A study found

Krista - posted on 05/11/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )

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So, I was listening to the radio yesterday and they were saying that a new study found that wives are most likely to cheat the day after Mother's Day. They said the study showed that women hyped Mother's Day up in their heads way too much and that the day after is such a let down that they feel completely inadequate and unappreciative.

Personally, I think this is bull. Why in the world are we offering up excuses for cheating? If you're cheating then you're unhappy in general. Don't blame it on the one day.


What does everyone else think of this?

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There is NO excuse for cheating, but I can understand why being ignored on mothers day could be the final straw for an unhappy wife. Perhaps these women have suffered years of being ignored, dealing with comments about their weight or appearance, perhaps even dealing with some kind of spousal abuse.

It's understandable that some wives might be more easily tempted if another man shows them the attention and romance they've been missing out on for years and makes them feel attractive. It's still not an excuse for cheating, but I can understand it and I feel sorry for women who have to deal with all this crap from their husbands.

Caitlin - posted on 05/13/2010

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My mothers day sucked, my husband was sick and in bed all day (though he did get me a card at least) and I had to take care of a teething toddler and the baby and the house chores, so no real difference for me, buut I wouldn't go out and cheat because of it! It may be the last straw for some, but it seems silly to me, because in my mind if he's a crappy husband all year round, and he's awesome on mothers day (or insert other holiday here), it doesn't make up for the rest of the year to me!

Suzette - posted on 05/13/2010

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I agree with Loureen. Though Dana has a point too, I think a lot of relationships, not just marriages, end after holidays because people don't want to be alone on holidays.

Charlie - posted on 05/12/2010

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Id say it would be more like the straw that broke the camels back than the actual day itself .

Dana - posted on 05/12/2010

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People wait and file for divorce after the holidays because they don't want to be alone during the holidays. Selfish, huh. lol

Dana - posted on 05/12/2010

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It sounds ridiculous, of course I'm quite happy after Mother's Day so what do I know. ;)

I would assume that some women justify cheating because Mother's Day was a miss but, I don't think women are cheating because of that reason alone.

ME - posted on 05/12/2010

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I think that making major life decisions based on a hallmark holiday is pretty lame actually. I had a lovely brunch with my family on Mother's day this year...but it wasn't much different than any other sunday...I'm sure that like others have said, a crappy mother's day cannot be the only reason for cheating..the problems already exist!

Rosie - posted on 05/11/2010

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i think it's weird, i guess i can see it happening, but i don't really see how monday of all days can be the perfect opportunity for someone to be ABLE to go out and cheat, seems like somethigns off there. i can see how that would be the straw and then sometime shortly after (not necessarily, the next day, but in the weeks after) it can happen.

Carolee - posted on 05/11/2010

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I can see how it would be the 'final blow', so to speak. But, there HAS to be something majorly wrong in your relationship if you're going to cheat on ANY day! Some people just look for excuses, and then take that as a 'green light' to do whatever they want.

Jocelyn - posted on 05/11/2010

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I wouldn't call it the only reason why women cheat; there's always an underlying issue. But I can see how it would be the the last straw for some.

Sarah - posted on 05/11/2010

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I expect that it might push some women over the edge so to speak! But then a lot of days could do that, a crap bday, a crap xmas etc.
It's not an excuse for cheating though! I think people end up cheating because of a build up of different reasons, not just because their partners were crap on one day. (if that all makes sense!) :)

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I think it could go either way. My Mother's Day pretty much sucked, but my marriage is great in general. My husband is thoughtful and sweet and is a wonderful daddy. So just because he forgot Mother's Day doesn't mean I'm going to cheat on him because the rest of the year I couldn't ask for a better husband.

But if your marriage is crappy to begin with, a crappy Mother's Day could be the straw that broke the camel's back.

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