1 year old not sleeping throught the night.

Leah - posted on 03/24/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )




My one year old son, whom I breastfed for nine months, will not sleep in his own bed for more than a couple hours. I have to get him out of this, as I cannot sleep with him in my bed. My husband is no help, he complains that the crying is keeping him up and he has to work the next day. I know my husband is wrong for being this way about it. I am anxiously waiting for him to start working out of town so I no longer have to avoid the argument. Does anyone have any tips other than letting them cry it out, that you can offer? At this point, I feel letting him cry is my only option because of how long it's gone on for. I don't give my son a bottle, or a soother, he won't take a soother. He goes right back to sleep as soon as he is laid in my bed. HELP!


Chassidy - posted on 03/26/2011




My daughter is 13 months old. She still does not sleep through the night she will go to sleep in here bed she has alway went to sleep in her own bed. some of the times when she wakes up she will not go back to sleep until i put her in my bed i know it keeps my husband and myself awake but for me id rather be awake with no crying then try to sleep with a screaming child. as soon as she goes back to sleep i move her back to her bed it works she will usually sleep the rest of the night how ever long or short that my be. shes not a big sleeper she has never been. But all the books say that eventually she will get use to sleeping in her own bed all night long IF you dont get them use to waking up next to you. I have also read that around this age they start to have nightmares and separation anxiety so your little one my just need that extra comfort for a few minutes when he wakes up. I know first hand how fraustrating it is to try and sleep with a child in between you so whatever works use it. I also let my first two children cry it out that work but they were alot better sleepers then my youngest and not quite as stubborn.


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Annette - posted on 04/02/2011




My daughter who is 13 months old also does not sleep threw the night. I am lucky to get 2 hours of sleep a night. She is down at 9pm falls asleep around 930-10pm then is up at 1am and again at 3 and again at 5 and again at 7am. By that time she wants out of bed to play and I just want to sleep! I understand your pain, I have tried so many things to help her to sleep, but nothing is working.

Maria - posted on 03/31/2011




Have you tried bringing him into your bed when he starts crying and then transferring him back to the cot when he's back to sleep? My son still has a feed during the night and that gets him straight back to sleep and i take him back into his cot.... trying to get out of this slowly! Just thinking that it's the closeness of being next to you in your bed that they like so once he's back to sleep maybe that'll be him? Another tip that worked really well for us is to put a piece of your clothing in next to him in the cot... I used my dressing gown as it's really soft, (just remember to take the cord out of it - i woke up once and he had it around his neck - i nearly died)! It's the smell of you that they like i think... Good luck!

Charlotte - posted on 03/31/2011




Ha! I gave in to my baby! She sleeps in bed with us still, but I honestly don't mind. We all fit, and she sleeps 100% through the night if she is next to me. We recently bought her a toddler bed, so we are going to try and slowly transition her into her own room. The whole "cryig it out" method does not work for her. She will cry for hours, and I am so not exaggerating! I think we are going to have to sleep on the floor in the beginning or something. Jeesh..kids, gotta love em! :)

ME - posted on 03/26/2011




I'm so sorry for you...my Mayah (2/2010) sleeps through the night, and has since 10-11 months, but Miles, her older bro, didn't start doing it until 18 months, and now at age three, he's waking in the night all the time again...

I wish that I had some help to offer. Co-sleeping with him worked okay for us when he was younger, but isn't working so well now! Pediatricians always insisted that CIO was the only way to solve the problem, but it wasn't an option for me. Good luck to you!

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