A question for Moms of boys concerning breasts.

Terri - posted on 08/03/2011 ( 32 moms have responded )

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My three year old son seems to be overly fascinated with breasts. He likes to look at them and touch them, then giggles. He does this A LOT. Recently he has even started carrying around and sleeping with one of his sister's Barbie's because she "has boobies". Is this normal? Should I be concerned?

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Merry - posted on 08/12/2011

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Sherri, my mil says Eric is so interested in boobs because he isn't weaned yet, but I've noticed his weaned friends are just the same! Even ones who were never nursed beyond infancy still seem curious in boobs. I think it's just that the things we try to make private kids get intrigued by :) yesterday in target Eric ran to the bra section and was poking the bras and exclaiming loudly 'how cute!' lol. Embarrassed me but I tried to be calm about it and lured him away to something else :)

Charlie - posted on 08/10/2011

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Ah well its hard not to in my case haha.

My youngest I doubt would remember being breastfed but he always snuggles right into my boobs or lays his head on top of my boobs ....its where he is comfortable and its like he will be so unsettled but the minute I grab him and he cuddles into me and lays his head on my chest he is instantly calmed , he finds comfort .

Merry - posted on 08/03/2011

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Sounds like my son, people tell me it's cuz I haven't weaned him from nursing, but there's plenty of weaned kids who love boobs too!
My husband likes it, cuz he says it's proof erics straight :)

Krista - posted on 08/03/2011

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Yep, it's normal. Embarrassing, but normal. The best thing to do is to try to remain matter-of-fact about it, and treat breasts as no more of a big deal than you do noses or feet. The more it seems "taboo" to him, the more delighted he'll be by breaking that taboo.

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TJT - posted on 08/11/2014

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Even older kids when they cuddle they have their head on their mum's chest, with babies and toddlers its usually closest part to them to put their head on and for older children its usually because it comfier to put their head on the chest than on the shoulder.
Sometimes on the belly or if lying down then maybe on the legs.

Mcklimes - posted on 12/15/2012

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Oops! Pushed post too soon.
He calls them boob boobs and asks to touch them. I read once that once boys notice your private parts it's time to stop showing them. I'm not sure how I feel about that as I want my home to be open and not a place where we need to hide. I know I'm the first woman figure in his life and I want him to feel safe to ask questions and explore. With that said, I am keeping a bit of a distance in the naked department. I feel a little uncomfortable with him trying to touch me when he sees me naked. I don't like anyone touching my breasts without permission/a reason. Im currently nursing my daughter so I share my body enough that way and just feel the need for some space sometimes.
I'm wondering what other mothers say to their boys or how they deal with this issue when it comes up. I tell my son thatI don't like it and that it's my body. He then asks, mum can I touch your boob boobs? I wonder, should I just let him? Or make that distance now.

Mcklimes - posted on 12/15/2012

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This was so reassuring to read! My 3.5 year old is obsessed with my boobs. He calls them boob

Katharine - posted on 08/12/2011

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I wanted to also say I am kind of relieved that I am not the only mother that has a son that does this, this discussion and the moms here have been way more helpful to me than my mother.

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I agree Adrienne Our breasts give them nourishment, comfort, and warmth. In my opinion Breasts and Boys go hand in hand. My boys when they cuddle with my breasts are the first thing they lay their head on and put their hands on play them.



My boys also call them squishes or softies.

Adrienne - posted on 08/12/2011

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LOL -Laura, my son went through a phase where he was fascinated by my bras. He'd try wearing them, etc. We were in Macy's one day and he ran around (he was 2) feeling the bras and giggling while we were shopping for his older sister. Luckily the sales clerk thought it was hysterical.

I don't think our kids' fascination with breasts is based on whether or not your breastfeed. It's (our chests) just a nice, soft, warm and comforting spot for so long for them. When they are born they go almost immediately onto our chest. The other day my son snuggled up with his head on my chest and told me that it makes him happy to hear my heart beat. Of course he still likes my "squishies" because they're "fun", lol.

Sylvia - posted on 08/11/2011

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I don't know that it necessarily has anything to do with being nursed. I'm not sure I know any kids IRL who didn't nurse -- my default assumption always is that to kids, boobs = nursing. But they're also sticky-outy bits that women have and men and kids don't, and therefore I suppose inherently interesting to kids ;)

Charlie - posted on 08/10/2011

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Nursing is one aspect but what about the fact that when a mother cuddles her child they are snuggled right into the breast of course it is associated with comfort and warmth reguardless of being nursed.

