7 year old gets boob job...compliments of mom

**Jackie** - posted on 08/03/2012 ( 28 moms have responded )

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http://www.parenting.com/blogs/show-and-...

In a nutshell, this mother, known as the "Human Barbie" has spent over $800,000 on plastic surgery. Her daughter, who just turned 7, said she wanted big boobs like mommy and so her mother gave her a gift card basically to go get her boobs done on her 17th birthday.

The mother has also said that if her daughter doesn't want or need a boob job at that time, she can get something else.

So basically, not only is she telling her daughter that altering yourself in such a dangerous way is acceptable but, to me, she is also saying that her daughter will definitely need something enhanced, plucked, tucked etc


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Kristi - posted on 08/09/2012

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Ok, quickly, I'm on my cell so my access is very limited. Proof reading is quite difficult since I can only see a tiny bit at a time. So, please forgive my errors.



Now, Jenni, I have to ask...are you just trying to rile things up or are you seriously endorsing this lunacy? I'm sorry, I just can't wrap my tiny, little brain around a person, worse yet, a woman, could possibly view this as ok and suggest that a bra (regardless of type, size, etc) is the same as a surgical procedure. I mean really?



Let's start 2nd grade off right! Show and Tell--"Look what I got for my birthday this summer! A gift card for big, fake boobies! I also got a self-complex! Unfortunately, no self esteem, bummer."



Notice the sarcasm? This Human Barbie, aka Most Disgusting Bitch of a Mother, should have her kid(s) taken away. If she is already telling her daughter she isn't going to be pretty enough or sexy enough or "liked" as much if she doesn't have big, fake breasts, what is she going to do this poor child once she hits puberty? Acne, body odor, underarm hair, OMG...we need to get to the nearest spa, chemical peel, body waxing (not a single hair left standing), and remove her sweat glands STAT!



I know this is not a proper or effective way to debate. However, I am so appalled by this woman that sarcasm is all I've got. God, help this little girl. Protect her from the evils of her mother. Amen.



I was going to answer your call for padded, push-up bras vs. breast implants, Jenni, but I just believe it will fall on deaf ears. If you honestly think those two are one in the same, I feel sorry for you.



For the record, I think I would love a lift here and a tuck there, but I am 41 and I already know who I am (relatively speaking). Despite my sarcasm, I am a mature adult. This is not a cute accessory, it is permanent and she is/still will be a child who, hopefully, will be trying to find her own, separate identity, apart from her twisted mother. With God's grace, she won't end up a shallow, big boobed stripper with no self worth. (yes, I know the "stripper" reference was not necessary, just a little stereo-typing)



I will climb off my high horse and return to my usual spot of the "average Joe-sie." Good day.

Stifler's - posted on 08/07/2012

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The message is also different. A bra is supporting your breasts, everyone wears bras that make their boobs look more shapely anyway. The message giving a gift card for surgery is sending is that she WILL need it regardless of what her breasts look like in 10 years.

Amanda - posted on 08/07/2012

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Jenny there's a big difference between enhancing what you already have, brushing your hair, choosing the right outfit, or applying makeup when you go out to getting your 7 yr old daughter and IOU boob job.

Making the best of what you already have is totally different from going under the knife and making alterations that, alot of time, aren't strictly necessary.

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Adena - posted on 09/10/2012

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Don't boobs keep growing into a girl's twenty-somethings? What if they develop more after the surgery..?

Amanda - posted on 08/08/2012

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To answer Jenny's last question no I personally wouldn't get a boob job, as much as I joke about having bigger boobs, and I still wouldn't be allowing my teenage daughter to get one either.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/08/2012

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Well, I wish she would offer to pay for MY boob job. A teenager (when she can use the gft card that is) doesn't need it, but I sure as hell do.

Stifler's - posted on 08/07/2012

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I'm not against breast implants though. I'm against giving a 7 year old an IOU when who knows if in 10 years she will need/want her breasts done if she never got it. Surgery is surgery, people have caesars and hysterectomies all the time and have been forever and regardless of medical advances there is still a risk of infection, not that that is relevant.

