10-year-old gives birth in Spain

Jodi - posted on 11/02/2010 ( 43 moms have responded )

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A 10-year-old girl has given birth in southern Spain and authorities are evaluating whether to let her and her family retain custody of the baby, an official said on Tuesday.

The baby was born last week in the city of Jerez de la Frontera, said Micaela Navarro, the Andalusia region's social affairs minister.

Navarro told reporters the father of the baby is also a minor, and both the mother and the baby were in good health. Her department declined to give further details, such as the sex of baby.

Spanish newspapers said the mother is of Romanian origin. The daily Diario de Jerez quoted medical staffers who treated the girl as saying they were told by her mother that giving birth at such a young age is common in their country.

Medical experts warn that because young girls are still growing themselves, they are at higher risk during pregnancy. Studies have shown that teenage girls are more likely to give birth to premature babies and their infants have a higher chance of dying by age one.

http://au.news.yahoo.com/world/a/-/world...

Do you think the authorities should allow the girl and her family to retain custody of the baby?

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Lucy - posted on 11/04/2010

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I would usually say that a girl, however young, should be allowed to keep her baby in the family home and raise it with the help of her parents and extended family.

BUT, because the mother of the ten year old girl in this case is not only accepting of the pregnancy but thinks it is totally okay for a 10 year old child to be having sex (with a much older boy) and going through child birth, I do not think that the family home is a healthy place for the baby to be raised. To knowingly condone or encourage your 10 year old to be sexually active and raise her accordingly is at best neglectful and at worse child abuse, IMO. Her job as a mother is to safe guard her daughter and allow her to develop physically and emotionally to adulthood, without the pressure of becoming a parent when she has barely hit adolescence.

The most sensible and fair solution to the baby and mother would for them both to be placed, together, in a foster home with responsible parents who will give proper support and parenting to both. The mother of this 10 year old has proved herself to be seriously lacking as a parent.

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Kate CP - posted on 11/07/2010

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Yep. I feel sorry for the poor girl. :( Well...now she's an old lady. ;)

Jodi - posted on 11/07/2010

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OMG kate, that's just SAD. I nearly threw up looking at that photo of the pregnant 5 year old. Geez......I feel ill.

Stifler's - posted on 11/07/2010

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I think 5 and 9 year olds pregnant spells sexual abuse, but that's just my opinion.

Leah - posted on 11/07/2010

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WTF?? This is why I'm pro-choice!! Can't believe giving birth SOOOO young is common! How could her parents allow this to happen? Wtf is a 9 YEAR OLD doing having sex??

ARGG! No they should not be able to retain custody of the child. If the 10 year old's parents allow their little girl to have sex and give birth before she hits her teenage years, they are irresponsible and should be charged with child abuse imo. God that angers me!

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Yeah Toni I agree. I hadn't actually read the sotry just on what I had heard. So yes I think the 10 year old and the baby should be put into fostering to improve their lives.

Tah - posted on 11/05/2010

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So i woke up this morning to the daily buzzand i thought i saw them posting that a child as young as 5 has had a baby before and a child of 9..In america..I was hoping it was the fever or cold meds i have been on, but ala....no such peace would be mine, because they said it...again...disturbing to say the least...

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Jennifer, I agree that if the 10 year old wants to keep her baby she should be allowed to after all it is not a persons age that makes them a good mom or not. However, I do feel that both children should be placed in a foster home together because the more I read about this situation the more it sounds so wrong.

Tah - posted on 11/04/2010

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I don't think having a baby at 10 should acceptable anywhere, i look at my now 9 year old and i could not imagine her having sex and being pregnant, who is going to change, pay for and care for this baby while she play hopscotch and jump rope....the parents who allowed this to happen.....i am just upset by the whole thing...

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The authorities should let the girl and her family retain custody of the baby if they have the capacity to take care of it. It's sad that a child is having a child but it doesn't mean the baby can't still have a good home with her.

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I don't think that makes it right but to be honest two or 3 years difference is nothing at all! And statistics show that girls are starting their periods earlier and earlier as time goes on. What I mean on the whole is that if a 12 year old is allowed to keep her child then a 10 year old should - either way it's most likely going to be the 10 year olds parents looking after the child. They can't have one rule for 10 year olds and one for 12 year olds. It's either take babies off every girl under 16 or don't IMO.

