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Dorian - posted on 01/10/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Hello everyone! I am a grandmother of 5 with one on the way. I have 3 granddaughters ages 15, 14, and 8. 2 grandsons ages 17mos, and 15mos. It is the 15 year old that my husband and I are raising. She came to us just as our nest was emptying and we have taken the leap back into "Teenager Land". Who does this to themselves on purpose? Well we did because she is and has always been the joy of our lives. But of course with the joy comes all the angst: homework, her friends, another teenage driver, moodiness, etc,etc. In addtition to those typical woes, there is her relationship with her mother, and a host of other things. So, if you can relate to this, I would love to hear from you.

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Lucy - posted on 04/23/2013

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Hi Dorian, thank you for the welcome! I am a 61 year old grandma raising my 9 year old granddaughter. This has been the greatest blessing anyone could bestow on my. A little background; when I was 45, I asked my husband if he was interested in having a third child (we had already raised two). He looked at me with horror and pronounced, "YOU are too old to raise another child." You can call it God, or Karma, or the Universe, but whatever it is, It acts in mysterious ways. Our son and his girlfriend got pregnant, got married, he lost his job, they moved in for the duration of the pregnancy, which was a difficult one. They stayed. When my granddaughter was four, my DIL moved out and divorced my son amicably. She just was not prepared to be a mom full time all by herself. I became mom-pro-temp in her stead ever since. Happy to be a mom again. Makes me strong.

Joan - posted on 06/30/2010

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Hello, I to can relate. My daughter is going through bad times second divorce. She moved in with friends we don't approve of ( she is an adult, so does as she pleases) the problem is the dads don't approve either. So my oldest grandson lives with his dad on weekdays and us on weekends. He is a great kid, he lived with us from the time he was born until he was 5, and know he is back at 17. Yes I have a teenager agian.She has two other children who hate where they live. They visit us alot and stay with their dad alot too. My other grandson can stay with his dad but it is my granddaughter I worry about. My daughter had an affair when she was with her first husband (we have no clue who the father is) but my granddaught who is 10 she thinks her dad is same as my grandson. (Her dad) he loves her like his own and he would take her in a heart beat. But it is my daughter who will try and fight that I am sure. She is angry with us now becasue my oldest grandson wants nothing to do with her. So I know she won't let her come to us. Thier isn't anything I wouldn't do for them.

Pam - posted on 07/26/2009

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Hello to all, I am the grandmother/legal guardian of 3 beautiful girls. Their father is not in the picture and mother has drug, alcohol, and boyfriend problems. I have had them (without "mom") for about 2 years now. There are days I really feel frustrated and worry if I can really do this at 50. Then there are days where we have so much fun, I wouldn't miss it for the world. I just take one day at a time and ask God for patience and guidence. Thank you for the welcome.

Cheryl - posted on 03/02/2009

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Hi from Australia........James and I are fast becoming a real team......I have had him in my care since he was 2wks old.  He is now 3mths old. Both parents have mental health and drug issues. Despite that, James is a contented, happy, little man and we are best friends. Even more so now that he is sleeping through. ...Thankyou very much for the warm welcome to this very exclusive little group

Laura - posted on 02/01/2009

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Hello to all of us Grandparents, I guess there is only one good reason to start the adventure of raising a grandchild again...love! We are in the same boat as all of you. Our youngest daughter got pregnant 5 years ago with drugs in her system. We didn't want DSHS to take our only grandson away from us and put him in a foster house to go "through the system" so we stepped in and now are raising him until she can support the both of them. She is now clean and sober, for 3 years now, and I hope she will stay that way. We love Sonny and don't want him to end up like all of the children in foster care. I would love to have more of them but we aren't spring chickens ourselves. Sonny is 5 and in Kindergarten. Loving school is such a blessing and wants to learn everything he comes in contact with. Fortunately, he isn't showing any signs of drugs in his system. We are watching him closely though. If we have to keep him until 18 we will. We also love spoiling him and then letting his Mom watch him for a spell. So, I'm glad I will be able to relate to all of you.

Diane - posted on 01/29/2009

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Hello everyone!  Well I guess you could say we do this to ourselves out of love for our grandchildren and our children. About 10 months after my husband die our daughter broke with an abusive husband so that is how I became involved even more with raising my grandsons. Than my oldest boy announce he was becoming a father. That little baby was born on the anniversary of my husband death. My youngest son is a Marine. I have co-workers telling me to kick people out of my house and ask for babysitting money. Yet I was not brought up that way families help their families members. I am from the older generations as I turn 60 this year. Yes I still work outside of the home and probably will until I die. The economy being what it is I can't see it anyother way.



So welcome to all of us doing what we feel is right and with all of us here to support one another and give ideas about the problems we are sure to find.

User - posted on 01/21/2009

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Hi Dorian!  My only daughter moved in with her 2 children about 4 years ago. It was our only option at the time in order to get her out of a relationship.  It was supposed to be temporary, and we still tell ourselves that it is temporary.   ;-)  We are still together and now there are 4 children.  It has been of bit of a roller coaster, filled with laughter and tears.  I can not put into words how blessed I feel and how tired I am.   We have Stella who is 11, Joseph is 7, Audrey is 3 and Michael is 2 1/2 months.  My daughter actually invited me to join Circle of Moms.  I laughed and told her I needed a circle of Grandma Moms, and here you are.  Stella is showing signs of turning into a teenager and we are scared.  hee  At 50, I do ask myself if I have the energy to do this again.  But one day at a time we are making a stable home for these little punkins.  I have not met other Grandmas like me who don't have the luxury of spoiling the kids and sending them home.  I am so happy to meet you.

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