raising my granddaughter

Kathy - posted on 01/16/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )

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i have custody of my granddaughter and i have been taking care of her off and on for many years. mother and father do not want to grow up and take responsibility but now my son my granddaughters father is going to court to get custody and only to be spiteful. the mother is only allowed supervised visits until she completes classes but because the mother does not want to be with him anymore he is trying to get my granddaughter back. it upsets me because he doesn't bother with her and is nasty with her if he finds out she talks to her mother...control control!! she tells me that she does not want to go with him and i don't know her rights or if she even has any. my granddaughter is 15 and will turn 16 in may. i am just afraid to let him take her when he really doesn't want her. i live in nj and i don't have a lot of money to get a lawyer but just wanted to know if anyone would know what if anything i can do. thank you so much for your support

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Annette - posted on 08/24/2016

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Hi Kathy, I'm from Australia so I don;t know how the laws work in your state, but I'm sure there is a free legal service of some kind you can access. Contact your local family services or child protection department, they should be able to guide you in the right direction. I admire what you are doing. My mum died when I was 10. I spent much of the next 2 years with my Grandma because my Dad was really depressed and drank too much. She lived on a small farm so I was able to run wild there, which I totally loved (I was far more like a tomboy than a girly girl). She was so loving to me and made my life wonderful even though it could have been horrible after mum died. Just keep loving your Grand daughter. She obviously loves you!! I'd be very surprised if the courts didn't take her wishes into account in any custody hearing. Sadly, your sons attitude will likely be very obvious to the court as well. It's sad when parents try using their kids as pawns in their battles, but all too common. You are a shining light; keep being that. xxx

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