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Jennifer, it does show that there are a number of pregnancies under 14 but I would guess many of them are 13 or 12 year olds, very few girls are able to conceive at the age of 10, or 11, although the number is increasing. Just because there are more children who become pregnant than many realise, it doesn't make this story any more acceptable, this is a child of 10.

385 girls compared with more than 40 boys under 14 have had babies in the last decade in Britain, I find that quite worrying because the girls are obviously having sex with older men/ boys to fall pregnant.

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Here's an article I found on pregnancies in the UK. There are a lot of young children who become pregnant but they simply don't make the news:

http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_an...

I don't think the baby should be removed from the family. Here in the UK the age of consent is 16 years of age but those under that age who have children don't have their children taken from them, they should all be given a chance to raise their child.

Heather - posted on 11/03/2010

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It's a crime to ALLOW your 9yr old(I'm sure she wasn't 10 when she bacame pregnant) to have sex with anyone, not to mention force marraige on them. What the hell does a 10 year old know about sex and raising babies? I know 20 year olds that don't know a thing about it!lol There is something seriously wrong with the girl's parents if they think this is a great thing and I don't think they should be allowed to keep the baby. If they were still in Romania where gypsies are allowed to live freely, then there wouldn't be much to do about it, but they moved to a country where these practices are actively illegal and they should be prosecuted for child endangerment and abuse. IMO

April - posted on 11/03/2010

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as long as the girl and her mother can provide for the baby, i don't see a problem. the only problem i can forsee is that the girl could have been forced into sex by her parents. if this "happy" grandmother played a role in becoming a grandparent, then i could see taking the baby away. thus, if no crime was committed by the girl's parents...she should keep her baby.

Rosie - posted on 11/03/2010

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well, yeah, they shouldn't even be thinking about taking that baby. why would they? just cause she's young? how about let her have a chance before they take her child. how ridiculous.

not that i'm condoning any of this, but come on. it's her kid like it or not.

Sharon - posted on 11/03/2010

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What sends up screaming red flags to me is that the grandmother is "happy" her daughter had a baby. That they moved from their native country where this illegal to a country that has to research the laws of their native country. They moved away from the father - um, if this is so fucking natural - why did they ditch the "father"? Something else is going on.

Kate CP - posted on 11/03/2010

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I doubt the sex was consensual between them anyway. When *I* was 10 I could have gotten pregnant (I had started my period) but the idea of sex freaked me out. I can't imagine how terrifying it would have been to have had sex at such a young age AND how much it would have hurt. :(

Sharon - posted on 11/03/2010

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It may be their "culture" but it is NOT legal where they are.

I'm sure there isn't a law dealing with sex between two such young kids, but NEGLECT on the part of both parents.

Evidently they moved somewhere for a better life right? Why drag your old "culture" with you from a country that wasn't doing its best for you? You're only dragging the negative with you.

NO, the baby should not stay with the family.

No, the 10 yr old should NOT stay with the family. Its as if they pimped her out.

Mary - posted on 11/03/2010

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I agree, the entire practice is abhorrent, but I'm fairly certain these people are Romanian Gypsies, and while 10 is young for even them, arranged childhood 'marriages' are not uncommon practice within their culture. There was a big bruhaha not too long ago over the the very publicized marriage between the Romanian king of the gypsie's 12 y/o daughter and a 15 y/o boy.

Again, I am NOT saying this is acceptable to me, but I do think that the girl's mother was being truthful about commonality of (very) young girls becoming mothers within her culture. This is not true of the entire country of Romania...just the Romanian Gypsies. (16 is the legal age of marriage there, but it is known that the gypsies follow their own practices).

Lucy - posted on 11/03/2010

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This may sound harsh, but I think that if the parents of this girl don't see that her having a baby at 10 is not a great idea, they probably should not be allowed to bring the baby up.

I don't care what culture you're from, parents allowing the situation to arise where a 10 year old child is put through the medical and emotional risks of having a baby are not doing a responsible job of parenting. Another baby born of this baby in 10 years would be almost inevitable, I fear.

