7 months and all of a sudden becoming very needy!

Robyn - posted on 09/30/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )




My 7 month old dauhter has always been a very layed back, content baby. She would only cry when she was hungry, needing a change, or just tired. It was soooo easy to know what she wanted, and once she was fulfilled she was always, smiling, laughing, playing, etc. NOW she seems to want me or my husband ALL the time. She wakes up in the middle of the night crying. During the day I will lay her in a rocker I have for her, or her put her in her jumper to clean and she will cry, and/or screech until I come back, then she'll smile and be all happy again! AHHHH! Any suggestions, or similiar experiences going on with any of you? Thanks in advance.


Melissa - posted on 10/18/2010




What's now commonly refered to as "separation anxiety" is actuly a very old survival instinct. "separation anxiety" usely develops around the time babies learn to crawl and sometimes intensifies when they learn to walk. The reason is in human history it was the norm to live in tribes and villages out on the land so "separation anxiety" would naturally kick in when the baby became mobile to them close to momma and keep them wondering off and getting eaten by something.

Also this is time they are developing "object permanence" so when you leave the room she remembers you exist but she doesn't know if you will ever come back or not. It's like if you and your husband have the biggest fight you have ever had and he stomps out the door and you truly don't know if he will ever come back.... That's how you baby feels every time you leave the room. This stage will pass, the best thing to do is return to her when she starts to freak out and reassure her that you are still there and she will learn that when you leave you will come back.

Hope this helped good luck :-)

Maria - posted on 10/18/2010




My son has just finished going through that stage, THANK GOD!!! I know exactly what you're going through, my son would not be put down for about a month and a half, no matter what people suggest to you on here about putting them playing in the same room your in blah blah NONE of it works! I know how frustrating it is, simply because you can't do anything while your on your own with the little one, so in the end I gave up trying to do everything and figured he would soon get out of this stage, and he did! He's been playing on his own for about 2 weeks now, he seems to have just got interested in everything but me lol, all i can suggest is that you grin and bear it, and try and get things done while she's sleeping, (which isn't very long if she's anything like my son), but please believe me she will grow out of it! I know it's very hard to believe right now, I actually thought it would never end, but just enjoy the cuddles and play with her while you can, cos she'll soon have enough of you! My son still has his off days, but i went back to work 2 weeks ago, and he stays with his granny during the day, so i enjoy the cuddles i get now as i don't see him as much!
Sorry if i've babbled on too much, i just wanted you to know, that at the moment there isn't really much you can do, but it will end eventually! Sorry if i haven't been very helpful, but i posted a similar question on here about 2 months ago and no-one seemed to understand that no matter what i did there was nothing that would make him happy unless he was in my arms! So just to let you know, you're not alone! Good luck :) x x

Celeste-sa - posted on 10/18/2010




My 8 month old, started with very bad stranger and separation anxiety at 3 months old. This apparently doesnt happen often, as normally it would be from 6/7 months onward. She is only now getting past this, but just so you know, it is normal. I started playing games with my LO, like peek a boo whilst hiding behind things and saying 'bye-bye, see you later'- every time I left the room and 'hello' when I came in, so she learnt I will always return. Its hard work, but does help. I also found the book 'The Wonder Weeks' which explains your babys 8 major developmental leaps in their first 14 months, and it has been a complete lifesaver for me.

Tina - posted on 09/30/2010




She is probably at the age of seperation anxiety. All babies go through it and it is just a phase but she is getting old enough now to know that when you walk out of her sight you might be leaving. Before if she couldn't see you she didn't think about you but as she gets older that is changing. It is at this age that some babies will start to be timid around people or family members that they don't recognize.


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Jilliane - posted on 03/12/2013




I see you posted this a couple years ago. It seemed like you were writting about what I an experiencing right now with my daughter. Exactly the same way to a T. What did you.do, find out? How did you get thru it and how ling did it last? Any input would help thank you!

Zara - posted on 11/07/2010




my 9 month old has this same problem atm.. i cant leave her for 2 secs i cant even put her down as soon as i try to do she starts crying immediately.. i still put her down n let her sulk for a bit.. and she only wants me all of the time.. gosh! they say its only a stage but how long do they go through it for?.. i think my girl has been doing this for at least a months if not two,. driving me crazy!! :/

Jennifer - posted on 10/17/2010




My daughter did the same thing. Her doctor said that between 6-9 months babies have sepration anxiety. It is completely common and they do eventually get over it. My daughters lasted around a month or so.

Julie - posted on 10/01/2010




My daughter is going through the same thing! I'm interested to hear what people have to say

Jessyka - posted on 10/01/2010




can you put her rocker or jumper in the same room as you? then she will be able to see you. or, if you have a baby carrier, you can try to wear her.

otherwise, try leaving the room for very short stretches of time, walk out, if she starts cryin, call out to her to let her know you are still there. that may not work immediately, but if you do it enough, she will realize that you are not leaving her by walking out of the room.

to help enforce that, if you are going to actually be leaving her, for work or to go out with friends, etc, make sure to tell her goodbye, and that you'll be back soon.

i agree that this sounds like separation anxiety, and hopefully it's a phase both of you can work through by trusting one another. good luck!

Robyn - posted on 09/30/2010




Oh hey! I just added you to my circle. You have the petite daughter! haha So do I!!! People are always saying how little she is for her age. Soooo annoying! haha She is just not a chunky monkey is all. Proportioned well! She weighed 7 3 when she was born, and is right on target as my doctor says. Thanks for the msg. I hope someone can help us! haha Nice meeting you.

Adrienne - posted on 09/30/2010




i can't offer you any advice because is now doing that all of the sudden too. It is almost making me crazy. sorry I couldnt help, but its nice to know I am not the only one.

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