any ideas to get a 9 month old to sleep his nights????

Eva-May - posted on 11/04/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )

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Help me please..I need sleep...my 9 month old son, seems to think he needs to wake up about 3 times during the night....same time every night...midnight...2:30am and then around 5ish....MOMMY NEEDS SLEEP....please any sugestions would be greatly appricated!!!

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Christina - posted on 11/10/2010

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My LO just turn 9 months and she went through a spell of doing that. Our ped. said that it was seperation anxiety. And to let her self soothe herself back to sleep. As long as they are being fed enough then there is no reason for them to wake and not be able to go back to sleep other then needing you and bottle/breast to go back to sleep. We let her cry it out and after ONLY 2 DAYS she began sleeping throught the night again. I will admit it is hard, very hard!! But, just try it. I'm not going to lie the first night my daughter cried for 1hr and 45min!! I never picked her up would just pat her little bottom and of course made sure she was ok. Then, I walked out and returned after a short bit again. I stuck to it eventhrough it was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do!! The 2nd night She woke and cried for ONLY 30 MIN!! I stuck to it again! Then, on the 3rd night SHE SLEPT THE WHOLE NIGHT! I always let my daughter cry for 15 min before I go chek on her (unless she's crying like she's hurt of course!) and she is most of the time back asleep in 5 min!

I found some information for you:
http://www.mindspring.com/~drwarren/slee...
By 4 months of age, most infants should be able to sleep through the night without feedings. Since infants derive such great comfort from feeding, it should come as no surprise that a feeding can soothe a crying infant even if he isn't hungry. Some infants become dependent on having feedings to soothe themselves and put themselves to sleep. Often they take just a few sips from the bottle or a few sucks at the breast and they are right back to sleep. But if they aren't offered the feeding, they are wide awake and screaming. Why risk letting the baby get hysterical when it's so easy just to feed him and then get back to bed yourself?! Of course there is the problem that babies who go to sleep with bottles in their mouths may develop cavities in their teeth (bottle rot, nursing bottle carries). Aside from that, if your baby is old enough to sleep through the night and really isn't taking a full feeding, then he is using the bottle to put himself to sleep. Unfortunately, he may continue to demand a feeding every time he becomes slightly awake in order to put himself back to sleep. This is known as Trained Night Feeding.

Sleep is a necessity, but how we go to sleep is a learned behavior. If you want your child to sleep in his own bed or crib without feeding or other interventions you have to teach him to put himself to sleep. Normal sleep is punctuated by many periods of arousal. Adults look at the clock and groan and go back to sleep. A baby who hasn't learned to put himself to sleep will awaken and demand whatever intervention he has learned to use to put himself back to sleep.

Between 6 and 8 months, most infants start to develop separation anxiety. That means they become unhappy or even distressed if their parent (usually mother) isn't within sight. Separation anxiety will add significantly to the difficulty of getting a baby back to sleep in his own crib. For that reason, I recommend getting infants used to going to sleep in their own cribs by 4 months of age. By that, I mean, put the baby into the crib awake but drowsy and help him fall asleep in his crib. This can be done by talking to him or singing to him or gently stroking him as he falls off to sleep with the idea that you will gradually diminish the time spent doing this. If an infant doesn't fall asleep in his crib, all he knows about his crib is that it's a place where he wakes up alone and terrified without any idea how he got there or that you want him there. It may seem foolish to put a child into his crib awake and risk crying when you could just as easily put him in asleep and be done with it like you did in early infancy, but it's a lot easier to encourage a child to develop good sleep habits at 9 PM or 11 PM then it is at 2 AM or 4 AM. If he awakens during the night, you should avoid taking him out of the crib. Try to comfort him in the crib by talking to him and gently stroking him. If you must take your baby out of the crib, comfort him sufficiently to be able to put him back into the crib, but put him back into the crib while he is still awake.

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my daughter is 9 months old as well, but stopped waking up when she was like 6 months old. (i am strictly nursing, she gets no bottle ever) my body literlly knew that it was 1am and time to get up! I was waking up before she would actually wake up! I know you said you have another child, but I let her cry it out and it only lasted for 3 nights. Well i guess its more like i would let her cry for 10 mins and just listen to the cry and if she wasnt calming down, I would go in and try calming her down in the crib before i resorted to picking her up. Taking her out of the crib was the last resort. I would lay her on her left side and kinda rock her while she was laying down, get her calmed down and leave the room. And if she started crying I would wait again and go in and do the same thing. It only took a few times before she would finally pass out and the next night I did the same thing, but waited a little longer before i would go calm her down so she had a chance to sooth herself back to sleep.

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Fallon - posted on 11/11/2010

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I have the same problem and I am going to wait until it is a holiday break like thanksgiving and do the let them cry it out and check on them every 20 mins and says it is ok, but not pick the child up. That way the other children (like my 4 yr old) don't have school to worry about if they get woken up. Hope this helps either you or me.