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This just makes me sad. The 10 year old is lucky her baby is healthy and that she survived the pregnancy. A 10 year old's body isn't built for having babies yet. That being said, I don't care if it's cultural or not, it's just wrong on so many levels. I don't know if the girl's family should keep the baby. I'll have to think on that for a bit. Maybe the boy's family could also take the baby? And what the hell is a 15 year old doing having sex with a 10 year old??? Does anyone else find THAT creepy too???

Krista - posted on 11/03/2010

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For me, a red flag went off when they quoted the mother as saying that this is common in their country -- did the mother do nothing to even TRY to keep her 10-year-old daughter from having sex, or did she just shrug it off? It worries me, because if neither this girl nor the mother think that there is anything wrong with a 10-year old getting pregnant, then what are the odds of this new baby being sexually responsible when he/she reaches that age? I can just see this cycle continuing and continuing, and it makes me sad.

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I'm really not sure if the family should be allowed to keep custody of the baby but I do know that the mother should have a say in what happens, I could not imagine giving up my son and I'm sure the mother has bonded with her baby like we do ours her age does not change that. It would be cruel to remove the baby from her if she wanted to keep it, but she does need a very comprehensive support system if she is to raise the baby, otherwise she could just be part of the babies life in a sister role almost.

Mary - posted on 11/03/2010

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I could be wrong, but a little flag went off when I read that the girl and her family were "from Romania". I have a feeling that it was a PC way of dancing around what they actually are...Gypsies.

If this is the case, than yes, they do have a very different mindset about childbirth. I have encountered many Gypsies over the years in L&D. Their culture is...different. I do not claim to have an extensive knowledge of their culture, but I have observed that it is common for those in my area to have babies in their teens. However, 10 is definitely much younger than their "norm" around here...they are typically between 15 and 18 when having their first.

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I think its in the best interest to not allow the baby to be raised by the ten year olds parents.Sad story.

Louise - posted on 11/03/2010

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I really don't think a 10 year old is old enough to understand the needs of a baby. I am not sure if keeping the baby in the house is a good idea. I think personally both the children should be removed if the parents think that this is ok. What future will that 10 year old have with parents like that. She needs more help than the baby I think. I think she needs to be evaluated and ask her if she wants the baby in her life before anything is done and then I would recommend that she was found a foster place where she could learn to be a young girl again and gain some morals from people who have some!

Jodi - posted on 11/02/2010

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If the parents of a 10 year old can allow this to happen to their 10 year old, there is a case of neglect right there, so why should they also be considered to be appriopriate guardians of the baby? Will their parenting result in a similar outcome?

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This is a sad story. I'm glad the baby and the mom are in good health but still...

I don't think authorities should be allowed to take the baby away. The parents of the mother could raise the child.

Stifler's - posted on 11/02/2010

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That's really sad. Giving birth at 10 is common in Romania? Seriously?

Becky - posted on 11/02/2010

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It is very sad. She's far too young to be a mother. But, child marriages are very common in other cultures. I've actually been to one. It turned my stomach. Anyways, if this is their culture and the girl was not sexually exploited, then I do think the family should be allowed to keep the baby, as long as they are competent to raise a child.

Jodi - posted on 11/02/2010

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I guess I don't know the particular laws in Spain...but in America, they can't take away your baby simply because you're a minor...not that I know of anyway. I think as long as the 10 year olds parents are willing to step up and basically raise the child (can a 10 year old really be mentally and emotionally responsible enough, much less ready, to raise a child? I don't think so personally) then there should be no legal grounds to remove the child from custody.

Jennifer - posted on 11/02/2010

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its a sad story, but i do think they should be allowed to keep the baby. i couldn't imagine becoming a mother at 10, but thats because it is not a part of our culture. this little girl was likely more prepared for it than say, an american girl...i'm not saying its right, just that its different

Katherine - posted on 11/02/2010

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If they have the means to take care of the baby then yes. I can't imagine being a mom at 10. If it's a cultural thing then the young girl shouldn't be shocked. Neither should the authorities. They need to be culturally relative. She is from Romania, not Spain. She is practicing her own culture :/

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