Alcoholic Mum has refused a liver transplant is she a saint or a sinner!

Louise - posted on 01/28/2011 ( 9 moms have responded )

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A middle aged woman who is a recovering alcoholic needs a liver transplant desperately to survive. The woman has declined the op as she says it is her own fault. Her adult children are mortified and want her to have it done. Is she right to say no as in away it is her own fault. Or is she being selfish and not accepting her childrens wishes. I am sure there are plenty of people that do need a liver transplant that has not abused their liver. What do you think should she be offered a liver and should she take it?

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Desiree - posted on 01/28/2011

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Actually there has got to be something to be said about some one who accepts responsibilty for their own actions. Who is anyone to say she is being selfish, Her kids are grown up they can look after themselves. Its her life not theirs would we be having the debate if this was a religious question?

April - posted on 01/28/2011

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I don't think she should get the liver if she signs something saying that she didn't want it. I am afraid she'd abuse the new liver too. I'd rather see the liver go to someone who can live a full life and appreciate the amazing gift that someone gave him/her.

Sharon - posted on 01/28/2011

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She's an alocoholic.

She's been self medicating for years.

She's probably been offered assistance, taken it and failed or just didn't care enough to try.

This is HER decision. Bless her for passing on the liver and possibly allowing someone more worthy to live. Yeah I made that judgement call... she's not as worthy as someone else who fights their addictions... its not much of a distinction but one that has to be made.

Now, if a liver should come available, its perfect for her but it can't be gotten to someone else in time, I'd hope she'd take it and see it for the miracle it is.

Caitlin - posted on 01/28/2011

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She should be allowed to decide, though it's almost like commiting suicide. Her kids are adults, and should have no say in the matter. I wouldn't call her a saint or a sinner though..

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Stifler's - posted on 01/28/2011

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How old are the kids? If they're young who will look after them when she dies? If not then it's her choice to not take it and she should be allowed to do what she likes.

Louise - posted on 01/28/2011

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I agree 100% Amanda! I think it is a no win situation for this women. She does not want to stop somebody who is seriously sick through no fault of there own to go without, and she does not want to upset her kids who are desperately sad. This woman has got some serious decisions to make. I hope she finds peace whatever she decides.

Amanda - posted on 01/28/2011

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like most have already stated, her body her decision! she absolutely has the right to refuse the liver transplant and her children should respect her wishes. perhaps she wouldnt be able to live with herself if she accepted a liver transplant with the thought that someone else who deserved it more might have died because she took it.

Tracey - posted on 01/28/2011

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It's her body and her life so she should be able to make any decision regarding this.

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