Eva-May - posted on 11/11/2010

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thats chu=istina...that would be me...my bf calls me a mother hen...i guess i ned to find a new bedtime routine

Jayme-Lee - posted on 11/07/2010

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My little boy is just about 9 months old. he has a habit of waking up at 3 or 4 in the morning. he always wants a big feed. before he goes to bed at night he has a big dinner. bath then milk then bed. when he starting teething a couple of weeks ago, he started sleeping through the night, but then his daytime naps become a fight - he just cries and cries. then suddenly he decided this early morning wake up was a good idea. i still feed him to sleep at night time. would love to get it all back into sequence. i'm exhausted. Good luck.. hope your bub sorts sleeping out again.

Melly - posted on 11/07/2010

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Is he teething? Liam Was like this for two weeks, and his gums were really swollen, and then the following two weeks the gums werent as swollen, but he was still waking up around the same time, now a couple of days ago his tooth came through, and he's not waking up anymore.

Eva-May - posted on 11/07/2010

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Thanks for all the suggestions...
Glendy...I have a husband but he works nights..so during the week he is at work..but lately friday and saturday nights he has been on baby duty!!!
I am trying ot let him cry it out...but like I mentioned above..I have another child...who I dont want to wake up and then have two of them up!!!
I dont like the idea of him sleeping in bed with me..he is a little wiggle worm...and I dont sleep well knowing he is there ...

Sheila - posted on 11/07/2010

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My 9 month daughter has also taken to waking in the night, and although she is calm when she's comforted, she cries as soon as I put her back into her cot. For this reason we've taken her to bed with us, but neither of us sleeps properly.... she doesnt have a dummy (comforter)
So we are goning to lay on her our bed to nod off, and put her to bed once she's in a deeper sleep as this seems to have worked in the past - will let you know if it works !

Danielle - posted on 11/07/2010

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I had the same issues with my daughter (she is almost 9 months) Sometimes you just gotta let the baby cry....20 minutes at a time....what I did was i would lay her in her crib at 8 and she would play around for 20 minutes then she would wine...then cry....after 20 minutes of crying i would go in and soothe her and start the whole process over until she would just pass out...after about 4 nights of this everything seemed to fall into place, but she still wakes up at 3 for a feeding...thats the next thing im gonna try working on. I hope it works for you. U do need to be as patient as possible with it because it is a rough few nights but just think of the sleep you will get once this stage passes!

Glendy - posted on 11/06/2010

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I need help too!!!! My daughter goes to sleep late everyday no matter how much we try to get her in bed early. She used to wake up a lot to eat but now she wakes up because she doesn't like to be alone. We put her in her crib, and she ends up in our bed just about everyday lol. My mom always said "babies will not die from crying, let them cry." I have done it for the passed week and it seems to be working. When she starts crying or babbling at night, I just wait and see what happens. She falls asleep again. And of course there are those times where they just don't sleep, it makes hard on us but you know, they are going through so many changes that I can understand how they may feel. I know my daughter loves to sleep in someone's arms but sometimes I just have to let her cry. The fact that she goes to sleep late everynight is not as bad anymore, but on days where I need to work the next morning, it sure is. I have my husband who helps me with her when she decides to play at 3a lol and this sure is helpful. Are you married? if so, mayb your husband can give you a break or take turns :)

Eva-May - posted on 11/06/2010

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Roxanne-my bf works night so cant really go to a friends house...

well he doesnt drink he just wants to cuddle...no soother (he has never wanted one)...I try and let him cry abit before going to get him..but I also have a 7 year old who sleeps right next door and needs his sleep...and I dont want him to get woke up....I do try and rest during the day, but I am not a day sleeper...once I am up and I am usually good for the day...but its starting to really catch up to me!!!

We have even started to lay him in his crib before he is alseep so that he falls alseep in it...but it doesnt change anything....

Robyn - posted on 11/05/2010

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Oh the joys of having a 9 month old baby! haha My daughter is still getting up periodically throughout the night. About 3 like you said. Does he take a soother? :) I just pop hers back in, and talk quietly, and use the words, sleep, and snooze everytime. Then she rubs her eyes, and realizes its still time to sleep and goes back to bed. Hope it works out for ya!! Us Mommies def need our sleep! haha

Arlene - posted on 11/05/2010

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My son woke to feed twice a night for the first year, no matter how much food he ate in a day he nursed twice a night. My doctor said it was purely for comfort and that I could stop anytime, but he slept in my bed and so I kept doing it for a year and then he just stopped. My daughter is 8 months old and wakes at least once a night to feed no matter if she's in her crib or my bed and no matter how much I feed her in the day. I am convinced it is something I must do because they have almost identical sleeping habits! I do feel rested most days though because she goes down fairly early and then so do I, so I am going to do it until either she stops or when she's one I'll try and wean her. Good luck!! Try and nap in the day when he does until you can get him to sleep through the night, it might give you a bit of extra energy to get through the night.

Christina - posted on 11/05/2010

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Is he waking up to eat or just waking up? We started giving my daughter a bowl of baby oatmeal mixed with fruit (baby food) and that helped a lot. If he's waking up to eat, make sure he's getting enough food during the day to keep him happy at night.
I would also encourage you to not jump up at the first sound you hear from him. My daughter sometimes wakes up and babbles to herself, or fusses, for a while then goes back to sleep.

Roxanne - posted on 11/05/2010

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Wow, I feel for you!!
I think babies will do what they want no matter what we try but there is the option of you going to a friends house for the a night or 2...

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