Addiction

Iris - posted on 01/23/2011 ( 13 moms have responded )

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Many people have some kind of addiction. Drugs and alcohol, being probably the most talked about addictions and then food, sex, love etc.
What are your thoughts about addiction. Is it people being weak? Is it a trauma that can trigger addiction? Is it a disease? Do you feel that addicts need professional help or should they get out of their "self pity"? Is it more of a concern that they are ruining their family or that they are slowly killing themselves?

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Sara - posted on 01/23/2011

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Addiction is not a character flaw, I do believe it is a disease. But I think it's unfair to consider an addiction to one thing a disease, but addiction to something else is not? NO matter what you are addicted to, you have a physiological response to it. Food, love, sex, shopping...all of that triggers physiological responses in the body just as much as alcohol, crack or nicotine. So I think if you believe that an addicton to one thing is a disease, then addiction to all things is a disease.

And I absolutely think that most addiction is the result of people self-medicating for an underlying problem.

Nicole - posted on 01/23/2011

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My dad was an alcoholic and a University professor. His first day of work in a new university he showed up to work drunk, got fired. He then had a big fight with his best friend, walked into the road and got hit by a car. He died on the spot.

The consequences of alcohol are very serious and most of my friends in university drink like fishes. One of my best friends had her masters in psychology and because she was so triggered by her work, she self medicated with alcohol everynight to the point of blacking out, then got up, went to work and school again the next day.

I think that alcohol and drugs are often used to self medicate, especially for people with mental illnesses/who have experienced past trauma

Joanna - posted on 01/23/2011

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I think some people can get Over their addictions by themselves, but most need professional help.

I had a shopping addiction after my daughter was born 3 years ago. I had severe post partum depression, and it's how I coped. Finally after a year I started seeing a therapist for my problem. It still is a problem, but she helped me find my triggers and ways to help calm myself before shopping.

Sharon - posted on 01/23/2011

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What are your thoughts about addiction.

Is it people being weak?

No. Addiction happens.

Is it a trauma that can trigger addiction?

Can a trama trigger addiction? I'm not sure what this question means but I think, yes. Death of a loved one can trigger addiction. Hiding from the pain in alcohol or other drugs. A bad accident can lead to an addiction to painkillers.

Is it a disease?

I think of disease as something you catch. I guess in the strict definition of an addiction, it is.

Do you feel that addicts need professional help or should they get out of their "self pity"?

They need professional help. They need to get out of their self pity. Both. If they don't let go of their self pity, they won't get professional help.

Is it more of a concern that they are ruining their family or that they are slowly killing themselves?

It depends. Do they have a family? If so, then the children are more important than they are, however, without caring for themselves they can't care for their kids.

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Oh and yes I am addicted to Mountain Dew (soda, pop whatever you want to call it) and I DON'T plan on stopping. I have cut back to half of what I used to drink but I am not giving it up. Bite me, it is the one thing I can afford for me that my kids don't get a part of. :)

Sharon - posted on 01/23/2011

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Tara - I had to give you a funny 'cause i giggled at the simple "edited to add stuff" I dunno why, just made me giggle.

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People being weak in my opinion. I am "addicted" to food. However, I don't want to be fat anymore so I stopped eating so darn much. It has no bearing on my enjoyment of food except that I enjoy WHAT and HOW MUCH I eat more now that I am not eating as much. I have started portion controlling myself and I am now over 40lbs lighter than I was 4 months ago. :) I plan on continuing and losing at least another 100 if possible but will be happy when I am a healthy weight. :)