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I don't think it has anything to do with being nursed. It's just something kids notice. My oldest doesn't remember nursing (weaned at 11 months), but she always points out my boobs and even tries to put my bras on. The other day she was looking at a Disney princess book and said, "Cinderella has boobies!" She's noticed that she has 'little boobies like Daddy." Also, when she walks in on my husband in the bathroom, and points out his 'difference'. It's just a child being curious about his or her world.

Sylvia - posted on 08/10/2011

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I don't know if it's a boy thing -- my DD was pretty into boobs when she was three. Although that was *my* boobs, that the milk came out of, come to think; I'm not sure she was particularly into other people's.

Laressa - posted on 08/10/2011

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If it makes you feel better my 2 year old daughter also has a thing for breasts. She begs to nurse when we have been separated a few hours. She also begs to wear a bra and tries to wear mine when she helps with laundry. I think its pretty normal.

Jenn - posted on 08/10/2011

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Both of my daughters loved my breasts for a long time. They were comforting, nourishing and an important part of their lives for at least 2 years while they nursed. The love and affection lasted another couple of years. It was very sweet.

I think the affection boys have for breasts eventually morphs into a "guy's love boobs thing" but starts from a sweet, innocent connection to Mom.

Katharine - posted on 08/10/2011

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My son Austin is also three years old and when I breastfeed him he likes to take his hand and touch and squeeze my other breast, and also play with my nipple. He also likes to put his hand up my shirt and place his hand on my breasts.

Lady Heather - posted on 08/05/2011

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On the flip side, my friend told me a great story about her 3 year old daughter. These "older boys" (probably 10ish) were walking down the street and her kid just stares at them. So one of the boys says "What are you staring at?" and she says "I'm staring at YOUR PENIS!" ahahahaha.

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I wouldn't worry until he only eats chicken breasts.

Hey, boobies are soft, cuddly and they provide nourishment. Of course they're conforting.

Adrienne - posted on 08/05/2011

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Welcome to the world of having boys, LOL. The fascination will never end - it will just shift from your breasts to other's. My youngest son (he's 4) gets all excited and yells "SQUISHIES!!!" and then does a little dance and goes "I love squishies! I want to squish (poke) your squishies!" I just calmly say Yes, I know and please leave my breasts alone. Around the same age my older son saw me get out of the shower and told me he loved my nipples. Haha.

It's just a kid thing. They are after all the first source of comfort and in a lot of cases nourishment that a child gets. We used to joke about the boobs of comfort and nourishment when L was a baby. He would just snuggle on in when he was tired, upset, not feeling well - any excuse really, and in fact still wants to snuggle with his head on my chest when he's upset. Makes sense if you think about it.

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Boys like boobs- boys like round, squishy, especially soft mounds of mommy. My oldest son Asher said to me "that I have the biggest breasts in the world." I couldn't help but laugh a bit and said thank you sweetie. When I told my husband, he said "he isn't wrong"

Charlie - posted on 08/03/2011

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Yup its normal of course they are going to be fascinated by what they dont have .

Mrs. - posted on 08/03/2011

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My daughter is just as fixated on boobs, if that makes you feel better. Everytime I get out of the shower she goes, "Boobies!" She follows me and narrates everything I'm doing when dressing. When I put my bra on she says, "Bye, bye boobies." and looks all sad.

Kids like boobs, they are funny looking things after all.

Carolee - posted on 08/03/2011

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My son, who is 4 years old, will go up to you, cup your breasts, and tell you that he likes your "boo-boos". He will even try to do this in public. I just say "thank you" and tell him to "please stop touching", then go on with what I was doing. He will even point them out on pictures and dvd cases.

Merry - posted on 08/03/2011

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Yeah matt hated it that Eric loves Dora, but I say hey he thinks she's cute!

Terri - posted on 08/03/2011

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Thanks ladies! Makes me feel much better. When he first started doing it we though it was funny. But now he's SO into boobs that it's a bit disconcerting. He will come to me out of the blue and say with a serious face "Mudder, I like boobs." and walk away. LOL
It bothers my husband that he plays/sleeps with Barbie sometimes but I told my husband at least it's Barbie and not Ken. ;)

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It is very normal, and it is how my two older boys who are 6 and 3 years old are the same way.

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