Second baby... okay to have a baby shower?

Randi - posted on 12/23/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )




Hello there...

I am due Feb 19th and am having another boy. Do you think it's appropriate to have another shower? I am thinking of maybe just having a party after the baby is born. That way, people can meet him and bring something, just if they want to!


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Cathy - posted on 01/18/2010




I had 2 girls, and with my second, I did not have a shower, but we had a welcoming party for her at our house. Of course, the purpose of the party was to welcome her to the world and let all of our friends and family meet her, but people brought gifts, too. It was a nice way to celebrate her life, because I felt like she got left out without having a shower. :( It wasn't about the gifts for us - just about celebrating her.

Eleanor - posted on 01/17/2010




I'm due with my second girl and like the idea of a "meet and greet". I had a shower prior to having my first and post-baby meet and greet as well. I prefer the meet and greet since it's more about people meeting the baby and seeing how I'm getting on rather than presents. Granted, people usually give, but at least there is another purpose to the get-together, one I don't need to feel guilty about.

Laurian - posted on 01/14/2010




Hi to all ladies who have replied to this thread. I missed out on a baby shower for my first as she came at 29wks, however, I have read about a beautiful thing that is all about the celebration of motherhood, and is less about the "hype" of a baby shower (games, presents etc). It is called a blessingway or mother blessing, and involves special wishes for the mother to be, sharing with women whom you respect and are close to, pampering for the mum... well there are lots of things that you can do. A few websites that I have found some general information on it are -
Good luck and remember that every new child is different and special celebrate this upcoming birth how ever you feel appropriate there are no right and wrong ways.

Lin - posted on 12/30/2009




My second son (we just found out he's a boy) is due a week after my first turns 2, so we're still using a lot of the things that we got for the first shower for my first son, and need an extra for the new little one (his high chair converted to a booster, his bouncy seat converted to a rocker, his crib mattress is being used in his toddler bed, etc.). In addition my cousin just had a shower for her 4th kid (she's had atleast one for every pregnancy, asking for all new everything - including major pieces of furniture her previous children have recently outgrown), so I don't feel as bad having a smaller shower for this new little one.

Every baby should have a little celebration! While I think it would be rude to ask for all new everything (unless you're in a situation where you've lost everything due to a fire or natural disaster or the like), asking for few new things, diapers, and well wishes isn't out of line.

Tracey - posted on 12/30/2009




i think it is brilliant that you want to have another baby shower any pregnancy is a blessing so go for it and enjoy it xx

April - posted on 12/30/2009




My sister wants to throw me a shower and I felt a bit uncomfortable about it being my second baby. But I agree every baby should be celebrated. I only gave her names of my closest friends and those who didn't come to the first and family. I told her a diaper party or even a frozen meal party(where everyone brings a meal to be frozen for after the baby comes) is appropriate. I didn't and won't register b/c I have all the big stuff I need from my first and if they want to give anything they can, if not i don't care. It will be nice to celebrate this baby like I did with my first.

Nikole - posted on 12/29/2009




I think it's perfectly fine to have another shower! If someone offers to throw you one, WHY NOT?! Maybe in 1950 it was only customary to throw one.. but this is 2000's! I'm due Feb. 1, 2010 and my sister in law is throwing me a baby shower. I have a 3 year old little boy, but this one is a girl. There is no "rule" to abide by these days for showers. It's just a great way to celebrate the baby and a small B-Day party for the little one before she's born!!!

Amy - posted on 12/28/2009




If you're concerned about seeming greedy or anything for asking for another shower because you already have a boy, you can always have a diaper shower. Every baby needs diapers and wipes, regardless of sex or amount of time between siblings. Also, if someone is asking to throw you a shower, I would let them. You didn't ask for it, and you're not petitioning to get gifts, it's just a way for other people to be able to celebrate with you. You could even have a diaper shower after the baby's born, and make it a party, like you said. :)

Sarah - posted on 12/28/2009




It is actually becoming more and more acceptable to have a shower for baby #2, (known as a sprinkle) even if it's the same sex. I know a lot fo people who have done it and the shower is usually smaller than the first one. I have a son and this one is a girl, but this shower will be a lot smaller and I am not registering for anything, guests can just bring what they choose if they want.

User - posted on 12/27/2009




I don't think it really matters anymore. I'm pregnant with my second and have been asked by a couple people to throw me a shower, and I said no. Now I see how many people have a shower with their second and see it really isn't that big of a deal anymore. If you feel weird about the gifts you could always just have a party and ask that they send money to a local children's charity in lieu of gifts. I think the main thing now a days is that every new baby should be celebrated whether or not they give you gifts.

Jenna - posted on 12/26/2009




I disagree, I think you should have another shower especially if you dont have any baby stuff. If you do then its up to you. I myself am having my third baby and i am having my third shower. I have nothing for the baby. I have a 4 year old girl and a 2 year old boy and this one is a boy and i gave all my boy stuff away. So i have nothing that is why i am having another shower plus they are fun and why should my third baby get the crap end of the stick and not celebrate this pregnancy. =)

Myra - posted on 12/24/2009




Etiquitte says it is not appropriate to have a shower for a baby that is the same sex as the one you had a shower for last if they are less than 5 years apart. I think just having a little "meet and greet" type of party and people not being obligated to bring something is a great idea, though!

I am having another girl; due Feb 8th. I'm having 2 under shower.

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