any means for a long time, but now we put her on the potty at bath time each night and intermittently throughout the day. i usually sit on the potty too and talk to her about pee pee and poopy. we also noticed that she does not like the sensation of being wet. She pulls on her diaper and crosses her legs and bounces up and down when she is about to pee. we always prompt her with, do you have to potty?, and then take her into the bathroom. she rarely waits long enough to pee and usually has already done so, but i believe the action of taking her into the bathroom will teach he the connection between using the potty and the sensation of having to pee. as of yet, she has only peed in the potty and has not had a poop, but that is okay with us. at this point, we are just trying to instill the purpose of a toilet into her head.
When i told my family that i had purchased a potty seat for her, many of them were skeptical and said that it was a total and utter waste of my time to start training so young. I went with what i as a parent felt was best and seem to be making great progress. children are so intelligent and pick up on just about everything, so if you feel that starting to train is what's best for your situation, then do it. trust your mommy powers!!! and good luck!

Shanna - posted on 04/07/2010

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i think it is perfectly fine. i am actually introducing the potty to my daughter born 2-2-09 and she has pooped in it too. every time i see her having to poop if we are at home i sit her on it. i have it out so she can look at it and sit on it. if you feel athat you are ready because parents need to be trained to help train their children . and when they are ready and you are it will be alto easier. my daughter was fully potty trained at 2 so i plan on having my second one trained by 2 hopefully. they are all different

Izzy - posted on 04/07/2010

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My 3 year old is on day 10. My 13 month old just seems too young to be potty training! I can't imagine doing it yet! It has been incredibly easy once the 3 year old accepted the potty and I'm sure the baby will be trained very much earlier than his older brother but not yet!
each child is different of course!

Rebecca - posted on 04/06/2010

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I think it is a personal judgment as to when you should start potty training. Generally I think parents start at about 2 yrs old. I started potty training my first daughter when she was a little over a year and stopped cuz I was working. She was trained by 2 though. Maybe it is a good time to start once they learn to walk well. I believe the earlier the better. Either way it does not hurt the child. Best of luck!!!

CJ - posted on 04/06/2010

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Well, all kids are ready at their own time, alot of boys don't train until their almost 3, but that's not the rule, if you think he's ready to start, then start him. My daughter has had a potty chair in the bathroom since her 1st birthday. Alot of people thought it was too early for me to buy her one, but I wanted her to get used to having it and sitting on it (just like a chair not to go potty in yet) while I was going to the bathroom. I don't want her to feel overwhelmed or become scared of the chair by me just all of a sudden making her sit on it. I just left it in the bathroom and she started sitting on it herself after about a week. She loves to sit on her potty while mommy's on the big potty. I think I will start the actual potty training soon, as she has been bringing me a diaper when she needs changed, I think she's just about ready to start going in her potty.

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I like the link Alexandra posted. That's what I've always gone by. But for those who have young potty trainers, I say woohoo! None of my kids would early. My oldest was almost 4. I started him at 18 months, he was making progress, then there was regression when a daycare provider disciplined him for pooping in his diaper. I didn't know what was going on until awhile after it'd been happening and the damage was done. :( He would hide after that to go.

My 2nd was 2 1/2 half and my easiest one. Just put her in big girl panties, she wet them once and that was it.

My 3rd was scared to death of her potty. She told me she wouldn't go on it because she didn't love her potty. So, daddy took her to buy a pink potty that she loved. Turned out she didn't really love that one much either. She turned 3 in December and just started being in big girl undies all day about a month ago and in them at night a week ago. Yesterday was the first day that I let her go out of the house without a diaper on because she freaks out if you put her on an adult toilet. She's my very very shy, doesn't like change at all child.

My youngest is 13 months and I'm not even going to start trying until he shows an interest in the potty chair as anything other than to stand on when he's trying to get into stuff on the sink.

Although, he might not love that one when it becomes time because it's a pink potty. LOL

I'll just watch the signs and see when he starts showing interest in it.

Jenny - posted on 04/05/2010

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We just bought our daughter a potty chair but it's still in the box. She is 14 months and she started showing interest around Christmas time. I always tell her when I'm going to go potty and she follows. We use sign language with her and I believe she has understood the idea early on. She will flush the toilet for me some of the time. The other day I knew just when she pooped and I asked (while signing potty), "Do you need a new diaper?" and she responded by saying, "potty" and walking away from me to her bedroom for a diaper change. I work full time outside the home and she goes to day care. All I have to do is let the teachers know when I'm ready and they will work with us. I'm planning to get out the potty chair tomorrow and see what happens.

Aisha - posted on 04/05/2010

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If you think it is time, go for it. My dd was trained at 15 mo, but she also walked at 10, so that gave her plenty of "practice" time. Now, my son, is going to be another story. i'm going to give him another month or so, b/c he is 14 mo now, but he just started walking last month. He has started going in the bathroom and shutting the door. He's sily like that, but we r getting ready to work on it.

