Denied visiting your Grandchildren? Talk about it here....

Debbie - posted on 10/06/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )

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For so many years being a Grandparent meant nothing. Our children would either divorce their spouses or they would hold the Grandkids out of (spite) hostage because of a fight they had with us.. Well, I was one of those parents that were denied visitation out of spite. My daughter decided to punish us because we would not accept her bizarre choices that did in fact cause tramatic damage to our 3 Granddaughters.
We reside in New York and yesterday was the end of our Court Case. We won Residential Custody of (1) Granddaughter and liberal visitation with the other (2) Granddaughters!
The world told us it couldnt be done but I knew with truth and love on our side we would prevail. and we did.
I thought that I would start this Group to let Grandparents know there is help out there and how our case has set some new rules!
Please, feel free to talk about it, ask questions and place comments. We hope to maybe get some Attorneys in our Group too.
Thanks & Good Luck!

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Angela - posted on 04/10/2013

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Grandparents can be more hurtful
Than they realize
Think about what you're doing and why
It's about the kids and their needs
Not the grandparents and their needs
Mom&dads have the power to make decisions and it seems you breed of people can't stand the lack of control
Time for some inner soul searching
All your kids grown up and gone?
What are you left with?
Nothing but to meddle....
Ugh

Joanne - posted on 06/30/2014

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Sounds like sour grapes Angela, you need to do some inner soul searching and figure out why you have a problem with grandparents. Moms and dads should make the decisions as far as their own children are concerned, unless the mom and/or dad are idiots and have no common sense when it comes to child rearing. No one wants to raise your children for you so don't force them to by making poor choices.

PATRICIA - posted on 05/09/2013

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Debbie gives me great hope. I am a grandmother, and have been denied the knowledge of where my grandchildren live, and denied any visits with them for nearly a six month period, even after helping both my son, his wife and my grandchildren countless times over the years, by providing food, shelter, emotional support and the payment of their many bills. Since the birth of my grandchildren, my daughter-in-law seems to be uncomfortable with my having anything to do with them. It is certainly okay for her own parents to have unlimited access, but my access is denied. I am a grandparent, too, Karen. My grandchildren deserve to know and love all of their grandparents. This is my heartfelt plea, just days before Mother's Day, for children to recognize that their children have a heritage, a heritage that includes both sides of their family, and a heritage that they will always seek it out, regardless of what you may do to stop it. It will always be important to them to know, love and be loved by their grandparents. When you push your own hurtful agendas, you are hurting your own children. Please reconsider.

Sandy - posted on 08/11/2012

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Good for you! Congratulations! I know your post was from quite some time ago but I found it while I was looking for some info on Grandparents rights and I was really happy for you. There are many of us grandparents who are in heartbreaking situations because what started out to be a wonderful and happy event in our families soon turned out to be a sad situation for us when for whatever reason, our beautiful grandchildren started having less visits with us. Whether the situation comes about because of your child separating from the grandchild's other parent or maybe your child is estranged from you and is the reason you don't have access anymore..it's all the same. Heartbreak from the grandparents point of view because the child we fell in love with has been ripped from our hearts. It's so very sad and I'm really happy to know that here in Canada grandparents do have rights when it comes to seeing their grandchildren. I'm not sure what the laws are and it probably depends on the province, but it's good to know that grandparents have had success in getting some access to their grandchildren. I'd love to hear other grandparents stories. My circumstance is my son and the mother of my grandchild have separated and now hate each other of course (immature idiots who don't know just how much this is hurting their daughter) and so of course the visits between my wee granddaughter and the rest of our family are getting fewer and farther between. I know this happens alot when the custodial parent gets into a new relationship and wants that person to be the other parent then. Sad situation for all. I'm sure there are more of you grandparents out there who are in similar situations. Love to hear from you...maybe we can encourage each other...

Angela - posted on 12/14/2015

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Ok Katy ship
I don't have issues
I have an opinion
And for your information my children have a wonderful relationship with all their grandparents
- I think you need to grow up, stop name calling and judging and acting like a two year old... What kind of a role model would you be for any child? Wait
Maybe that's why no one will let you see your grandchildren... Try being an adult first
Oh and I know karma... She has blessed me with amazing children, and an amazing husband, a beautiful home, good and secure jobs, and a large supportive family...
I hope she visits you soon! Looks like you need to get to know her more than I do!

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Angela - posted on 12/14/2015

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And I believe the saying actually goes like this ;

Karma is only a bitch if you are. :)

Katy - posted on 10/21/2015

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Why is she even on this blog? Apparently SHE HAS ISSUES! It's for grandparents hurting and just trying to reach out for others in the same situation to help us heal.

Katy - posted on 10/21/2015

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You Angela sound like an evil witch that is probably using your own children to hurt someone. Grow up and stop being ignorant . You know anything about Karma. Well let me tell you she is a bitch!

Charlene - posted on 11/26/2014

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Angela,you must not be a grandma yet, or you would know the true love and joy of a child, your child's child.... we don't want to be their parent ..we just want top be grandma and grandpa.....

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