Jenny - posted on 08/07/2012

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"Breast implant operations have surged 40 percent in the past decade, with nearly 300,000 women last year opting to increase their breast size."
http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2011/03/21...

With a 40% increase in breast implants over the past decade, I'm just curious what the numbers will be like in another 10 years. Is it possible that you (general you) would change your mind about breast implants over a decade?

""It's simply no longer something that people view as involving major complications – almost as though the public feel that anyone can do a augmentation. So the complexity of the procedure has been downgraded in the public eye." Breast surgery is now seen as an entirely routine procedure, he said, like having tonsils out."

If it didn't seem as risky and within your budget, would you (general you) change your mind and get yourself or your daughter implants?

Jenny - posted on 08/07/2012

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I got heated because of this "So that wasn't generalized, it was personal. Good story, sweetheart".

I can see how it looked that way, but don't "Good story, sweetheart" me, if I tell you otherwise. That's patronising and it will ruffle up feathers.

Stifler's - posted on 08/07/2012

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I for one think push up bras and breast implants are different! One is a surgery, risk of infection, lifelong commitment (breast implants have to be redone every 10 years), could be a mistake at 17 years old when your mum is in your face with all her plastic surgery and has given you a gift card from age 7. You can easily remove or throw out a push up bra and decide you don't want to wear them anymore.

**Jackie** - posted on 08/07/2012

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I'm going to venture to say that anyone who is reading this post would have assumed the same thing. I brought up padded bras, you asked a question about padded bras an hour later. lol oooook.

You really are heated...about something so trivial. You've officially confused me because you just devoted three whole paragraphs to absolutely nothing.

Jenny - posted on 08/07/2012

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Just because you were the one that mentioned it does not mean that you are the only one that wears a padded bra. My goodness! I seriously had this conversation with myself in my head many times over before I even saw this OP. When I saw this topic come up I thought, perfect, this is just one of the things I've been mulling over for a long time. And while mulling over it with myself, I would always use the term padded bra or push up bra interchangebly.

If you choose to believe that I totally directed that post at you, I can't stop you doing that. Just please consider the fact that I'm the other person and I'm telling you point blank that is not the case, no matter what you choose to believe. Who are you going to believe, me, who actually did the thinking and typing, or the story you made up in your head?

Sorry, I'm heated about this because this happens all the time. People always think its personal, when really it is not. If it were directed at you, I would have quoted you, I have no problem in doing that, as I usually do in my other posts. My post was not directed at you, but the idea that some women see padded bra's (my version of padded bras, not the one you stated) as okay but not boob jobs. But I'm curious, are you going to continue to hold onto your own story? Such a typical human ego condition.

**Jackie** - posted on 08/07/2012

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I was the only one that mentioned a padded bra and then you specifically asked the difference between a boob job and a padded bra. So that wasn't generalized, it was personal. Good story, sweetheart

Jenny - posted on 08/07/2012

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My post was general, not directed entirely to you and your 2 year old daughter, so chill.



A padded bra can be more than just a plain bra with extra lining. There are padded bra's with "inserts" that are still not classified as a pushup bra, hence I placed them in the same boat. But what you described to mean by a padded bra, I don't see that being about "enhancing" what she's naturally got, as much as it is for the practical purpose of supporting the breasts. This is different to a push up bra, and I guess I'm more wanting to hear from mums who think that push up bras are okay, but surgery is a no-no. That's where I don't think its as clear cut as some would like to think about the message either is sending.

**Jackie** - posted on 08/07/2012

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No it's not the same. In case you haven't read my post, I will mention a few key parts again. I said that I couldn't guarantee what I would do considering my daughter is 2 years old. I also said that only AFTER I have explained to her that she is perfect and that everyone is different will she be allowed to get one. Do you even know what a padded bra is? It's not a push up bra, nor is it anything sexy. I wear one and I am a DD, my boobs are not pushed up so if she has small ones they sure as hell won't be pushed up. It just gives shape. Also, no being put under anesthesia and have a knife cut you up and fill you with silicon (which is less expensive than saline and definitely dangerous because they have been known to rupture) is not the same as a bra, that she would already be wearing, with some padding, they do not push your boobs up.

