Motivation how / where do you get and hold on to it?

Sarah - posted on 08/09/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )




I'm 42 yrs. old and 60lbs. over weight. I have been through diet plans and groups I've done all kinds of exercise and all of it for a while. Then I stop. Why? I know what I should be doing and how to do it but I don't do it. I always find some excuse to do something else and not take care of myself. It's frustrating because I'm sure I'd be happier if I was helathier. Not to mention being a better mom and wife as well. Anything I do is harder due to my weight and lack of fitness. I'm embarrassed sometimes to be seen the way I look. Getting dressed is awful, shopping for clothes is depressing. I have trouble keeping up with my kids and my husband is a runner. So why is it I can motivate myself to be a better me? Any input would be appreciated. HELP!


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Kasey - posted on 12/09/2009




Ok I am a certified trainer and sports nutritionist and I too have to give myself the proper breaks from the gym and diet restrictions. This is what I the fall and winter I keep my cardio to a min if I do any at all other than when I am training clients. I don't diet per say...I eat healthy most of the time but dont restrict myself from things I want in moderation(trust me sometimes I go way Then in the spring I start to tighten up the noose to get the bikini body out;-) I take one thing at a time away and start to do more exercise. Its easier to stick to something if you arent too restrictive. Maybe you should just start with what you can be consistent with...You make time to brush your teeth and make your bed. Set aside 10-15 mins everyday and before you know it its part of your routine. I hope this helps if you need any other information or diet and exercise suggestions I am all ears;-) Best of luck to you!!!
~Big Hugz~

Kerensa - posted on 12/06/2009




I have a couple of questions for you. Are you bored? I mean do you find yourself snacking or eating something when you are bored or don't want to do something else? I have a real problem with this. I am a stay-at-home mom of two kids. I also homeschool so having limited interaction with adults makes me bored sometimes. Until a month ago, I didn't even find a reason to look good most days because my kids loved me no matter how I looked. Then last month I accepted an invitation to go to a benefit with only adults. Imagine my surprise when I had nothing but grubby clothes to wear. And I thought: Why don't I deserve to look good everyday? Why don't I deserve to look nice and wear nice clothes? Why don't I deserve to feel good and feel strong physically? If you were talking to a friend these are questions you may ask them. Why are your friends more important than yourself? I also decided that I wanted my kids to grow up with healthy habits and it was my responsibility to teach them and set an example. I exercise everyday because if I don't I am afraid of losing my ambition. I don't mean at a gym or on the treadmill or anything. But I play kickball or football with my kids, walk to the park with them or ride bikes. We have snowball fights or whatever the weather calls for. It takes care of some of the boredom eating as well. It has only been a month and I did pick a bad month to start but if I can make it through this month the rest will be a breeze! My suggestion to you is to examine your habits and when you are eating. Don't make radical changes right away. This is a lifestyle not a diet! If you can change just a few small things every month it can make a difference. Remember- YOU ARE WORTH IT! Best of luck!

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Jennifer - posted on 09/10/2009




I have about the same amount left to lose and I know exactly what you are feeling, because I'm in the same position. Earlier this year I managed to lose an amazing 14lbs in one month, I was very carefully counting every calorie, and jumping on my elliptical just about every day for 20-30 minutes plus some light work with weights. I felt good, and I had more energy throughout the day. Then it came to a halt, the loss slowed down to 1lb in two weeks, and the disappointment threw me off. I haven't found the motivation or "time" to get back on my elliptical in months and though I eat fairly healthy I find myself snacking a lot more and I haven't counted a calorie since either! I will let you know if I manage to get back on track, and how I manage to do it. Best of luck to you!! You are not alone in the battle of the bulge!!

STEPHANIE - posted on 08/25/2009




My son is about to be two in September and I still have that stubborn baby fat. If I'm not mistaken, it is that nice little care package around the stomach that most babies leave you. What worked for me is cutting back my calorie intake by 500-700 calories a day. This meant writing everything I ate down, even water. The first week of doing this you wouldn't believe how much I was eating. Cutting out food like whole milk, butter, sugar, juice and jams make a biggggg difference. I also did 3 days of cardio, like the treadmill or even walking. I also did shit ups. I not going to lie, it is hard work, but it is worth it. Also don't look at pounds, look at inches.

CRYSTAL - posted on 08/23/2009




HI.. Im am there too.. I will pray for you.. I have about-60 to to get off too.. I am doing my best to eat better, and not eat so much.. Its hard when you have little kids.. I know it is for me.. They love to snack on things, and you find your self doing the same.. I am going foe walks, and working out at home.. I can only do so much at a time , because I get too hot or the kids are fifgting.. So just wanted to let you know I here for you.. Good luck....

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Hi Sarah, I can sure idenify with excuses. they really cause alot of "dr. Jeckel and Mr.hide type ways of thinking, don't they? One minute it's all good then the next minute were beating ourselves up with a two by four! It was for me any way. : }

The thing that really motivated me to lose 40lbs was stepping on the scale and seeing my actual weight in numbers. That really put things into perspective for me. And actually that initself was my turning point. I think each person needs a "turning point" of there own. A truning point is the root of desire.

Do you struggle with fear of sucsess? Do you think because of your age it's pointless? I think that the way we feel about ourselves really has alot to do with our motavation. I would encourage you not to give up. Find a diet that works for you,write down your goal weigtht, and set your self free, because thats what its like. With the South Beach Diet, you lose about 2lbs a week and that is very motavional. And not only that it teaches you how to change your eating habbits all together so the weight won't come back on. Not that I'm trying to promote South Beach, but its what i know. Good luck to you Sarah, I look forward to sharing together the good bad and ugly of this struggle. And God knows it is. : )

Mel - posted on 08/14/2009




I'm with you on this Sarah. I need to lose about 20kgs. I get depressed when i'm shopping and have gone from being a reasonably confident person to having next to no confidence. You think that would be enough to motivate me. I think once i start seeing the kilos coming off that will motivate me to keep going but its getting started thats the hardest. The extra weight i'm having seems to be effecting everything from my social life to sex with my partner. I think to myself "why would he be happy with my body if i'm not". Although he loves the extra curves i have i'm just not comfortable. If anyone can give Sarah some advise it would be much appreciated.

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