am I overacting

Hannah - posted on 05/18/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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i have 3 kids my oldest two are boys with a different father but has been around since the youngest father since i was pregnant with the second one so he really like all there dad. he started dating his girl three months ago she only 20 and has a bad habit of posting picture of my kids and calling them her family which i found kinda strange.But then things got really weird a couple of weeks ago. I was planning on taking my kids to see the movie the Avengers Saturday for opening weekend requested the night off from work and the old nine yards weeks ago. well the Thursday before (kids were at grandma house) he calls me at 1130 pm tell me he has something very important to tell me and ask me to meet him at the Walmart parking lot. Curious cause we really don't talk that much i decided to see what was wrong . he lied to me about having cancer .then he asked if he can go to the drive in with me and the kids. I said that sure be fine since i just found out my boyfriends was working overnight and it would nice to have help with the kids. so when saturday rolled around i call him after work told him i was on my way. he told me that i couldn't go cause his girlfriend was with him and his friends (they were already in the drive in) and it would be awkward if i showed up. I was very up at first then decided to go anyway. my younger son sat with me and told me that his dad gf told him that he would have been better off living in the wood being raised by wolves then living with me! Needless to say I was very upset. so i said something to their father about this also mentioning i really didn't want her around the children anymore. after this found out he put her on my kids pick up list from the school IDK how since he not even one of their real father. then yesterday my oldest had a trip to the zoo that he need someone to take him to (hes not allow on buses) I ask him who he want to take him and he said his dad. so a couple of days before the trip he said he didn't have the money to get into the zoo i said well if you don't want to take him let me know cause i really want to. then i gave him 10 bucks to get into the zoo cause he said he really wanted to. but of course that didn't happen his gf wanted to go since her nephew in the same grade and same school as my son so i basically paid for her to ditch my kid and hang out with her nephew.i was even more upset by this repeated mistrust and decide to pick my kids up and inform them that i was no longer letting them watch my children cause i didn't feel comfortable about the situation anymore but by the time i got there to pick them up their dad told them that i was taking them away and i will never let him see them ever again and his girl friend reassured my kids that she was going to marry him and be there new mom so they didn't have to put of with me.also a couple of days before this they told my kids that i didn't want them any more( my car broke down so i had them stay with them since i wasn't able to drive them back and forth from school for a couple of days)i also bought them food to keep at their house 150 dollars worth since they watch them alot while i was at work the day before and they refuse to give it back to me so now i have to borrow money from my mom to feed my kids since they stole my childrens food. He accused me of being jealous and over reacting but i think this whole situation is just plain weird and disrespectful towards me I actually dont want this woman around my kids so much that i ended up quiting the best job i ever had. Am I over reacting?

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/19/2012

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Then he only needs visitation rights with him. If you haven't done so already, get some legal advice about this, and stop giving money to this man. Do not even send your son with money.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/19/2012

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I think you are in a very weird situation. No offense. So, I am a bit confused, is this guy a bio father to any of your kids?

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