Court

Olivia - posted on 02/21/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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I always hate when it's time for court. Don't get me wrong, Iknow that the foster kids need to go back to the birth parents. In this case its been almost 14 months and my foster son's mom is back in the hospital again because of her mental health issues! He has come such a long way since we got him! I guess I am just wondering what everyones thought are around the time their foster kids court dates?

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Get the SW on your side, even if you don't get along with her. Vent here, not to the SW. Go to every meeting, court, DSS, therapy, everything. Our daughter moved in with us in August 2006, but they did not TPR until February 2008. The adoption was approved November 2009, but all the paperwork was not completed until March of this year. Dealing with the system is frustrating, but it's the only system we have. So listen closely to any and all advise from your SW, and the child's therapist and GAL. We'll be praying for you.

Olivia - posted on 07/23/2009

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yes we would love to adpot him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i cant imagine my world without him and would be soooo heartbroken if he had to leave!!! we just found out that the court mandated rehab she is in she took off for a few days so who knows what will happen???? nothing has happened with the tpr yet, we go back to court in aug for a perm hearing so hopefully things will start rolling. where can i find out what r rights r????

Leah - posted on 07/22/2009

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Are you wanting to adopt you foster kids? If so, you have standing since you have had them so long. We just hired an attorney to fight for our three little foster girl's. If the birth mother is still having big problems, you should have a good chance at keeping your kids.

Olivia - posted on 06/20/2009

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They started the paperwork back in march i believe for TPR. They went to court in May accepted it and now go to court in july to set the trail date. so things are goin pretty fast for us! Thanks

Brenda - posted on 06/19/2009

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The TPR paper work takes several months for the SW to file (especially if it is a long case history) Once the court actually gets the paper work things start to move pretty quickly. Our SW filed last Oct. the preliminary hearing was about 2 weeks later, then the trial (which was 2 days long, and they had 17 witnesses against mom) was at the beginning of Dec. The judge didn't want to make any mistakes, so took 26 days to make a decision. When they got the decision (which came in writing, they didn't go back to hear it) was 46 pages long. Once the TPR was granted mom had 30 days to file an appeal, which she did. The Appellate Court upheld the TPR. The SW said that would be it. Supreme Court would not hear the case unless the SW or lawyers did something wrong with the whole process. Well the Supreme Court did agree to hear the case. The heard it this past Monday. So we are suppose to sit tight for a month and wait for their reply. Then the whole thing will be over. So hang in there, as long as the TPR is in the works things are moving along.

AND TINA- 46 months? WHAT??? Where are you? Do your social workers know about the law signed by President Clinton back in 97 to keep children from lingering in foster care for so long??? WTF??? As a 11+ year foster parent your story really pisses me off. I wish I could give you a hug!!

Olivia - posted on 06/03/2009

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Well court was last week and they petition for TPR and it got accepted. Now birth mom is in jail and a male who has been saying since aug that he is going to dna testing says he is stll gonna go hasnt. i hate this waiting game and no one can tell what the next step is or what is going to haapen with court! Birth mom had a pych eval done and it says that FS shoudlnt go back to birth mom cuz its not safe!!!! I just hope this guy who is 50 something on SSI doesnt go to dna! how long does it take for TPR and then how long for adoption? Its the 1st time my agency is doing this and it scares me cuz they have no clue and just are goin with what the court and county tell them and no one can give me an answer.

Margie - posted on 03/06/2009

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We started fostering in November, and I hate court already...not so much court itself, but what the results are. I can't believe what the courts and social services put these kids through. At the same time, I think there is too much of a lag between court dates. These kids need stability and some sense of where they'll spend their future. Our current kids have been in 11 months, and acr is next month. I can't wait...The goal needs to change from reunification at 12 months to termination, but I'm afraid that things will get continued since mom and bf just moved into a new and better place this week. I still don't think it's good, because they're planning to give the kids bedrooms and sleep in the living room. Plus, since before the last court date they've had a psych eval saying mom can't parent unsupervised, so why are they putting mom and kids through this? In addition, they're making our foster son (2 yo) go see a punitive father who was never before interested in him on a weekly basis w/o dna results, which won't be announced in court until June!!! It's a 2 hour round trip in addition to the 2 hour round trip he makes once a week to see mom. The man lives off ssi with a fiancee and her daughter who both live off ssi, and I truly believe they think the child will get ssi b/c he has a medical condition.

We are also in the process of trying to adopt two boys, who are transitioning into our home from their foster home....tpr hasn't happened yet, and it's been over 4 1/2 years of continuations!!!

I think we may just adopt out of the system after this.

Tina - posted on 02/26/2009

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Our FD has been "in the system" for 46 months now. Her mother's termination hearing was SUPPOSED to be today but it was continued. I agree...How long can they keep doing this to a child. Mom was in rehad in October. You would think that it was so recent taht the court would just say enough already. We want to adopt her and she wants us to adopt her. It just is not fair to these kids! Not to mention that a month ago a 3rd coousin whom she had never met came forward as a resource and now we could possibly lose her to him. She knows nothing about this but she will find out on Saturday. Very frustrating!

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It's aggravating! I too understand the reunification situation. However..., NOT all situations are best for the child to return. I have found some children go home and really should not at that time. I have wondered on these occasions why did DSS and the Court System even remove the children if they are just going to send them back. It takes people a long time to change habits or behaviors so how they think drug addicted or the like, can be cured after 6 months of classes! Just hang in there. Just remeber u dont control anything with DSS and the court so try not to sweat issues u cant control. Just be as positive for the chidl as u can. :)

Olivia - posted on 02/22/2009

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they have 12-15 months. Mom was doin ok not the best but she went down hill and started using again and i just found out that she is in the hospital. I am afraid that they will give her more time to see if she will change things around. Its not far to the child. he is so young and confussed to begin with!

Lacey - posted on 02/21/2009

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What are your state's mandates on time frame for mom to work her treatment plan. Fourteen months seems to be getting kind of long. In MO they have a year unless they are just really, really close to getting them back. I would talk to the team about your concerns on the timeframe. The child deserves some stability and he is is not getting it yet.

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