hi, I lost my baby ruptured ectopic 8 weeks 01/03/10

Rachael - posted on 03/10/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )





I have just suffered a ectopic pregnancy, I foudn out i was pregnant at 6 weeks. Had my due date calculated as 08/10/10 i was shocked but happy to be expecting number 4. I started bleeding at 6+7 and was diagnosed as possible having a misscarrage and was sen t home to wait it out,

Scan was arranged for when i would have been 7weeks but the songrapher was unabe to detect anything on uss so i was sent home to come bk for repeat scan in a week as they said if i had got my dates wrong the baby owuld be too small to se on scan. so week later when i would have been 8 weeks i returned but still nothing could be found. So i was sent for an internal scan. still nothing. so she did a beta hcg test on me. the results came bcack at 3604. she was worried as at that levels something should have been on scan.

I turned up at the early pregnancy unit on monday morning for repeat beta hcg's, I had been in severe pain all night I was shaking, cryng unable to walk. she took one look at me and called a ambulance to take me to a bigger hospital, the ambulance drivers rushed me the 35miles on blue lights and administered morphine despite my shouts of no my baby, (they had been told by the midwife she was 99% i was rupturing from an ectopic and she had told them to give me morphine). I arrived at a+e and was taken to gyne to await the repeat beta hcg results, a few mins later the repeat beta hcg was 4107 and she said i definatly had an ectopic and was to await surgery. While i was waiting my turn, My blood pressure started dropping, i was pale shaking and nearly passing out. i twice refused to sign the operation consent form i thought i was illing my baby, the consultant said that if i didnt sign the form i would die as i was bleeding internally and thats why i felt so ill. It was then i was taken down to surgery where I lost my right fallopian tube, and my baby, I was nearly 9 weeks pregnant, as i had ruptured there was extensive damage and blood loss. I had to have some other things fixed and removed.

On wednesday i was disharged, all ive done since is cry.. i cant stop crying i dont know why, I am in lots of pysical pain, because i was in surgeryfor nearly 4 hours i have a chest infection from the ventilator (i am asthmatic) and i cant stop coughing which is causing me more pain.

Anyway thank you for reading this,. I feel so alone.



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Sonya - posted on 02/04/2012




I have been going thro a very similar situation. I'm so sorry for your loss hun, things will get better. You are not the only one. Thank you for sharring your story.

Gwendolyn - posted on 05/21/2010




Hi Rachael,

Thanks for sharing. I want to start by saying, I am sorry for your loss. Please know that you are not alone in this. The experience is one that is totally unforgettable, but it does get easier over time. The emotional hurt you may be feeling is normal and it too will ease up a bit as time passes also. Continue to be encouraged and post as often as you feel the need for comfort. We are a community that knows what you are going through and are here for you.

Many blessings,


Mary - posted on 03/15/2010




I know exactly how you are feeling as i just lost my baby at 6 weeks due to an EP. I am devastated and lost with a hole in my heart for a little one I need to say goodbye to but with nothing to hold - no baby, no photo, nothing. I am lost.
- Mary

Cathy - posted on 03/10/2010




hi, just thought i would let u no u are not alone, i had ectopic pregnancy in july last year, at first they couldnt see anything in my womb so i had to go back for hcg tests every 2 days, then a week later they saw on the internal scan that the pregnancy was in my right tube, they told me i would have to have a methotraxate injection to brake up the pregnancy in my tube, i was really upset when i found out, but few days later after more hcg tests they said my hcg results were still going up so i had to had to have emergency surgery to remove my right tube, i was really devestated, i had to stay in hospital for 5 days afterwards and leave my 2 kids at home with there dad, that was also hard for me to be away from them, that was 8 months ago, i started trying again in september as i had to wait 3 months after the effects of the needle, so after 5 months of trying i finally got pregnant again i found out about 2 weeks ago, but sadly i started bleeding on saturday, i went hospital and i had a miscarriage, i still cant believe it losing 2 babys within 8 months, and it is also my due date today of the first baby i lost, so not feeling to good today, it does get bit easyer with time, u just need to deal with it in your own way, if u need to talk just send me message back

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