Rosie - posted on 01/23/2011

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addiction is a disease. they need professional help.
my bio-dad was an alcoholic (hes dead because of it), and my sister is an alcoholic. his alcholism tore apart his life over and over again, and he left a path of destruction that cause some of his 8 kids to speak at his funeral about how much of a piece of shit he is. it affects EVERYBODY around you.
my sister won't get help, because she's "not that bad" and she doesn't drink all the time. she's used and abused us (her family and friends) for years, and i personally enabled her the most i think. she anbd her fiance broke up about 4 years ago, and she just went mad afterwards. she lost custody of all 3 of her kids and since they have different dads they got split up. they're lucky if they see courtney (her middle daughter) once a year. she's gotten multiple OWI's, lost many jobs because of her drinking, lost her kids, lost her family (we havn't spoken in 4 years) and she still doesn't think she needs help. it's all US not doing enough for her. poor poor kristi. we talked about 6 months after the whole thing happened and she said she's changed and wants a chance, i said ok, but you can't be drinking at all. she said that's not going to happen. every picture on her facebook is of her with a beer in her hand or at a bar, or party. none of her kids. she won't change and i don't know how to get her to. i'd love to have my sister back, but she won't give it up. for her i can't enable her like i used to (i'd watch her kids so she could party till noon, or cover up her owi's, or start her car with a breathalyser on it, or loan her money that she would repay me in food stamps (that she lied on her application to get). i can't do it anymore. i know she'll find other ways and other people to use, but i won't be a part of it anymore. plus, it hurts ME.

Tara - posted on 01/23/2011

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I agree alcoholism is a disease of the body and the mind. It is physiological in its nature unlike an addiction to sex or shopping etc.
I also believe that some sort of emotional issue is present in about 95% of of addicts, whether it plays a large or small role in the start of their addiction or not. But I also believe that we are accountable for ourselves and we can not rely on past negatives to excuse how we deal with those experiences. Not everyone who suffers trauma or abuse etc. will be an addict.
As well their is a lot of conjecture about addiction being hereditary and that many people are pre-disposed to being addicted to something in their life time.

Tara - posted on 01/23/2011

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I agree alcoholism is a disease of the body and the mind. It is physiological in its nature unlike an addiction to sex or shopping etc.

I also believe that some sort of emotional issue is present in about 95% of of addicts, whether it plays a large or small role in the start of their addiction or not. But I also believe that we are accountable for ourselves and we can not rely on past negatives to excuse how we deal with those experiences. Not everyone who suffers trauma or abuse etc. will be an addict.

As well there is a lot of conjecture about addiction being hereditary and that many people are pre-disposed to being addicted to something in their life time.



And like Katherine said there is a link between brain chemistry and alcoholism, I also think there is a neuro-chemical response taking place in people addicted sex etc. they actually do get a release of feel good chemicals, now whether that is because of the addiction or because they are substituting their addiction for some other experience that would have similar results etc.



Way to go Katherine!!



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Katherine - posted on 01/23/2011

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Being a recovering alcoholic, going through rehab, going through intensive out-patient and AA meetings, I have learned it's NOT my fault but truly a disease. They have actually done studies that it is indeed a chemical that is triggered in the brain by alcohol. http://www.jointogether.org/news/researc... That leads to alcoholism.
Now that being said, does that mean I am not accountable for my actions? No. I chose to pick up and started the whirlwind and roller coaster. Every action still had a reaction and it STILL applies to addicts.
I don't believe it's mind over matter. I think trauma CAN trigger addiction as well as genetics and the above mentioned chemical imbalance.
There is also a study in behavior modification to TRAIN yourself to drink in moderation. I personally don't believe in it.
No self pity here, I have almost 5 years Yay me!!
Although it does make you feel pretty crappy when you WANT to stop and you can't. Or when everyone around you says you need help but you don't think you do.
It IS a monster and it is soul sucking, but if you get the help you need to stay clean anything is possible.

Tara - posted on 01/23/2011

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Is it people being weak? No.

Is it a trauma that can trigger addiction?
Yes it "can" but not always.
Is it a disease? Yes it is a disease, of the mind.

Do you feel that addicts need professional help or should they get out of their "self pity" I think some need professional help and I think some can stop without it.

Is it more of a concern that they are ruining their family or that they are slowly killing themselves? Both. It would concern me more if someone were killing themselves and had a family that had to watch, than it would if it were someone single without a family.

Addiction is a monster. It can steal into someone's life without their knowledge, set up house in their body, soul and mind and proceed to tear apart everything they hold dear.
Addicts don't set out in life to be addicts. Something leads them to it. Whether it is peer pressure, emotional pain, physical pain or ignorance. I don't think anyone chooses to be an addict.
I do however believe that certain addictions are hereditary and that some people are more pre-disposed to have addictive personalities. BUT that doesn't mean they are going to be addicted, oftentimes some other life event leads them to a drug etc. and they become addicted more easily than some other people would have.

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