Olga - posted on 04/05/2010

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My Alycia is 14 m.o. and I decided to try to potty-train her from now. Me and my husband agreed to start right from the baby toilet seat on the adult toilet :). Without any stages. We bought a simple white, soft with little yellow ducks on the top seat and introduced her to it :). She loved the ducks so much and carries the seat all over the house now. I tried to put her on the seat but she got scared and i followed some advises I got from this wonderful circle of moms, I stopped for a while and let her to play with the seat on the floor. She just loved it. She is trying to seat on it and when she seats on it she claps her hands a laughs and we say “Such a wonderful good girl you are”. I think it is her very own way to get ready for a big toilet. I do not worry about it because we still have time LOL. Many parents start to teach kids from 18 m.o.

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I think this is the best time to start.I have 4 years old and 13 month old.I am going to start with my baby in about 1 or 2 months.With my first I started when she was 15 months.At first she would just sit there and read books or play with toys but if you do this few times a day she'll go and that is the big moment when I would talk about it, show her the pee-pee she just did,give her a sticker or stamp on her hand.We did this over and over every day.It took me 4 months and she was potty trained.But she was still wearing pull-ups at nap time and at night until she was close to 3y.

Carly - posted on 04/03/2010

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Thanks for starting this topic! I was wondering myself, since my 14 month old is giving us such trouble with diaper changes lately, and he is telling us 'kaka' as soon as he poops and wants to be changed right away. I was thinking it was a little early, but I'm glad to hear that it's not! :)

Nicole - posted on 03/29/2010

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Hi, My son is 13 months and has been going on the potty every morning. He is great now and always does number 1 and 2 on the potty every morning. I think cause I started early it made it all very natural and easy.

Bethany - posted on 03/26/2010

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I find the hardest bit for me is to "be bothered". Because when Charlotte points to her palm, that's "potty" or "toilet" in Australian sign. But sometimes she is just showing that she knows the sign, like if she hears me say toilet or poo or potty.

To get her out of her highchair or whereever, and take her pants and her nappy off and sit her on the potty, and then wait, every time she does the sign, is a bit annoying sometimes. Other times I grab her and sing the song and wisk her onto the potty and it's fine. So I guess it depends on what mood I'm in. Also, sometimes when it's a poo, by the time I get her there, it's "gone back up" because of all the action.

So there is definately something to be said for a predictable potty routine, like first thing, then after each meal, then before bath or something, as much for me as for her. Then I would need to watch the time, and only leave her on for so long because she won't always need to go. I think I'll start trying that, instead of constantly watching for signs.

Michele - posted on 03/26/2010

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Wow. I been wanting to start potty training my daughter around 15-18mo and everyone I tell gives me a hard time about it, but I know it has been done. This is encouraging to me. It sounds like you are all just rolling w/ the punches and not forcing anything. I am seriously amazed. I am motivated now.

Catriona - posted on 03/25/2010

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Hi I have a 13 month old boy and since the age of 9 months I have been putting him on his potty for the first few months he didn't do anything until a friend suggested to putting him on after his meals and before bath time and since then he has been peeing and pooing. After each time he does something we clap and make it fun.

If you find your son won't sit on the potty give him a toy or something to play with.

Good luck

Albena - posted on 03/25/2010

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Thank you everybody. I am on my way to buy a potty this weekend for my son. I'll try my best to start introducing it in a fun way. The little problem i have is that he goes to day care, where they teach them in a different way. I am one of those unfortunate mothers who has to work and miss a lot of things to do with my son.
It sounds like all of you have the time to do all the training with your kidds. Are you all stay at home moms?

I think that it is time, so i am going insist that the day care start teaching my son to potty and i will carry on with the same method at home, at night and over weekends.

Ez - posted on 03/25/2010

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You'll know when he's ready. My daughter has been telling me when she is doing a wee for a while ("wee wee Mama"), and I can always tell when she's doing a poo because she squats and grunts lol (she would come to me straight after and say "poo Mum". She also started following me to the toilet, banging on the door, and saying 'wee wee', so I knew she'd made that association.

It became clear that she was ready, so I have just very recently introduced her to the potty, with varying success. I've just been really careful to keep it a low-key affair.. no pressure.

Nikki - posted on 03/24/2010

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never too early to start, especially if he shows interest. Just be patient and make sure there are no negative consequences tied to not pottying -- this will slow him down in the wrong run.

Dawn - posted on 03/24/2010

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I feel you should do it when ever you feel you and him are ready. I plan on starting with my son in June/July because we are taking a family trip in May for 3 weeks....I don't want to start something we won't be able to continue. I loved reading your post Bethany!!

Catherine - posted on 03/24/2010

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I've been putting my son (born Feb 2) on the potty every time I go since he was around 9 months old. I talk to him about how we are sitting on the potty and how pee-pee and poo-poo go in the potty. He poops in there almost 100% of the time now, and I am loving not changing poo diapers. We are keeping everything fun. There is no rush for him to have full bowel and bladder control, it is just part of his routine now and something he is getting used to doing.

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