The difference in messages being sent is that I am not willing to give my consent for my daughter to have a life threatening cosmetic surgery because some magazine told her that her boobs aren't the right size. A padded bra can be taken off, thrown away. cut up, or never purchased in the first place.

Jenny - posted on 08/07/2012

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What is the difference in the messsage being sent between letting your daughter get a boob job or letting her wear padded bras?

Aren't both telling her that she's not good enough just the way she is? Aren't both about making her boobs bigger and overall looking more sexy?

What's the difference between wearing a pushup bra 24/7 and getting a boob job? Isn't it just the modern way to deal with having small boobs? Do you think that it might become the norm within about 10 years as surgeons become more experienced and the surgery more affordable?

**Jackie** - posted on 08/07/2012

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I will admit, if my daughter ever has a self esteem issue with her chest (just as an example) and she is feeling really down about herself. I will drill into her head until I'm blue about how beautiful she is and how I think she's perfect. After that, if she wants a padded bra I will buy it for her. If some padding in a bra makes her more confident then yes I will help her out. Then again, she's only 2. I guess I can't actually say that's what I would do.

Jenny - posted on 08/07/2012

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When I read the heading I thought it was about a 7 year old litterally getting a boob job. Thank god that's not the case!!

Getting the gift card for when she is 17? Meh, what more do you expect of a woman who's alreayd spent $800,000 on plastic surgery for herself. Just being that way would tell her daughter that altering yourself is acceptable.

I don't know what to think. I would love to say, no way hozay, lets teach our daughters that they are beautiful in everyway and do not need any enhancement. But who are we kidding? We all do a little enhancement, even if it is just as simple as brushing their hair to look nice and neat for when we go out. Or putting on a new outfit. Or chosing a colour of dress that suits her just so. Or putting a pretty ribbon in her hair.

How much we groom ourselves will determine how much we judge someone else for "enhancing" their natural beauty.

In my opinion there isn't a fine line here, its pretty darn thick. If you get what I mean. Some wouldn't let their 17 year olds wear make up, and some let them wear a little and some let them wear a lot. There's a wide variety of what is acceptable.
As for boobs, well, would you buy your 17 year old daughter a wonder bra? If you've got the money and have had multiple plastic surgeries it wouldn't be such a huge thing to get your daughter a boob job.

**Jackie** - posted on 08/06/2012

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Plastic surgery is just so ...permanent. I mean I know you can get implants and then take them out but look what happened to Michael Jackson's nose. He just kept trying to fix it and you can't. Everyone who knows me knows I like to look nice. I wear extensions and I occasionally get a fake tan when I have somewhere to go but plastic surgery? No way, I'd rather go to the gym, diet and buy a good bra lol

Amanda - posted on 08/06/2012

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That's horrible. As a mother she should be telling her daughter that she is beautiful and perfect the way she is.
This young girl will end up with self esteem issues.

I'm so glad I bought up to have respect and confidence in myself and accept my body the way it is.
I may not be perfect but I'm me and I hope I my daughter (and my son) grows up with the same attitude.

Rosie - posted on 08/06/2012

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i'm not against plastic surgery when you've matured, and really thought about what was going on...but to influence her daughter at such a young age really bothers me. she's just setting her up to feel like she needs one. i'm glad my mother thinks i'm beautiful just the way i am.

Stifler's - posted on 08/06/2012

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I'm not against them if the person makes the decision for themselves and isn't so heavily influenced from such a young age by their parent!!

MeMe - posted on 08/06/2012

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I am appalled. Natural beauty should be encouraged. We are who we are for a reason. I do agree, that if there is a medical reason, than yes, it should be offered. To just do it because, is utterly preposterous.

I am not a fan of plastic surgery for non-medical needs.

Stifler's - posted on 08/06/2012

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This is ridiculous. Getting your boobs done for no reason at that age should not be allowed unless it;s a reduction.

Rebecca - posted on 08/03/2012

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Mothers should be encouraging their children to accept natural beauty, not promoting surgery to alter their appearance to make them more "attractive." This is disgusting. I am with Dove, plastic surgery should be used for medical purposes only.

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