How long until your adopted child called you Mom/Dad?

Jen - posted on 05/01/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )




I'm wondering how long did it take for your adopted child to start calling you mom or dad? Where it came out naturally, without the grimace or hesitation. ;)

I'm curious. My situation may be a little more odd then other adoptions.

I was adopted at 8; and always called my parents mom and dad. But I do remember being sat down and explained the rules etc. One of which was what to call my new parents. lol. My sister and I were the third adoption for this family; they had enough experience already to know what rules to give us on our first day. ;)

Plus the child we've adopted is 14, almost 15. he moved into our home 8 months ago.

He's also my bio-brother's son. A brother I have only seen a few times since I was adopted.

This is a boy going from calling me Auntie, to calling me Mom. It may never happen where he completely stops calling me Auntie, or by my first name.

I'm still curious though; how long it takes other families.


Traci - posted on 07/13/2011




I got my kids when they were almost five and 18mo.....the older one started calling me Mom the first week we had her....I think she craved the attention of a Mom who truely loved her in an environment that was positive.


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Erin - posted on 08/18/2014




We just adopted 2 - 5 yr old boys and both boys called us mom and dad the first day we went to meet them.. the foster mom did a wonderful job preparing them for their "forever family"

Carolatchison7 - posted on 04/26/2014




It took my boys about 3 years to call us Mom and Dad. This was a transition from Mimmie to Mommy and Popsy to Daddy. When the boys first came into our home they were having visits with bio mom and dad. I didn't want them to feel as if we were taking their place, however we were more than glorified baby-sitters. The adoption took place Dec 16 of 2013.

Denise - posted on 07/21/2013




My husband and I adopted a child when she was 8 years old. She will be 12 years old in one month. She calls us both by our first names. This child is my husband's ex-wife's child, he is not her biological father, but he did have 2 daughters with his ex-wife, then she had another daughter several years after they divorced. Looong story short, the child was taken out of the home, placed in foster care. One of my husband's daughters came to live with us(his other daughter was living on her own) 10 months later the girl's mother passed away. The foster care agency approached my husband and I to ask if we would take the 8-year old child because she is the sibling of my husband's daughters. He said yes, I said no. I really had to process this for several months. I did not get along with my husband's ex,and her child had absolutely no boundaries and I had already raised 4 sons so I was thinking I just was not up to it. After much consideration I agreed to take the child into my home. I would by lying if I said she was not a challenge to me because she was BIG TIME!!! But after 3 years she really started to settle down and become sweeter and more cooperative and today she is really becoming a lovely young lady. She recently told me that she is ready to call my husband "Dad", but she is not ready to call me "Mom". She also realizes that this would be a little awkward for everyone, especially me. I think because my husband is her sister's dad that this is why it would be easier for her to call him Dad. I asked her if she was worried about calling me mom because of what her sisters would think and she said no. She said she just really loves her Mom still....I didn't give her much feedback, just listened and hugged and said it will all work out, I really didn't know what to say so any advice would be really appreciated. Thank you!!

Carrie - posted on 07/08/2011




We had a 9 year old foster child who never called us mom & dad the entire time he was with us. However we left it up to him, as he was our first child and he was new to the system as well. Our next few children were much younger and almost imediately called us mom/dad, even though some of them knew we weren't. I think it was more of the fact that a parent provided needs, comfort, love, etc. And even at the young age of 2, they recognized that they could call two people mom.

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